i went to a FCA fundraiser thing to help raise money for the poor people who might not have a christmas, and when i got back, my parents were mad at me because i didn't call them, but we don't have a house phone and they took all the cell phones w/them for some odd reason. now they said i can't go back to church, and then they called everybody in my church a dumb***. what do you think i should do? should i move to fayetteville w/my dad or should i stay here.
2006-12-12 00:50:39 · 10 answers · asked by Brown 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
NO...it is NOT right for any parent to use church as a form of discipline or gift for right doing.
However,it doesn't sound like it is a disciplinary issue...only having one side of the story,sounds to me like YOU are the religious factor in your home.Your parents don't seem to be religious...at least not from this side of the story...that is their choice,just like it is YOUR choice to be.
As for should you move?????? That is a decision only you can make,but weigh your pro's & con's CAREFULLY. It also depends on your age.....in most states you must be at least 13 before you can "decide" which parent to reside with. My suggestion is "try" to talk with your mother&step-father,discuss the complications with the evening in question...hopefully come up with a happy medium....but religion is not a priviledge to be taken away as a form of discipline! Try and work things out where you are...because the grass is not always greener on the otherside of the fence! Good Luck............
2006-12-12 02:05:54 · answer #1 · answered by xaviersmother2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to look at this from your parents point of view. If they took all the phones with them, and you have no house phone, then you needed to either use a payphone to call one of the phones they had or borrowed a phone to call and let them know what you were doing or at the very least leave them a hand written note. They were worried about your safety when they didn't know where you were. If you really feel you would be better off at your dad's maybe a move would be good, but don't just threaten to move because they are punishing you. If you move,I'm sure the time will come when your dad will have to punish you too, and you can't just move back to your moms to avoid it. I would say maybe grounding you from church may not be the best thing, however, being a parent I can understand their reaction. Give them some slack, take your punishment, and learn to always tell them where you are going to be. You may need to borrow a phone, or leave a note, or whatever it takes, but they need to know what you are doing, so they know you are safe.
2006-12-12 00:57:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm confused you said your parents are punishing you, but you want to move in with your father (did your mother get re-married), also why would keeping you out of church (for that day or forever) be a punishment for you, are you planning to be a priest (or is it somebody special at that church you want to see)?
So look at the hand you was dealt. What your parents don't go to the same church as you do? Also if you move in with your dad, you still won't be going to that church.
P.S: Suggest you shallow your pride and tell your parents you are sorry and it won't happen again, and to make sure it don't happen again either get yourself a cell phone or have a house phone put in the house.
2006-12-12 01:29:02 · answer #3 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No I do not. Parents of Christian children whose parents are not christians always seem to think that taking their kids out of church activities is punishment. I do not know why they do it, but I know it's wrong. Not only is Church the safest and fun place to be, it's the right place to be. Parents need to get themselves to church and realize that. If your dad will let you go to church no matter what happens, perhaps that is the best place to move.. Unless he's a bad dad and beats or does bad things to you.. Good luck.. God Bless. Merry Christmas~!
2006-12-12 02:01:07 · answer #4 · answered by sshhmmee2000 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah move with your Dad. No phone but they punish you for not calling? No phone in the house, but you have cellphones?
Telling you your church is dumb?
Your family sounds like they don't have their heads screwed on quite right, so if you think you will have a better chance at a normal life with your dad, then go for it.
2006-12-12 00:57:23 · answer #5 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your dad will let you go to church as you wish and treat you like a responsible adult then you should go. It sounds as though your parents are not very responsible as far as you are concerned and also expect the impossible from you. This is not a good situation for you. What do you think you should do?
2006-12-12 00:56:03 · answer #6 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
IN lief there will be obstacles we have to over come and our parents is one of them. You have to ask your self what you have asked us. Will your dad let you go to church or nt? Will your dad not punish you wong? Then you will find the awnser in your heart. GOODLUCK
2006-12-12 01:20:47 · answer #7 · answered by AbbiAPPARATUS™ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do what you can to go to church, stay away from negatives about it, even if it means your parents.
2006-12-12 00:53:37 · answer #8 · answered by wizzygirl10 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move Quick Fast and in a Hurry !!!!
2006-12-12 00:55:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i know
parents are so ... parents.
my mom is like that
i don't think anything they do is right anymore
2006-12-12 00:54:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋