There's this girl i like in school... I never really got to know her, but recently we have been really close. We've gone out a few times before. Problem is, she has a boyfriend. Her boyfriend isnt happy that we've gone out. She knows that I like her, i already told her, and she says she feels the same way about me too, but she has a boyfriend... The last time we went out, i had such a great time with her. I then dropped her off at the train station, and her boyfriend was there. He seemed very angry, and she told me that he was. What do i do? Im in a position where I have to see if she leaves him or not, because she says she is more unhappy than she is happy with him. Its been about 1.5 weeks since i told her. Any advise? What should i do? Just wait? Or tell her to decide quick? She says she needs time to think abt it, but im not a very patient person, but at the same time, i'm willing to wait.
2006-12-11 22:58:34 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just dont want her not to pick me after waiting so long, coz then all my time and efforts would have been wasted... I really like her... what do i do?
2006-12-11 22:59:32 · update #1
Its been a week since i told her... should i wait another week? Her BF was ******* pissed when he met us... He knew she was taking the train home, so he waited for us... Then i shook his hand, and he said "U can go now, im taking her home".
2006-12-11 23:05:26 · update #2
Also, her BF was supposed to leave the country in October, but he didnt, he stayed back for one more year to be with her... She says she doesnt wana live with the guilt...
2006-12-11 23:08:54 · update #3
There must be lots of available girls where you are (in other words, without boyfriends). I would move on and try to meet one of them. This whole situation isn't fair to any of you. Think of how you would feel if YOU were the boyfriend!
2006-12-11 23:02:10 · answer #1 · answered by Rebecca 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing about this situation is that since your young, this isn't that bad a of a quandry. If you really like her, all yo have to do is hang with her, talk with her, and be with her EXACTLY like you have been. If you pressure her, all you are going to do is worsen your situation and then you'll be like the other guy. Excercise a little patience here and you'll prevail well. But here comes the thinker. Now, let's say she dumps her b/f and starts up with you. How long before she gets bored and then you find yourself in the same situation as the b/f she just dumped and you see her out with another guy. You guys are young. Don't take all this too seriously. It's all about discovery and experimenting.
2006-12-12 07:07:22 · answer #2 · answered by D. L. 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's testing the waters, so to speak, on dating someone else. She's afraid that she's going to lose the security she has with her current boyfriend even though she doesn't REALLY want him romantically. You're giving her what she really wants, but at the same time she's afraid of losing something stable.
Bottom line dude, you gotta tell her that she's gonna be in great hands with you no mater what. Show her that not only is she going to be safe with you, but be loved and cared for at the same time.
2006-12-12 07:10:34 · answer #3 · answered by Jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same type of situation. I'm female & was with my b'friend for some time. Things weren't going great, a colleague at work started to take a shine to me & me to him. We kissed. We met up & talked & admitted we liked each other but under no circumstances did my b'friend know. That would be unfair on him. Ok i know what i done was unfair too but there was no point in rubbing his nose in it. Anyway i split with my b'friend, not because of the 2nd fella but because what i was doing wasn't fair on either. She has to realise for herself that what she's doing isn't fair, if she was that interested in her b'friend she wouldn't be meeting you. What you have to realise is that it might not be you she'll end up with if she splits up with him, but that she is just not settled in her current situation!
2006-12-12 07:14:06 · answer #4 · answered by suzanne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully, I would not wait. And ifyou want to wait. I would not tell her...She might want what she cannot have, so if you are not waiting around for her......
Also it is an ego boost for her to have 2 guys interested, but I would be careful she might use you as a break up buddy...She breaks up with this guy, hooks up with you...breaks up with you because she finds another guy..breaks up with him, comes back to you because you are her break up buddy...I have seen that happen before...
2006-12-12 07:04:13 · answer #5 · answered by Mechelle C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell she has to make a decision about who she wants to be with, its not fair to you to have to share her with another guy. Give her a week to decide if she can't then move on
2006-12-12 07:02:45 · answer #6 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU REALLY THINK THIS IS IT WELL STAND UP FOR WHAT YOU WANT, JUST REMEMBER SHE DID GO OUT WITH YOU AFTER ALL THAT SHOULD TELL YOU SOMETHING, WE AS PEOPLE DON'T GET ANYWHERE IN LIFE JUST STANDING AROUND WAITING, YOU HAVE TO GO AFTER WHAT YOU WANT, SEND HER FLOWERS, X-CARD WHAT EVER IT TAKES TO GET THE GIRL MUCH LUCK AND BEST WISHES TO YOU AND HER
2006-12-12 07:11:12 · answer #7 · answered by killips1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she wnts u she would have been left her bf for u but sumtime these hthings take time she need to figure out what she she want just give her sum time
2006-12-12 07:12:17 · answer #8 · answered by ahkiya :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to give her time to think if you push her into answering you or making a choice too soon she might decide to be along so give her time to think it through.
2006-12-12 07:03:53 · answer #9 · answered by lasondraperry-graham 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is it to think about? She feels unhappy with him, she likes you and she wants to think about? About what?
2006-12-12 07:06:34 · answer #10 · answered by cb56br 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋