I have a 3yrs daughter with my gal .apparently we used to stay in different towns i recently relocated to her town by virtue of work. when i visited her she was sick .later when i passed thru she told me she had taken an hiv test when she was pregnant and tested positive so they put her on mother to child prevention for the baby so the baby is not positive.imagine for all that time she known and not said anything.i took the test and am negative.
2006-12-11 22:30:41 · 18 answers · asked by yamulilo2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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What is your question? It doesn't sound like you are together. It also doesn't sound like she knew she had AIDS until now.
2006-12-11 22:33:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I'm sorry to hear what has happened to you all. And remember that its not just you with this problem, there are three of you. If you love her stay with her but if you don't well leave. If you do intend to stay together seek advice how to live your life together happily. i guess even if you do choose to leave, you should still gain some knowledge on this illness. Another thing you could do is discuss with her to have a time out so you can have a clear mind and think before making any long term plans of your relationship, don't forget your partner will be feeling alot of stress at this time of her life and so will you so think hard before you do anything,none can say leave or stay that is up to you.
2006-12-11 22:47:56 · answer #2 · answered by She C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the good news is that you and the baby are in the clear...going by your comments it sounds like you don't live together...if you both live in the same town I would hope the welfare of your daughter would be just important of an issue...yes she dropped the ball neglecting to infrom you of her illness...does the girl live with her..if so then the two of you should discuss her future as well as giving the child love and support...be civil adults and make a life that is good for you, her and child.....you don't have to be a couple to do that.....
2006-12-11 22:47:37 · answer #3 · answered by sayasyoulike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very difficult question. By the humane side you should give her support in this terrible moment. By the other side, she hide it from you and you could be sick also, not mentioning the baby. I don't know. I don't even know what would I do in the same situation. Seek for God's advice. Good luck.
2006-12-11 22:39:29 · answer #4 · answered by cb56br 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What she did was bad. You deserved to know the truth in the first place, for God's sake. What if you had been positive, would it have made her happy????
Its your choice to continue the relationship but know that you'll always be at risk of contracting it as condoms are not 100% safe. But a baby is on the way and that should be your topmost priority more than anything.
2006-12-11 22:44:10 · answer #5 · answered by Banana Pie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
nooo, this are the time when she needs u her partner to support her.!!! just imagine what will happen and how can it affect ur daughter in the future.? she just kept it bcoz she is afraid that u might be ashamed of her.., and i think thats what is happening? righht..? hhhmmmm.. talk about it and think of the consequences! when u told her u love her did u mean that cause u only loved her bcoz of such thing? i hope and believe ist no.., then go and talk about it. she needs u much than ever to be there no matter what! just think of the future.... hope u dont leave her..
prove her that u really love her., if u leave her, it means u never really loved her at all., think about those who suffered hiv sad coz they were naglected, if u do this i think u shouldnt said u love her at all.. bcoz she believed in u...when u said I LOVE U let ur heart w/ god decide not ur mind
2006-12-11 22:39:08 · answer #6 · answered by harvestmoon_joy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probably needs ur support man!! maybe she was scared or whatever it was - if wanna know the truth u gotta ask her coz u wont get it from newhere else.
there are many oda ways to contract HIV i hope u know dat..dont misconstrue, go ask!!
the kid is urs rite, have u thot abt the repercussions of ur actions on her? see wot ur 'gal' has to say and then decide.
not once have u mentioned dat u love her or are fond of her and dat is why u are hurt - u sound more angry.. cant u trust her at all? or this one thing is enff for u.
2006-12-11 22:44:59 · answer #7 · answered by Jinx 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You must be devistated and i sympathise with you.But do you love her if so she needs you know more than ever you guys can live a positive life together ,if not forgive her and dont neglect your child .Dont hold her mistakes against her let it go and take it one day at a time.
2006-12-11 22:38:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how do you know she new long time ago.??..
and having a 3 yr old daughter with...why would you leave...
isn't there medication to help your gal... and why would you not stand by her now.. when she most likey stood by you then ..to
have a 3yr old daughter to take care of ..so.!!.
2006-12-11 22:39:23 · answer #9 · answered by david 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sadly i would say she has had sex with someone else whilst you were away, tho this maybe the case... leaving her in a time like this could be the worst thing especially if the kid is yours...
if you wanna be part of the childs life, and are able to live with yourself leaving her then leave her later... you dont wanna leave her because she has aids and your scared of it... leave her because she may have been unfaithful
worst thing to come to terms with in this point is if the child is yours or not...
2006-12-11 22:38:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know you feel betrayed, but maybe she did not know how to tell you. This was probably because she knew or felt that you would leave her. Pray about it and follow your heart. Try to forgive her and if you love her stay with her but be very safe (sex).
2006-12-11 22:35:34 · answer #11 · answered by Amy C2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋