I have been with a new girl for a month and when we were in a resturaunt and I got up to go to the restroom she went thru my cell phone and I didn't know. When I returned she started asking me if I was talking to other girls and I told her I wasn't. A couple days later she told me she went to a psychic and the psychic told her to ask me who laura was. I told her I dont know any laura's. At that point I figured she had gone thru my phone. I do have a friend laura that lives in florida that I talk to but we are just friends. I feel she had no business picking up my phone and going thru it without asking. And her story about going to a psychic bothers me. Does she have the right to do this after only being in a relationship for a month? I feel its a sign of worse things to come.
2006-12-12 00:11:56 · 24 answers · asked by Kurt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She has no right to go through your phone, but then again you shouldn't lie to her about not knowing people
2006-12-12 00:13:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kurt~ it sounds like your new GF has trust issues. Since this is a new relationship, then I dont see that changing. I agree with you about the psychic.. she never went. That was just a reason for her to bring it up. Women have this odd yearn to know about the mans past.. and some can accept it, and some cannot. I have my ideas, that she is not one that could accept you having friends that are female. She is not going to be able to see you talk to another woman without thinking you are with them. I would get out of this relationship.. you are right, only worse things will come of this.
2006-12-12 08:23:49 · answer #2 · answered by WestWife 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump her now ... she's insecure and you can't cure that! She clearly doesn't trust you and will always ask who you're talking to, where were you, why didn't you call ... on and on and on! If you're smart, you'll never give her access to your cell again ... whether you have anything to hide or not! You will find that you're always explaining yourself to her ... always! I'm telling you, from personal experience ... it's never going to stop! Get rid of her before you invest any more time!!!!
FYI - I'm very happily married to a woman who trusts me and I trust her. I dated 2 girls, 1 in high school and 1 in college who were exactly like your girl. I was miserable the whole time we were together because of the constant doubt that I was less than honest about EVERYTHING UNDER THE SUN with those girls.
2006-12-12 08:23:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh oh, you may have stumbled on someone with lots of baggage and didn't see it coming. From what I have seen in the past it should steadily progress. I have been married for 5 years and my wife still asks me before she will go in my wallet, cell phone, etc. etc. It's just common respect and courtesy. She violated boundries. Either make it very clear that you have boundaries or run like hell.
2006-12-12 08:18:11 · answer #4 · answered by Clrinsight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. She has no right to go through your cell phone. And as far as the psychic, you may want to re-think this relationship. Personally, she sounds a bit controlling to me. Tread carefully!
2006-12-12 08:31:09 · answer #5 · answered by Scooter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you've also been to see a psychic and that she says to be wary of people invading your personal property as they have snooping tendencies that can escalate matters and create tension where there needs be none at all!
2006-12-12 08:15:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's fine that she went through your phone because she was affraid you were cheating
but the whole psychic thing sounds like she's cracking up.
She must get jealous easy.
2006-12-12 08:14:02 · answer #7 · answered by alice_oh.nine_one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
psycho!!! i hate that ppl think its acceptable to go through someone else's fone, its as invasive as reading their mail or emails!! most ppl say "u should have nothing to hide" n all that crap. I dont believe it, ur pal coulda texted u something very private n wants no one else to know and she is going through ur fone? not on! tell her to trust u, if she is doing this one month into the relationship, its a very bad sign!
2006-12-12 08:15:45 · answer #8 · answered by clare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Psycho Puppy.. Drop her like a lead weight. Nothing but a life of misery ahead.
-HtJ
2006-12-12 08:14:37 · answer #9 · answered by hesterthehester 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has no right to do that - no matter how long the relationship. It's called "Invasion of privacy". Tell her of your concerns and if it doesn't seem like she'll keep her hands off (or if you catch her again), dump her!
2006-12-12 08:17:27 · answer #10 · answered by plumbersangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋