I don't trust ppl cos they hav gone behind my bak in the past I trust sum of my m8s but wot can I do?! I want 2 stop!!! But will ppl still lyk me as a m8 or think me as wierd n a freak if they see my scars?
2006-12-11 22:37:39 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
they will like you for who you are beyond the scars, don't worry if they are friends then they will love you regardless of the scars
2006-12-11 22:42:20 · answer #1 · answered by colonel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think I touched on this before. Good mates will nearly certainly freak out a bit, but they will come around. Don't judge everything by their first reaction. It varies a lot from person to person. Some people get really angry, others just look confused, some cry, and others just look like they don't believe what you've just told them. If you go up to them and say, "look, I'm stuck, please help me" most of them come through fantastically.
However, if they turn round and say anything really nasty then I really would drop them. If they're not prepared to help you through a really hard time in your life, then they're not worth the bother. It can be hard, especially if you've been friends for a long time. I had a supposed friend turn round and tell me I "should be locked up, away from society" whom I'd been friends with for about 10 years. That was cr*p.
If people don't believe you about the self-harm, well, stuff them. I'm aware that sounds harsh, but if you have been confident and motivated enough to tell them, and they don't believe you, then they're the daftie. It's fantastic that you made the effort (which is really hard) to tell them in the first place, and there's really not much you can do about them after that.
As for the not trusting people, yeah, I get where you're coming from. But I think you have to take that chance. If you trust them and something happens, well, that sucks, but you have to move on, and that will make you a much stronger person in the long run. If you get back up every time, YOU WILL BEAT THIS. I have faith in you and have never met you in my life!!! Good luck! Emily x
2006-12-12 10:28:41 · answer #2 · answered by the_happy_green_fish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i mangaed to stop 2 yrs ago, that was cos i was pregnant and didnt want to hurt the baby, im not suggesting u get preganant, no way, but all u gotta do is find some other way to express your hurt pain and anger or sadness, i still want my blades when things get tough but i just have to remember that if i carry on i might die, that isnt what i ever really wanted, take up some sort of physical hobby, like if your angry go for a long run, if your sad take a slow walk the fresh air will fix things for now. start boxing get a punch bag to take it all out on. ye some ppl will treat u weird cos of ur scars but if they are true friends they will help u stop hurting urself, i proudly wear my scars as proof i stopped, some have faded but most will be there for ever i dont mind, im glad its over.
2006-12-11 22:48:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all..You DON'T go into Yahoo searching for an answer of such importance, as we are not DR's but simply people who have experianced or known someone who has experianced the same issues..You need to make a DR's appt and seek some help before the problem progresses to a point to where you injure yourself fatally.Those may not be your intentions but it could very easily happen since you are causing yourself physical harm.Good Luck...and keep smiling.
2006-12-15 09:32:59 · answer #4 · answered by Vickie Renee 1963 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first i would definitely get some new friends..you don't need people you cannot trust..and there are still alot out there you can trust....second i would spend a little time figuring out who i am and what i like to do and making myself feel better about the way i feel...and you the scars shall pass...its part of your history and it marks a time in your life...don't be ashamed because that will reflect in your attitude...instead accept them and move on..if people ask and you dont really want them to know what they are from make something up ...it is your personal business and they should not judge you on it...but do get help if it is more than you can handle...
2006-12-11 23:04:41 · answer #5 · answered by meshack915 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends totally about the story you tell if they see and ask about your scars. If you want however to try and make them less obvious then things like vitamin E creams work pretty well, and also cocoa butter works nicely. Listen if you want to talk over emails sometime, maybe figure out what the next step is then email my hotmail account ok.
adam_cieslicki@hotmail.com
I used to self harm myslef, stopped about 3 months ago but am tempted right now to go back.
But if you need someone to vent to then let me know.
2006-12-11 22:41:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 5 year cousin can win a debate with that loser, she actually has the audacity to say that emo will be bigger than punk and metal. She tried to compare herself to Jesus, how stupid can she be!!! The way she cussed so much clearly says that she has no valid point to make. The emo trend WILL die and she's just mad because she wasted her college tuition money on expensive crappy clothes. EDIT: Once she turns 18, she get over her fake teen angst and get a job and contribute to society instead of ranting on Youtube.
2016-05-23 08:15:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I self-harmed for many years, not many of my friends understood this but all of the ones who were proper friends stood by me. The people who did not like me anymore because of my problem have all been long forgotten - they were never my real friends.
Your real mates will stick with you through this and as long as you try to be good with them will always be your mates.
If you want to self-harm then youy will, if you want to stop you will stop. Things happen for a reason and your true friends will always be with you - just like you will always stick with them through problems.
"Misfortune shows those who are not really friends." - Aristotle
"The friendship that can cease has never been real." - Saint Jerome
"We are advertis'd by our loving friends." - William Shakespeare
Take care and have fun!
2006-12-11 22:53:01 · answer #8 · answered by monkeymanelvis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That was painful reading your post.
Anyway, are you saying you cut yourself and have emotional problems? And are you asking will people like you regardless of your scars that you got from cutting yourself? If I was your friend, I would worry about you cutting yourself over anything else. True friends, or mates as you call them, will like you for who you are and will try to help you. Please stop cutting yourself and give yourself more credit.
2006-12-11 22:43:40 · answer #9 · answered by Lunacy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well if your serious my adive would be to go to www.recoveryourlife.com
its a completely open forum, much much better then here. everyone on RYL has been through things that you are going through. we all understand and are here for YOU. to help YOU. noone will judge you on RYL for anything. its so open and supportive. everyone gives cuddles and hugs, its a great place. you should check us out
my sn on RYL is: illstayifyouloveme
send me a message if you sign up.
hope everytthing gets better
loves, k
2006-12-12 05:10:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋