Is he in love with me?

Question

I have a male friend that I used to work with. We only stopped working together not even a week ago as our office closed down. Before that, after work we'd always hang out. We would go to the mall and the movies. Some times we'd go with other coworkers but quite a few times we have gone alone. The last 2 weeks of work he was starting to make comments about me and acting differently than he normally would. One hour after our last day of work he called me and he called me first thing yesterday morning as well. He even calls me his "work girlfriend" and left me a nice note on my desk the last day of work saying that I made work really great for him and made it a blast and he was happy towork with me and he wanted to keep in touch.

Part 2. I have a boyfriend. He knows this man and I are friends. But, I need to let my friend know his boundaries. But, I dont know if I should sa yanything because Im not certain he'd try anything wiht me either and I dont wanna ruin the friendship.

Thoughts?

Answer 1

The best thing is to remind him that you have a boyfriend, whenever he talks to you about you being his "work girlfriend".

Answer 2

Wow. It must be hard to have that kind of attention showered on you and not feel swayed away from your boyfriend. It's great to feel cared about.

How is your relationship with your boyfriend? Does this former coworker have a girlfriend?

I think what you need to explore, primarily, is your feelings for your current boyfriend. Is there something about your relationship that leaves you feeling unfulfilled? Is there something lacking in your life?

Think on those questions and you'll be a lot closer in your heart to knowing what direction your relationships should go....with both guys.

I wish you all the best.

Blessings,
JustanAngel

Answer 3

Boyfriends should understand 'just friends'. Many times they don't, and it's because things like this happen.
I think the answer to your problem would have been to not go out with this work buddy alone at all, however, you're past that, and need a solution to the impending problem.
Your first question was 'is he in love with me?' I don't think that's the real question. You know he is. No guy would attach themselves to a woman unless he wanted to be with her, it would be too much trouble for him.
The real question is, 'What are you going to do now?'
Stick to your boyfriend. For now. However, feelings change. If you find yourself falling in love with your work 'boyfriend', then you might need to discuss that with your current boyfriend, and let him go nice and calmly. Any time I dump someone, I try hard to keep them as a friend, I hate to lose a friend.
Hope this helps some.
No one is alone, we all have our troubles. :)

Answer 4

That is easy. You need to tell your work buddy that you enjoy hanging out with him. Just use the friend word a lot. Hang with him, maybe see if the three of yous could go out and do something. That way, your work friend can see you are serious about your main man and maybe back off a little on his insinuations. If he expresses a little more attraction to ya, you just simply come out and say "friends are we".

Answer 5

More than likely your just a friend to hang out with, not uncommon. However, if something would happen between your boyfriend and you -- this man would probably step up to the plate. I wouldn't say anything to him, maybe you can go job hunting together. Don't keep secrets from your man.

Answer 6

Maybe all he's looking for is an office g/f. I would stay away until i hear something more concrete from him. But then again, if your head turns when he makes his comments, maybe you don't have anything solid with your boyfriend.

Answer 7

talk in general about you and your bf to this guy so he knows u love ur bf