my son refuses to sleep in his bed at night iv tried all the tricks in the book all the routines nothing is working he hasnt ever slept all night he always wakes up in the night most of the time crying he refuses to go back into his bed and i always give in to him as i have a 10 month old daughter who sleeps in his room and he wakes her up, its ruined mine and my partners relationship as he is up til late and then ends up in our bed please if any1 has had a similar thing let me know how wot to do
2006-12-12 01:12:22 · 10 answers · asked by n_snook_2000 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
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2006-12-12 03:19:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think part of the issue is having to share a room. It can mess with a child's routines if another child is sleeping nearby or waking up also. You may have had to move him out of his crib too early, and that might have caused some of the problems as well.
Something I've tried in daycare is when he gets up, to put him right back in bed, and tell him "go to sleep" and only say that once.
After that, every time he gets up, just put him back in bed without saying a word. You'll have to spend one night just doing this, but it usually works after one day, or at least gets better, and you only have to put them back in their bed once or twice the following night or two.
You can't let your toddler rule the house. I think it's really important for you to lay down the law now, and your partner needs to be on your side with this as well, and it sounds like they're already sick of the sleep situation. The best thing you can do for your child is to get tough on this situation, otherwise, he is going to take advantage of you... Kids are smart, and they know how to play us. Two year olds are a lot smarter than we give them credit for!
2006-12-12 01:39:51 · answer #2 · answered by abi1kenabi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar problem with my son. Is there some way you could have your daughter sleep in another room or your room for a little while? If he is in crib it would be easier, but even if he is not you can use a baby gate to keep him in his room. Put him to bed at the time you want bed time to be. Leave him there starting at 10 minutes, then go in but dont take him out of bed. Be in there 10 minutes then go back out. Do that for a couple days then increase the time after a couple days. And just keep increasing it. And eventually he should go to bed with less problems. It is hard as a parent to listen to them screamming and crying, but it gets easier. It took us about a week in a half to get our son to sleep in his own bed. HOPE IT HELPS
2006-12-12 01:44:09 · answer #3 · answered by greeber2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we are basically in the same situation, our son is doing better than he used to, but he does wake up crying and I have to sit with him until he goes back to sleep. We did find out that my son has a sleep dysfunction though, so we have to give him something natural to help him sleep. Otherwise he would be WIDE awake until about 2am, and that was without a nap! If he got a nap, he never slept. If you have gotten him a big boy bed, try making it inviting, we are going to do his in all Thomas the Tank, hoping that he will lay down in his bed to go to sleep instead of falling asleep on the couch every night and one of us carrying him to bed. But we have come a long way from where we used to be, it has been such a slow process.
Just ease him into it, that seems to be the best method for us. But I think it helps if his bed is full of things he loves!
2006-12-12 01:21:39 · answer #4 · answered by Shayna B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a lot of patience. Move your 10-month-old into your room or another room of the house. Tell your 2-year-old to go to bed. Put up a baby gate. Let him cry it out for 10-15 minutes. Go back in, lay him down, and gently tell him "It's time for bed." You may have to repeat this all night long, but it is necessary that you do so. You're not just doing this for yourself, you're doing this for him.
2006-12-12 02:45:27 · answer #5 · answered by herefordsun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make him go to his bed. My daughter tried to do this kind of thing. Your going to have to move the baby's crib into another room for a few days but it will be worth it. Every time he gets out of bed put him back in it. Don't let him see you get mad just stick him back in bed. He'll scream and kick and fight but just stick to it! If you keep giving in he's always going to walk all over you. This is what I did and now my daughter is 5 and every night at 8pm she's in bed and sound asleep by 8:30. Good luck and just stick to your guns!
2006-12-12 01:25:59 · answer #6 · answered by jenpoesavon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could you maybe put the 10 month old in another room temporaraly even if he has to go in the living room you need to adress this issue the right way and I believe the right was is to put your child to bed and if he gets up continue to keep putting him back to bed he needs to learn that you are not going to tend to his every needs after a few days maybe a week his sleeeping patterns should change for the better and everyone will get some better sleeep and then you can move the baby back into the room
2006-12-12 06:42:30 · answer #7 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, didn't you know this was going to happen? You should have never let him sleep with you in the first place! And a 2 yr old refusing to do something...you are going to have fun with this one when he is a teenager! Put him in his bed, put a baby gate up and maybe put a small cot in your room (not in your bed) for the 10 month old to sleep on till he starts sleeping all night. When he gets up, simply walk to his room, pick him up and put him back in bed and tell him to stay there!
2006-12-12 04:55:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
you should call super nanny. my mom said when i was younger (around one) i wouldn't sleep all night and would cry. so one night she just let me cry all night long, and i did, until dawn but after that i just went to sleep with no problem. maybe one night or two (on the weekend when you can afford to stay awake all night) take your 10 month old out of the room and just leave your other kid in there. let him cry, i promise it won't kill him
2006-12-12 01:22:38 · answer #9 · answered by somebody's a mom!! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate tp be the bearer of bad news, but neither did my 2 children until they were at least 4, and now my granddaughter has the same problem...must run in our family!!! lol
2006-12-12 01:21:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋