What do you do when your mother insists that you're living life carelessly, not being realistic, and not planning for the future? However, I know what I want to do, I just don't normally tell her because whenever I do she wants me to do something else or expands on the plans. I know the whole speal about "your life is your own so live it" but, I hate this whole thing of always arguing with her. Our relationship is already stressed because I think she's wrong with how she's raising my siblings and staying married to my dad and she knows it but, I don't think we should let that be continually the point of conversation between us. I just don't know what to do at this point.
2006-12-12 00:52:53 · 3 answers · asked by Fun2010 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She is doing what mothers were put here to do , which is to defend you against (Murphy's Law),which means(what can happen ...will). So take her advice with a grain of salt., while looking out for your best interest Moms sometimes get alittle overbearing , but I don't think they mean any harm ,99% of what they to do is to help you ,and all of it is done out of love. Try to steer the conversation away from your life goals when spending time with her, ask her about herself and how "she " is doing to keep her mind off what your'e up to. That way you guys can enjoy each other's company better when you're together. If she thinks she's doing the right thing staying with your Dad it'll be hell to pay trying to talk her into leaving , You sound very well taken care of , I think your siblings will be ok. J ust spend as much time as you can with them ,in case they need you.
2006-12-12 01:14:15 · answer #1 · answered by CLAIRE KC1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a mom of 20 yr and 17yr girls and all I ever wanted for them is not to make mistakes that can affect their future. I have the benifit of past experience that they don't have but they don't see that when I try to help them. I know it comes accross as nagging and it sometimes leads to arguments. Know that your mom is just wanting the best for you but sometimes we don't see the mistakes we are ourseles are making at the same time. I would suggest that when you are both calm, declare that certain topics are off limits for disscusion. Agree to disagree. Tell her that the only way for you to gain experience is to make your own mistakes. Good luck to you
2006-12-12 09:04:02 · answer #2 · answered by LQQK2U 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in past experince i think you need some space between yourself and your mum so she can see that yu are sensible enough to live your own life and you wont waste it. if you are old enough then maybe you could think about getting your own place, dont cut all ties with your mum just putting a bit of space between you might do you both the world of good.
2006-12-12 08:56:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋