I am lost,have lost focus and desire to reach somewhere.Cause i dont know ...where do i want to go.
Starting today,i will write whatever happens in my life,openly,everything,everyda... post on my 360 blog.
I think writing down truthfully will help me in understanding:
What do i stand for,
What do i want to do or avoid.
Where am i going
Can i make it.
Do you think its a good idea?
2006-12-11 22:38:42 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If your wife is so nice, why are you in an adulterous relationship with another woman?
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2006-12-11 22:41:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Happiness cannot be found through looking.
Happiness is hormones and a selective memory.
You have commitments and responsibilities, that you willingly signed on for. And you have some you didn't.
Sort out which is which, and do some spring cleaning.
Then make a plan, to get you where you need to be - forget want to be. I make no references to your personal life - everything I write applies to everything.
Find some task to make your final 1/3 (or maybe 1/2) of life of some worth.
As for writing, you are old enough and experienced enough not to waste your time in self-involvement. If you really want to write, write something that will be of value to others.
And if your very lucky, instead of wondering if you are happy, you will die old and realise that you were.
If you really are depressed, this may be nearly impossible to achieve. So first - do a sport. The more active and outdoors the better. Then start.
2006-12-11 23:03:59 · answer #2 · answered by Simon D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It`s not just about You is it ?? Stop feeling sorry for Yourself ,do something positive and work on what You still have got,and at this rate wont have.What the f*ck are You doing with the girlfriend,who gives a toss how old she is/what she looks like!! Find some security instead of pampering Your ego.Dump the bird and appreciate Your wife who`s no doubt been supportive throughout the long 20 yr marriage! Has she opted for the toyboy now the s*it`s hit the fan(probably not!!!).You both need support as a family,not You looking for nookie.Be a man and take control again.You`ll lose the kids respect too.Pull Yourself up,not pull Your trousers down.Is the g/f still interested after Your demise ?
2016-05-23 08:17:03 · answer #3 · answered by Beth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bankrupcy can be fixed, it's a chance for you to start over, second getting rid of your girlfriend will keep your marriage together, posting your feelings on 360 blog is really not what you should be doing. Sit down with your wife discuss important issues, as how to get back on your feet, and you will, if you live a happy and healthy life with your wife. the girlfriend doesn't fit in the picture, and I hope that your wife can forgive you. everything will be okay. You just have to start with a clean slate, and bankrupcy will help you do that. So wise up, don't be down, and out and work things out with your wife....it is never to late to start again financially or emotionally. Good Luck and God Bless you , your wife,and your children, may this be the clean slate you needed to live a very happy life.
2006-12-11 22:59:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are having a classic mid life crisis. It happens to lots of people. First 46 is actually quite young still. I mean you could reasonable expect to be alive at least another 40 years. That's a long time to be wandering around not sure what to do.
Writing down your feelings will probably be very helpful. And talking to people, particularly those who have been through the same thing. Guys are really bad at that sort of thing, that's why you have more heart attacks you know. You never know, your blog may strike a cord with somebody who you can relate to.
Good luck
2006-12-11 23:51:12 · answer #5 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think a blog is all it takes to clear your guilt just so you can feel better, you're wrong!! You have debt - seek professional advice from a debt counseling agency. Either dump the chick on the side or get marital counseling with your wife (or divorce). You want to have everything, but life doesn't work that way. Your primary responsiblities are to those you made promises to - wife, child, debtors. If your sidechick does interesting things in bed, buy a video or ask your wife to do it for you. GROW UP.
2006-12-11 23:22:36 · answer #6 · answered by Tellin' U Da Truth! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow you are ratting on yourself here: you really had it all, didn't you? Nice wife (I notice she is mentioned as incidentally as an afterthought), kids, girlfriend, tons of money (I am wondering how legitimately that was attained-sorry but all this "truth" has me suspicious). Things/lives such as you describe are usually based on selfishness and greed and sooner or later, collapse. You sound as though you are delving into (surprise, surprise) a nice bout of self pity so I won't bother to fuel that sentiment, you are doing enough on your own. Then you take all this s**t and post on your 360 Blog like we're gonna FIX you or support your pain? Take good care sir and maybe rethink your values heretofore. You're in the process on learning (hopefully) one of Life's Great Lessons: this doesn't work. I feel not a whit of sympathy for you.Sometimes things are between you and God to work out. Not the readers on Yahoo Answers. Talk about shallow.
2006-12-12 00:10:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Writing things down may be a good idea, but exposing your entire life for all the world to see (and probably mock) is the dumbest thing you can ever do. No one cares about your midlife crisis, just hit the bottle and buy a sports car like every other guy in America.
2006-12-12 03:53:01 · answer #8 · answered by EmptyWhiskeyJar 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Too late for what?
you are your own judge, and you have at any time in your life the freedom to decide for yourself, as long as you bear the consequences. It looks to me like you don't really want to take decisions, and you probably have your GF asking for some...
Any decision means closing some doors - but in doing so others may open.
As for your wife, girlfriend, kids and business partners - they deserve a bit more than that. You sound depressed, you'd do well to see your doctor.
2006-12-11 22:54:46 · answer #9 · answered by OneLilithHidesAnother 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One word mate ....AR*SEHOLE!!!!
You're taking up someone elses valuable oxygen.
Since in the midst of all your self-absorbed sorrow and lack of direction ,you've still had the foresight to post your Q in about 5 different categories - I'm hopeful the "there theres" you get are minimal!
2006-12-11 23:48:07 · answer #10 · answered by renclrk 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Aww poor baby it only rains on your head huh? Life sucks, strap on a helmet and jump in the trench with the rest of us. You made your bed now go lay in it. I got problems in my life too but I don't go blubbering on yahoo about them I go out and I deal with them.
2006-12-12 09:29:07 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋