I've even seen myself doing it, making excuses for not carryin onwith breast feeding. The BF Mafia really get on my t!ts (no pun intended!) cos every woman makes the choice for their own reasons!
2006-12-11 22:43:09 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It burns me in places too. I will admit I did consider breastfeeding for about 10 secs. beacause of the fianancial aspect of it but have since decided against it. It is not because I'm selfish it is because I have a 5yr old son and 3yr old daughter and son't see that there are enough hours in the day to breastfeed every hour!!!
Some of our modern technology I feel has gotten out of hand, but the way they make formula now is as close as you can get to breastmilk.
In the "olden days" women did walk around with their babies attatcjed to their boob. We also killed animals for their skins to make clothing and spent hours turning our grain into flour. I don't do those things either.
I feel it is a woman's choice to breastfeed and should be NOONE else's business. After you have told us once about the benefits and you see us opting not to breastfeed, we do not need your criticisms. Some people have far too much time on their hands. I will not be apologizing for my decision to bottle feed to anybody.
2006-12-11 23:56:37 · answer #1 · answered by 1973kimberly 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Every women makes their own choices and that is right - you should not have to apologise to anyone. I breastfed my son for 6 months and then put him on Formula as I had to get back to work. I also breast fed my Twins for 2 months and then I dried up - due to stress caused by outside issues and having to return to work basically immediately. So I have done both - and both have benefits and downfalls but at the end of the day it is what is best for the Child that comes into account - an unhappy mother that is forced to breast feed will not bond as well as a mother that was allowed to make her choice. An unhappy mom also creates an unhappy child - so do what is right for your circumstances!
2006-12-12 21:58:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't explain. I don't apologize. I have reasons for bottle feeding that you can't guess from looking at me. No one can just magically know your reasons for not breastfeeding. Unfortunately no matter what you do as a parent someone is going to think it's wrong. Someone is always going to complain. But what gets me the most is when medical professionals are card carrying members of the BF Mafia (good name btw). They know that some women legitimately can't breastfeed or just have horrendous trouble and pain. They know that some children just don't want to breastfeed and it causes them stress and anxiousness. And yet they still preach their mantra at the top of their lungs no matter what the consequences might be. Sometimes I really think some members of the BF Mafia would still be mad at you if you didn't breastfeed due to a double mastectomy.
2006-12-12 21:38:48 · answer #3 · answered by evilangelfaery919 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a million) i've got not got little ones yet, yet when I do have them, i do no longer plan to breastfeed for longer than a month or so. the reason being incredibly elementary - i'm the breadwinner in our relatives and if i do no longer artwork then our relatives does not eat / have a house, so no long maternity leave for me and for this reason no breastfeeding. i'm under no circumstances ignorant or uneducated - i'm in my early 30s with a masters degree and a incredibly severe-powered job. I even have examine plenty appropriate to the "breast is ultimate" argument and incredibly frankly the technology does not stack up. The study that coach that breast fed babies do greater effective often fail to appropriate for socio-financial and different environmental factors. i do no longer comprehend the emotive hype this concern generates - why would be unable to women folk be loose to choose on what's ultimate for them of their situation with out stress from everyone? 2) I even have under no circumstances heard everyone say 'in simple terms use a bottle', and a super type of of my acquaintances have babies.
2016-10-05 05:17:33 · answer #4 · answered by sashi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a personal choice. I suppose the reason why people who bottlefeed might feel uncomfortable( I don't think you should) is because generally breast is deemed as best but then certain circumstances can make it impossible for you to breastfeed. For as long as you know in your heart that you are doing what is best for your child, then forget about what other people think or say because the truth is you will always get that anyway. It's human nature.
2006-12-12 00:25:05 · answer #5 · answered by swish 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all know that breast milk is better for a baby but it isn't always possible to feed them yourself. Some people don't have enough milk, some Mums go straight back to work and some just don't fancy the idea. The choice then is yours not other people's and you shouldn't worry about what others say. Bottled milk isn't bad for a baby, it's formulated specially. I think it is the cuddling that goes with the feed that is important, a special time just for Mum and baby. Just see how that baby looks up at you at feed time.
2006-12-11 23:44:54 · answer #6 · answered by garfish 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Don't apologize to anyone. I know breast milk is best, but I hardly think an infant is going to be traumatize for drinking formula. I was a formula fed baby and I was incredibly healthy as a child...i was rarely sick and its had no negative impact on my life. So long as a woman is feeding her baby and bonding with her baby then that's good enough...there are some babies born that don't even get that much! All the BF proponents act like we're neglecting our childen...chill out...and stay out of other ppl's business.
2006-12-11 23:35:41 · answer #7 · answered by tangyterp83 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are right. It is the mothers choice, and they do not need to make excuses or feel they are failures as mothers.
There are many reasons why mothers choose not to breast feed.
Not producing enough milk, soar and bleeding nipples just to name a couple of the many medical reasons why not to breast feed.
Another reason, not medical, is that the mother feels stressed and uncomfortable when breast feeding. These feelings of the mother will transfer to the baby and make the baby stressed and uncomfortable also. Isn't it better to have a happy, contented baby on the bottle than an unhappy baby on the breast.
You do not need to justify yourself. Your reasons are your own.
A happy, healthy child is the main thing.
Be happy too. :)
2006-12-11 23:15:06 · answer #8 · answered by Ally 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The BF Mafia views it as putting yourself and your own needs/desires ahead of what's best for your baby. There are other women who cannot beastfeed or have great difficulty doing so who frown upon women who have a great supply yet choose to bottle feed.
My advice is to ignore them. I breastfed exclusively for 3 months before supply issues led me to supplement with formula. I think every woman should at least try breastfeeding (I found it so much more convenient, easier, and cheaper), but it is ultimately the mother's choice. Moms need to be more helpful and supportive to one another than critical of each other!
2006-12-11 22:53:22 · answer #9 · answered by dr_imzadi 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
no reason to apologize, so long as you are providing for your child then you have no reason to apologize to anyone for your choices. Don't give in to opinionated people! you'd be amazed at some of the things they do behind closed doors when no one is looking. They're usually the people who you find doing the most offensive crimes to children, but they'll be the first to call out something as harmless as bottle feeding just to draw attention away from themselves.
2006-12-12 01:38:34 · answer #10 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋