He is not my boyfriend but we have a history. A few days ago we met and had an amazing time just talking and being together. He seemed very sincere and said he wanted me to be his girlfriend. Because of the history (including being hurt by him before) I wasnt ready to just jump into a relationship; a few days later he kisses another girl (and maybe more than one girl). I know I have no rights over him and he is a free agent, but is it unreasonable to feel upset by this? Does it mean that he cant be that serious about me, and he's just trying it on? Thank you.
2006-12-11 22:02:49 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He didnt tell me about the girl, but didn't exactly cover his tracks about it either.
2006-12-11 22:11:22 · update #1
After all this, he called me and tried to reason out with me why we should get together, arguing against my reasons not to. When I basically told him I couldnt be with him, he asked me out for dinner, and wants to stay in touch. Is he just really fickle and unreliable or something else?? I am grateful for your opinions!
2006-12-11 22:37:30 · update #2
Dear......go find another guy who would love, respect n cherish you.
......any guy who wants you to be his girlfriend and kisses another girl in front of you or in your view is not worth having....... even as a friend....
.......he's either a show-off.......a pretender cassanova.....or an unreliable jerk!
Take care....n choose your bfs smartly. ......this world is full of the hurt & crestfallen girls due to their wrong generosity of heart!
2006-12-11 22:09:13 · answer #1 · answered by sandy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should just let things be and not take them any further with this guy. If he was sincere he woudldnt ask you to go out wiath him and then kiss other girls a few days later.
If you wana give it a try though, talk to him and ask him whether its true he kissed someone else and why he did it, that way you know the whole story before making a decision.
Personally i think you're better off without him.
It's not unreasonable to be upset, you had a good time together, you thought he was serious about you and then turns around and kisses someone else, you're bound to be upset.
Just think things through before making a decision.
2006-12-11 22:07:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might just be trying to get a reaction out of you. Ask him about and see what he says. If you don't, you'll continue to wonder about what could have been. Depending on what his answer is, you can decide if its worth taking a chance or if he's gonna hurt you as he did before.
Whatever happens make the choice that's best for you.
2006-12-11 22:16:12 · answer #3 · answered by Tamzi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he commits himself he's not a free agent.
If he's hurt you before you must be very careful.
If he kisses another girl while telling you he want you to be his girlfriend he's lying.
You had an amazing time talking to him, doesn't mean he did.
If you get upset your emotions are ruling you.
I think you're just a victim of your own wishful thinking.
2006-12-11 22:20:23 · answer #4 · answered by #+%? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you shouldn't waste your time on him. You said you've been hurt by him before, it sounds like he'll just hurt you again. Any guy that is telling you he wants to be with you and then kissing other girls, it's worth anyone's time. Move on and find yourself someone you deserve.
2006-12-11 22:07:06 · answer #5 · answered by sweetpeaberry42 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rather than thinking as u feel I thing make him understand that due to kissing other girl he has made u thing that ur earlier decision was right of not having him as ur bf. His emotions keep on changing so quickly for the girls what if he change his gf from u to other this quickly
2006-12-11 22:09:24 · answer #6 · answered by dilu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you think he's going to wait around for you forever?
sorry babes but if hes not getting positive feedback from you then he's quite entitled to kiss who he wants when he wants - however you do sound a bit jealous of the fact he kissed the other girl so maybe you should give the relationship a chance! you might enjoy it!! xx
2006-12-11 22:21:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he is not serious, he just wants to play with u and push his borders. i had someone similar once when i was much younger. take my advice - do not get involved and walk while u still can (or can u?). he will waste lots of your energy and emotions and nothing good will come out of it anyway
2006-12-11 22:44:19 · answer #8 · answered by jacky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said no to a relationship, so sounds like he moved on...
2006-12-11 22:05:58 · answer #9 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a player to me.Move on you can find someone that wants to be with you and you only.
2006-12-11 22:05:57 · answer #10 · answered by Louis K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋