Got It all but I'm still not happy?

Question

This has been niggling at me lately, I have my own business, a beautiful wife who I love, no money worries, I drive a Sportscar and have a really nice house in a nice place. I genuinely don't have worry about much at all other than the day to day stress of being the MD which I've always thought I coped with very well.

But of late, I just seem to be miserable all the damn time, what can be causing this? I'm only 27 so I can't be having a mid life crisis yet surely?!?!?

A little extra information to some of the earliy responses. Thanks.

God is a no no. I'm very much of the opinion that physics is what makes things happen, not the big man upstairs. But please, thats no critisicm on you, just not my cup of tea.

I have 7 nephews and nieces who are always at my house so kids have never been a big issue, I kinda feel like I have 7 already! I take them out a lot and treat them to stuff, but I have a bit of a "work hard - play hard" attitude with them. They all do jobs for me to earn some pocket money.

Someone said about having an easy success, far from it, grew up on the bread line, so I really do appreciate what I've got.
I know money doesn't buy happiness, but I know lack of money gives nothing but misery.

I've just read some more responses, I'm not a Physician! When I say MD i mean Managing Director, sorry! I own an engineering & design company.

Can people please stop trying to convert me. Thanks.

Answer 1

You are a doctor, so it should be clear what is wrong...you are depressed. It may be precisely because you do have "it all" at 27 and now your subconscious is asking, okay, what now. Many people do not realize that lack of stress can actually cause stress and depression, a strange twist but happens all too often.

I do not think its mid life crisis, but possible life crisis. You know what you need to do. There are therapists who treat professionals, find the one nearest you and go talk this out.
GBU

Answer 2

I agree with the others. Money can not buy happiness only the bother of not having to worry about things concerning money. When your in a bad place that can be good but when in a good place you need more things that are rich in life to fill yours. Family, and love. Kindness and charity. If I were you I would focus less on that car and start thinking about a child or if your not ready, which I understand Im not either (26) then get out and make a difference in REAL people's lives. Look at the people who work for you maybe they are in real need. Or maybe your community could really use a clean up. When we help an other person smile and make them truly happy we feel better in side. (Just so you know the reason I mentioned your workers is this: I work for a couple who have it all. Same things you explained but they dont help me out. And I live in low income housing and need money badly, I am just barely getting by on what I make.) Some times giving back can make you feel great. I would start there and as others mentioned, God. If you dont believe then try another higher power or something with real meaning. I know what its like to be in the dumps, I have to admit my problems are more with money but when they are not I feel even worse than just stressed. Depression can be hard, good luck.

Answer 3

You are awfully young to have achieved such success. Is it possible that you didn't have to work hard enough for what you've achieved? Is it possible that you haven't gone through enough hard times to appreciate the good times?

Depression is a possibilty. Since you are a physician, get a copy of the DSM IV and diagnose yourself. If you think it's a serious depression problem, seek professional help--just as you would advise a patient to do.

Another possibility is that there are issues from your childhood that you have never dealt with, such as abuse or living in a broken or alcoholic home. These things often surface as we mature. For this, too, I would recommend professional help, from a licensed professional counselor or psychologist.

All the things you mention are surface things...job, car, house, even wife. What is going on in the inside of you? What part of you is being starved, what part of you needs to be fed? How well do you know and like the inside you? Are you living honestly and congruently with the inside you?

I prescribe a trip overseas to a country such as Russia, Bulgaria, China, India, the Philippines. I have found that seeing how people in such parts of the world live gives me a new appreciation for the life I have. Perhaps you could go and offer your medical services gratis through an organization. There are many places that need such services.

God bless you and good luck. I applaud you for asking this kind of question.

Answer 4

You gotta do what makes you happy. If that means traveling, playing sports, doing your favorite hobby or just enjoying booze or partying then you have to go for it. And if the wife is the problem or if she doesn't support your lifestyle then she needs to go. You sound like a Type A personality just like most other Americans, but we all need to learn to slow it down a little. Spend some time in the Carribean and you'll start to notice yourself slowing down to their pace. As an MD you should know the importance of living with as little stress as possible..You've heard it a million times but I'll say it again...you only live once! Not every person gets their kicks "spending time with the elderly".
As an extra bonus I'll leave you with a quote, "I spent a lot of my money on booze (alcohol), birds (women) and fast cars. The rest I just squandered." George Best, soccer superstar, dead at 59.

Answer 5

You know what your problem is? You need your *** kicked in. What a bunch of self serving crap! Think about people with some real problems. like not having a car. having a loved one dying before their eyes. homeless, divorced, suicidal,etc.

I was in a car accident two months ago and the insurance company totaled my car. I lost my job because my credit sucks and i cant get another one and i would kill to be in your position. Get your mind off yourself why dont you? Do something for others that are not as fortunate as you and maybe you will quit whining and learn to appreciate what you DO HAVE. moron.

Especially during the holidays you should consider yourself lucky as hell. Some cant even afford gifts for their children this time of year. Thats pain buddy.

Answer 6

You are not having an early midlife crisis, no worries. What I believe you must do is reassess your goals. You seem to be measuring life as if it were a checklist, to check off what you have obtained (no matter how much you do appreciate the value of each). Everything is relative, so do not be hard on yourself because you are unfulfilled with everything you have, focus more on the source of your unhappiness and do not cloud it with what you know it is not, i.e., your success in your workplace. Try placing new goals for yourself to obtain for the rest of your long life. Whether it be deepening relationships with your family or taking up a hobby that you have always wished to. Understand that you must not wait for life to happen to you for you to feel fulfilled, and that you are in a place in your life where you are forced to soul search because you are fortunate enough to be have obtained everything you wanted in all the other superficial areas in your life.

Good luck and my blessings.

Answer 7

hmmm

you might want to have kids now that you are settled. the joy of kids will make you really happy. perhaps even try taking some time off and go on a long vacation with your wife. perhaps if something like going jogging makes u happy then do that. do whatever makes u happy. for example just watching tv. or just bumming at home for one day. do whatever it takes try it out. it might give u temporary relief.

Lastly, ask yourself what is really bothering you? Often ppl who got everything but still are not happy usually have something that is bothering them. It could be something personal or something really small. You will have to figure it out.

Goodluck.

Answer 8

You really have NOTHING of Value Sir.
"God is a no no. I'm very much of the opinion that physics is what makes things happen, not the big man upstairs. But please, thats no critisicm on you, just not my cup of tea."
You are correct about the above statement but there is a concept called "Source" of Life/Light (physics) which you need to return to if you really wish to experience the ALL!!!
By 'standing under' you will 'understand' who you really are! Then you will be whole, complete!

Answer 9

Early mid-life crisis?
Just try to remember that money cannot buy love (thank you Beatles).Does your wife love you back?I hope so.
I recently felt down,then went to volunteer at a soup kitchen.These people have NOTHING,and yet many have smiles on their faces and an attitude that 'This,too,shall pass...'
I hope you'll be feeling better soon:)

Answer 10

You have money and a good quality of life. You own your own business so have job security, you can't be fired. And if you have good health that's a blessing because you can work and enjoy life.
Another blessing is your beautiful wife. Not all of us have someone that we can count on when times are hard.