i am a 25 year old female...its seems harder than it should to meet a guy that is interested in anything other than sex at this age...i chose to be celibute until i am in a commited relationship but i feel like that decison is holding me back...i really dont want to change my choice to wait...but what do guys my age really look for...what can i do to get their attention without it going the sexual route...i am a respectable,easy going,video gamer,sportster, as well as traveler and the occasional cook...so whats the deal..can anyone help?
2006-12-11 23:17:59 · 14 answers · asked by meshack915 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well you must be looking in the wrong place. I know a lot of guys that are deviots and have no respest for women. Good on you for staying celebate till you are in a serious relationship.
You sound like a real nice chick. Just don't get desperate and wait for a guy that can give you the respest you deserve
2006-12-12 21:34:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will you marry me? Don't tell my wife about it though, she frowns on my marrying other people...
The problem has nothing to do with sex. I find that between the ages of 23-28 everyone goes through the same sort of thing. You're out of University, you feel like you've got freedom and don't because of the attitudes of the people around you and becoming finacially aware of the fact that you're likely going to be a slave to work for the next 30-40 years, you think that everyone else has figured out what's going on and you wonder why you don't. Once you hit the 28-33 range, you become more aware that most people don't know what's going on and that makes you more confident with dealing with ours, although it doesn't solve your own issues.
The guys aren't only thinking about sex on purpose, we just think that we're supposed to progress relationships that way and we don't understand that sex doesn't have to be a factor in a relationship. Women worry about this as well, but they are also mindful of the fact that if they get pregnant it'll definitely change their life. For a guy, there still seems to be that choice to be involved or not. I'm not saying that most guys will knock a girl up and move on, but they have that choice that women don't have and that makes it easier because you feel like you have control of the situation.
Just work on you right now. The right guy may or may not come along. If you do find Mr. Right and start a family, you will be limited to what you can do. So work on the things that you want to do and take the time to yourself. Doing this will probably put you in the situation of meeting guys with similar interests and that's not bad.
Ultimately, there's probably 1000s of guys out there that you'd click with. Most of our decisions are flips of the coin. You're not defined by if and who you are dating unless you define yourself by such. You want someone that enhances your life not to be your life, that's your job.
Have sex or not, just remember how it affects you and how you will define yourself afterwards. And remember, we only live for a while, so have fun with it.
Sorry for babbling but one last thing... Finding that special someone doesn't mean that you won't have other equally important people in your life. I have a friend who used to get really stressed when she'd feel that her husband wasn't the most important person in her life and she'd start freaking out about her life choices. When she figured out that everyone annoys you at some point, it made it easier for her to accept her choices and realise that they weren't that bad.
Am I still on topic? (-:
2006-12-11 23:48:13 · answer #2 · answered by Mosh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, upon some of my friends' experience sometimes it takes just a bit more time to find but the best man you could ever think of, within reason of course. Wish you luck, and hope you'll be a happy wife and mother one day. Take care
PS I have the same problem...
2006-12-11 23:45:10 · answer #3 · answered by Iguana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it relies upon on the guy some adult men purely decide for the girls that are common and positioned on tight clothing and short shorts and issues like that.. others care approximately character incredibly nevertheless at that age its generally looks except its a good guy so i think adult men at 14 incredibly seek for this style of woman that hav a character and looks they opt for all of it
2016-10-05 05:18:16 · answer #4 · answered by sashi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW.. you sounds really lik a great wife, may be you should look for older guys, men at 25 is all about sex, sex, nothing but sex.. blame it on the hormone.. women at the same age tends to be more mature, so you should go for older more mature guy...
2006-12-11 23:23:03 · answer #5 · answered by lenz 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The right guy will look for you as the person you are, so stick to your beliefs and values!
For example I don't drink... girls often criticized me for it... paid off in the end, a gorgeous girl found that to be a really cool value because she doesn't drink either (and we also have a lot in common).
2006-12-11 23:20:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be urself guys like that speciality 2
2006-12-11 23:20:09 · answer #7 · answered by indian beauty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try the 30 year old guys because they are looking for you.
2006-12-11 23:29:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well id love to meet a woman like your selfsounds good maybe you need to change who you hang out with no means no by the way. good luck
2006-12-11 23:23:46 · answer #9 · answered by luckydo6 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if what you described yourself is what you really are, then the right guy who is meant for for is somewhere where you are not looking take your time the right guy will come along when the time is right.
2006-12-11 23:24:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋