Ok i am in love with my boyfriend who is the father of our son together. Well we did not talk for about 5 months we just saw eachother for the first time this last weekend and now seem to fight.He says he loves me and wants to work stuff out with me but then he turns around and hangs up on me cause he is tired. So does he love me or does he play games with me and my heart? I do love him and he just drove 6 hrs to be with me this weekend but then he does this. How do i trust him and is it even worth the effort or is he just going to hurt me. He says he wants to marry me when I learn to trust him and give him my whole heart, but by him hanging up on me it feels like he is throwing it back in my face. Thank you in advance for any help.
2006-12-11 22:09:47 · 9 answers · asked by kmylander03 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
may b he is actually tired, real real dead tired, i think u shud give him some space, and trust him too, u can give him one chance and c wat happens, all the best
2006-12-11 22:17:03 · answer #1 · answered by hmmm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is difficult to just let go and forget about old feelings. I think you and your boyfriend need to spend a lot of time together. You need to learn to trust each other and know exactly where you stand. You probably both need some space and take a step at a time. Just make sure you are not wasting your time on him! Talk to him and let him know that you are ready for him but also that you will give him the time he needs. Be patient..I know it cane be hard at times... I am sure things will work out for the best!!
2006-12-12 06:12:50 · answer #2 · answered by INC0GNIT0 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you love someone and that someone loves you back, they would do everything in their power to make sure that nothing hurts you or they will not hurt you. so are u really sure he loves u with all his heart and soul? u seem 2 have doubts about this. so what if u have doubts get out.u and your son deserve better u both deserve a man that loves you and that would not hurt u,or if u try and work it out talk 2 him telling him how u feel and it will go from there. but in the end, think about what is good for u and ur son. so that u both dont get hurt! GOOD LUCK
2006-12-12 06:58:11 · answer #3 · answered by babz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who is in the exact position as u r... I don't understand why people cannot accept love and be good to it. Why the games?? Anyway my advice to you is to try and understand where he is coming from... I always try and understand where my husband is coming from and sometimes it makes sense, even if it seems really stupid, but sometimes it is just really stupid. You need to communicate your feelings to him... I think when we show we are vulnerable and too afraid to express our feelings then ppl just walk all over us...
BE STRONG, that's the main thing... He may think he has the upper hand.. that youll hang around no matter what, but make it clear you are not going to put up with this relationship unless its perfect. You would rather your son be from a broken home than to grow up in one
2006-12-12 06:19:26 · answer #4 · answered by Jacqueline H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it. Honesty is the best medicine. If you're hurting and confused then let him know. Maybe if you say something then he'll realize his mistake and try to work with you on it. If he drove 6 hrs to be with you then yes, he's really trying to mend things. No man would do that if he didn't still feel something.
2006-12-12 06:14:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be a little more than a bit cautious here .
if you and him split up -- then why ?-- did he not want to accept the responsibility of his ( and your ) child at the time , but now finds himself in the 'guilt range' ?
if he's still fighting with you ( although i think he's fighting with his conscience ) .
the more read into the situation the more it becomes apparent that this guy is not worth it --- in a nutshell .
make sure you receive maintenance off him but , because he owes you !!! big time --please don't waste your life by marrying him --- he's not worthy of you and your son . good luck .
2006-12-12 06:22:45 · answer #6 · answered by bill g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now this is an complicated situation it seems hes nature keeps on fluctuatuting.
What can i say but your relationship won't last much maybe he loves or maybe he cares for you more. Can't say much about this becoz sometimes he is on left hand side of the bridge and sometimes on the right side.
I think forget him...Sorry to say but this relationship might not last lifetime. WELCOME!
2006-12-12 06:15:50 · answer #7 · answered by neil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he IS indeed tired, in a phase of less enthusiasm ... don't just throw yourself on him. Let him relax a bit. let him get used to being with you again. Things'll be fine :)
2006-12-12 06:16:43 · answer #8 · answered by shunyananda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's getting frustrated that yall not on the same level.Get rest & try again.
2006-12-12 06:12:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋