My bf of 5 months just cheated on me the other day with a person that he has know for years. He told me that he would never cheat on me but it happened anyways. The day after i figured it out he broke up with me but told to me stay at his house. Ever since then he has been really upset.All he does is sleep and stay in his room. He is usually talking and hanging out with everybody but now hes not himself. He told me how he still cares about me and we might have a chance to be together. I have forgiven him for what he did because everyone makes mistakes, so have i. I kissed his brother awhile ago and i regret it everyday. I know he did a worse thing than i did but i still care about him and love him. I want to try to get back together with him really bad because i just miss him even if hes in the same room with me and i love him sooo much. I just need help trying to figure out whether it would be better if i stayed or left him. Help me please....
2006-12-12 00:52:03 · 28 answers · asked by peaches17774 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is it really that difficult to figure out what you should do? If all you need is love, then stay. If you need a rewarding and healthy relationship with a guy who won't cheat on you, then leave.
You already know the consequences of staying since he cheated on you while you were together. Will he do it again? Sure, why not? You were together for 5 months not 50 years. If he can't stay committed for 5 measly months then you know what will happen in 2 years. First you'll be the weepy girlfriend, then the long-suffering girlfriend, followed by the slept with his brother girlfriend and last but not least the trashed his car ex-girlfriend.
Save yourself the drama and be the girlfriend he cheated on but moved on to a great and brighter future.
2006-12-12 01:01:10 · answer #1 · answered by Brianna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person that cheats, will tend to cheat again...it's not a mistake but something he decided to do. It's weird to know that after he broke off with u, he still cld ask u to stay and u did! Weird! You only dated him for 5 months and he already cheated on u, do u think it will last if u continue being with him? Don't think u know what love is all about yet...try to go out n have fun, maybe u might another guy u like...who knows? It's cos ur with him everyday u won't have a chance to meet a better guy...try that out...move out n get on with ya life...it's just 5 months anyways!
2006-12-12 00:58:31 · answer #2 · answered by DooGie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not every one is perfect ...it happens and its really hard to avoid it..men have a hard time setteling down when there under 30 yrs old ....this is only what i can tell....if you really love him stay but set some ground rules if you dont trust him ..make him earn your trust back...but if you still trust him and the love is still there then stay....look at it like this if you leave he might not get any better .....and your going to worry about him ..then you might start out the same way he did....sad and unhappy.....this is comeing from a 17 1/2 yr old guy.....im 17 almost 18 so i have a good insight to the mans mind........
2006-12-12 01:08:15 · answer #3 · answered by vincent17092003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay,my now ex-boyfriend did the same thing to me. I was having the same delima about the situation. What you should do is say something along the lines of, "I want to be with you still.I'm not mad at you,just hurt. I do forgive you but I just need some time to think about if I should chance it again."
Don't talk to him for about a week or until you've made up your mind. Let him realize he has commited a crime and hopefully he won't make the same mistake twice.
If he does,dump him quicker than Bush saying something stupid.
2006-12-12 00:58:54 · answer #4 · answered by Tea Fah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"He told me how he still cares about me and we might have a chance to be together."
It sounds like you're leaving the decision up to him. He's the one who cheated! Why are you sitting around worrying about him? Do yourself a favor and GO! In regards to you kissing his brother, two wrongs don't make a right. Next time someone cheats on you, just cut them loose.
2006-12-12 00:59:13 · answer #5 · answered by ♪ ♫Jin_Jur♫ ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would go! if u really love him as much as u say u do then i would simply as k him why he did it and dont take "i dont know" or anything like that as an answer because he does seem real depressed. me and my bf got in a real bad fight one day and things were said and he told me to leaveand so i started to and he just ran and got down on his knees and wrapped his arms around me and said he was so sorry and asked me to stay, and we are still together. so i mean he seems very sorry for his mistakes and u kissing his bro is not good! lol. but i woud leave, cheating on a person you love is unforgivable in my book, but its up to you.
2006-12-12 00:58:13 · answer #6 · answered by ~*cRaCkNeSs*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, I read you statement today because I am having relationship problems too. But I think that you should know in you heart what you want. You should look in you heart and soul and ask yourself if you think that he is going to change or if he is willing to go to counseling with you to get past the problems that you are having. I think that if he is not willing to meet you half way I would think that you are in the relationship by yourself. So you really need to talk to him and see what is his point of view. I hope that what I said will help you to understand where you stand in your relationship. Bye Bye
2006-12-12 01:24:27 · answer #7 · answered by Angel S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually if they are comfortable enough to cheat the first time and you get cool with the idea and start begging him, I can almost guarantee you that he will cheat again because you are comfortable with the idea. Leave his behind and move on, your prince charming is out there, do not settle for seconds.
2006-12-12 00:57:09 · answer #8 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first,you have to ask yourself this question.....do you still in love with him?i always think the right way of showing love to someone is be being at their side when he/she in trouble.He told you that he still care of you,but sorry to say,it doesn't mean that he still love you..i can say that too to my friends,i still care about you.If you still love him and you don't want to loose him,try to get his heart back.The matter if you stayed or left is depend on how much you still love him..maybe he need time to accept everything......i think you should stay for a little while.If thing are still the same,then you can choose to leave him coz you have try...
2006-12-12 01:02:08 · answer #9 · answered by 'popcornz' 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you too are going to gt back togeather you both dont just have to forgive, you have to forget too! if you two go backout you cant keep on bringing that sittuation out all the time during arguments to get back at him because even if HE cheated, YOU made out with his BROTHER! You dont do that! accident or not!!!! Think about it! in my thoughts you messed up more than he did! but like i said, if you feel alot for him and dont want to leave him then learn to forget about the past and try to live in the present! because it already happened and nothing cann change the past! its life
Just go on with the present and look toward the future!!
2006-12-12 01:01:38 · answer #10 · answered by *(¯`ξŔ1₭4´¯) Ł4 (¯`₮Ř4V1ξ§4´¯)* 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋