How would you go about this? I mean, it's kinda flattering and all but it's getting a little obsessive. He is constantly talking about my bf, who I have been with for almost 6 yrs now. I just recently became friends with him, about 6 or 7 months ago and he met my bf a lil over a month ago and he just cant quit talking about him. I know my man is fine but damn...he also aint gay, lol. I don't want to be a ***** about it and it's not like I'm at all worried but like I said it is just getting a little weird...him actually telling me he is crushing on my man something serious is a little uncalled for. If he were a chick I would of smacked him already..I don't stand for that stuff but since he's a guy and I know my man don't swing that way, I find it may be unnecessary for me to say anything. Should I be like..."I know you are crushing and its cute an all but Im over it and if your gonna crush..do it on your own time..i dont need to know about it" or is that mean?
2006-12-12 01:03:00 · 14 answers · asked by SexyMommy2B 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm gay myself and I have "crushed" on straight men before.
It is kind of flattering that he told you how hot your man is. But obsessing over it is disrespectful to you.
Just tell him you're flattered but enough is enough and to please keep it to himself.
I don't think you'd being mean about it.
If he's your friend he'll understand.
2006-12-12 02:54:14 · answer #1 · answered by mrspunkmeister2u 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry to much about it. You said it yourself - your man don't swing that way. Who cares if you gay friend is crushing on your bf, take it as a compliment to your impeccable taste in men and move on.
2006-12-12 09:14:10 · answer #2 · answered by venus13 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you can casually talk about this the next time he talks about your BF i.e. too bad he with me you know and let me see if he got a brother or friends that he can introduce to you......so it will sound like a joke.
And if he still dont get it, I think you need to talk to this guys and tell him, seriously its getting weird hearing a man talking about how much he likes your man...dont you think. You need to foot your foot down, girl.
Good luck.
2006-12-12 09:07:06 · answer #3 · answered by Rosy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question here... :c)
You have little to fear if your b/f is heterosexual. Feel free to tell your homosexual friend that you'd feel more comfortable if he kept his crushes to himself (and don't be afraid to say that you might start to see him as "competition"). It'll likely get him to back off a little or be more discrete about it.
If it does not abate then you may want to have a 3-way chat about it.
2006-12-12 09:08:50 · answer #4 · answered by shadow_cup 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my gay friend has a crush on my husband too but i'm ok with that i'm the one he is with and i know he is totally straight maybe tell him your boyfriend feels really weird and it would be best not to talk about the crush or he may ask you to stop being his friend ..otherwise just keep on being flattered !!
2006-12-12 09:07:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell your friend that you don't want to or need to hear all this, it's not mean to tell someone who is suppose to be your friend how you feel, and if your positive your boyfriend is not gay, then you have nothing to be worried or upset about.
2006-12-12 09:08:32 · answer #6 · answered by Lauren 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then his not your friend and your bf needs to let him know were he stands with him, if his not gay... If he doesn't listen slap him around, just joking... The gay dude must respect your dude and your feelings. Good Luck.
2006-12-12 09:07:00 · answer #7 · answered by confussie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit ur friend down and tell him that all that talk is making u a bit uncomfortable..and since ur bf isn't gay, that its bordering on the obssesive..ifi he doesn't quit, i think u may only find peace by gently telling him that you cannot continue to be friends..maybe he'll get the message...hope this helps!!
2006-12-12 09:09:08 · answer #8 · answered by onetwothree 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MAN!! thats some CRAP
Well if your man aint gay you have nuttin to worry bout !!
juss tell him like it is...... that hes bein a little obsessive and he never has a chance with your b/f because your b/f isnt gay!!
2006-12-12 09:07:04 · answer #9 · answered by Tay* 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
what difference does it make if it's a guy? Tell him to rack off. If it was some chick that you knew your man wasn't attracted to, you'd still tell her to leave off so tell the dude to also
2006-12-12 09:08:05 · answer #10 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋