i was 12 weeks pregnant which was ended in miscarriage at the weekend..... i am absolutly devistated i am going to try again a.s.a.p..... what do you do to get over it? i am taking it out on my loved one.... which aint fair on him cause it was his loss too.
2006-12-12 00:36:28 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
awwwww hunni, nooo. i answered your last question. im so sorry to hear that you lost your precious baby. it didnt work out for me either, i found out on sunday that i lost mine too. bleeding is a very frightening thing to happen in pregnancy and its always so hard to tell whats happening. i hope you get pregnant again soon and that you and your partner have a very healthy baby. I find the best way to cope with my loss is to remember that everything happens for a reason, im a strong believer in fate. it obviously wasnt meant to be in both our cases this time, but that doesnt mean that you cant try again hun. and go on to have a wonderful pregnancy and a perfectly healthy baby.i know it hurts and you will never forget this baby but there is always light at the end of the tunell, youll see sweetie. take care of yourself, and if you ever need a friend im just an email away. xxx
2006-12-12 02:14:58 · answer #1 · answered by fanlight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seek a trusted person or persons or counselor if all else fail. if your trying again you will soon be in that predicament again. if you know your doing this please read your own question,fact is he has a loss as well and, so many couples have broke up over this. trying so soon does not make sense if your taking it out on him don't you agree? it can happen several times to a person. its not his fault!!!! IT could be your body? or just a mishap either way what was meant to be is exactly that. if you lost it who is to say you may be better off. its possible the baby had birth defects? i would not dwell on this. i have lost two sets of twins. i was further along and devastated as well. you may be having the prenatal blues as some woman do if the baby lived? your hormones are adjusting.and for what its worth? I'M SORRY TO HEAR YOUR SAD NEWS!!!! my best
2006-12-12 00:54:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot expect to get over it in a couple of days honey. Your hormones are all over the place but I bet your guy understands all this and you need time to grieve the loss cause no matter what anyone else says it was your baby. It will get easier and when you do get pregnant again you will worry about it happening again but don`t it doesn`t often happen like that. Good luck for the future.
2006-12-12 00:51:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time makes things better. I had three miscarriages 20 years ago. I don't think about my babies every day but there are times I think about them. I was 10 weeks with one 12 weeks with the second and I was 14 weeks wit the last one. That baby was a girl. She is the one I think of the most like what would she look like now& her age.But this is not everyday. Let yourself greive.Time will heal.
2006-12-12 01:27:22 · answer #4 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time. I had a miscarriage last year and i still think about it almost everyday. If i hadn't of miscarried i would have a 10 month old baby right now.
I was 5 weeks pregnant. I will never forget about it but now it dosen't hurt as bad as the first few months after it happened.
Time will heal you. I am so sorry for your loss. Maybe you need to see a doctor. You are still grieving so i am sure your partner understands.
My doctor told me when i miscarried to wait 2 months before trying again. Even though i will never know if it was a boy or girl i named him/her.
http://www.miscarriage.com
http://www.pregnancyloss.com
God bless you
2006-12-12 00:44:39 · answer #5 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe entering the baby on a memorial site to just sort of be able to say your goodbyes may help. http://www.honoredbabies.org/memorial/memorial2.htm I found this site. I'm sure there are others. No one except someone who has had a miscarriage ever truely understands how that feels to the parents ... and even more so just for the mother of that wanted baby. I hope your healing soon begins.
2006-12-12 02:50:49 · answer #6 · answered by jewell2578 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there and its a very hard thing to get over. The thing that got me through was that I believe that everything happens for a reason. It was true. If i had the child then i wouldn't have met my husband or had my 2 beautiful kids like I do now. You will get over it, but it will take time. Thats what you need is time. Maybe talk to a counselor.
2006-12-12 01:55:20 · answer #7 · answered by Jesse's Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefilly time will heal but maybe also think that it might have been for the best. They always say nature takes care of itself so something serious might have been wrong and I don't mean this as nasty but if that is the reason, then it might haved saved you from making a very serious and difficult decision. I hope everything works out for you and good luck for another, but take a little time for yourself to heal physically and mentally.
2006-12-12 00:48:11 · answer #8 · answered by Doreen R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although i have never had a miscarriage personally. I believe you should look into a support group for those who have had a miscarriage it will help you work through your feelings in a safe place. It may help to bring your partner with you too.
2006-12-12 01:49:56 · answer #9 · answered by kidspestsgreen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im so sorry :(
i had a miscarriage 2 years ago and i still get sad over it. the best thing is to have a good support group.... people you can talk to. you will feel sad and need to grieve and its completly normal. if you try to hide it inside it will only make you sadder....
you need to wait about 3 months before you try again. your body has suffered a lot of shock over this and you need to give it time to heal and go back to normal before trying to concive again. my dr told me three months. also if you periods are a little weird thats normal too.
but defeintly support is the best thing... talk about it.. it will help you grieve and deal with it. i am so so sorry i know how much that hurts
2006-12-12 00:50:30 · answer #10 · answered by *angel* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋