I've been dating this girl for over 9 months. 3 months into our relationship she cheated on me with this much older guy becuase he promised her all of these things. I took her back and things were great, except a few things here and there. Now I feel she is growing tired of me and doesn't appreciate anything I do for her. Should have I taken the out back when she cheated on me or should I wait it out longer and see if she comes out of it?
2006-12-11 21:54:05 · 17 answers · asked by Garin M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you took her back so i know it is hard but you have got to forget her cheating on you and try to move on from that, but you will need to talk to her about how you are feeling now and see what she says maybe something is worring her and she needs help to talk about it. whatever you do dont mention the past as once you have taken her back you cant chuck it in her face all the time it was a mistake she made but you both were willing to put it in the past. good luck. x
2006-12-11 21:58:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's cool you've been forgiving. You must have a strong personality to do that, so well done. She made a mistake early on, and you came through it.
People always act like women want bad guys. This isn't true. Women want to see passion and spontaneity in their partners (just like men do!). Maybe she's not bored of you, but bored of the situation she is. See what you can do to spice up your lives. Find something she likes doing and make a big night out of it. Maybe she's stressed, or depressed. Could be anything really. But you do need to sit down with her and talk. Tell her how you feel. It may be worth giving her the opportunity to walk away to see her real feelings for the situation.
Some people just tire of being in a relationship. Perhaps she just needs space?
Do YOU even want to be in this relationship? Maybe you're the one who's grown tired and is looking for an excuse to get out of it?
Relationships are hard work, but shouldn't be a battle of habit and boredom Vs love and friendship.
Be straight with her about your real feelings, let her talk, and see where you want to go with this.
2006-12-12 06:06:35 · answer #2 · answered by midsojo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Short attention spans for relationships are difficult to change. Move on. If you are the type who truly desires a monogamous thing, then you are the kind of man who can do much better than a chick like that.
She's into greener grass and even the other guy's won't be green enough for long.
2006-12-12 06:04:37 · answer #3 · answered by misspearlnecklace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to talk to her about it. You took her back , it doesn't matter now if it was the right thing or not. What matters now is how she is treating you again. You've been with her for a little while, do you want to keep going through this and hope it will get better? Talk to her, and figure out if she is worth all of this.
2006-12-12 06:00:53 · answer #4 · answered by sweetpeaberry42 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me they will never come out of it. Those kind of girls have father complexes and are also gold diggers. they are a dime a dozen. Now ask yourself, are you a dime of dozen kind of guy? probably not, so I would drop her and enjoy being single for a while and don't think about finding the right one, that's when the right one lands in your lap.
2006-12-12 05:57:52 · answer #5 · answered by gotham158 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come on son, dont be a mug. bin the girl before you get really hurt. there is so much fun to be had out there do you really want to tie your self down to the same piece of meat.
tell her it's over then go out and enjoy the world.
2006-12-12 05:58:38 · answer #6 · answered by gavin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude. She cheated after only 3 months. Ditch her. Move on. She will do it again.
2006-12-12 05:57:31 · answer #7 · answered by MrBret 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is into things. It will never be a fulfilling relationship. Move on and find your soul mate, someone you do not have to buy their love with things.
2006-12-12 05:57:13 · answer #8 · answered by lefty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the *****, man ..!! if she cheats on you once, she sees that you took her back, she will cheat on you again because she might have lost respect for you ....I know what I'm telling you ...
Good luck !!
2006-12-12 06:06:07 · answer #9 · answered by bobby s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop now everything ever and ever, nothing wil work, if she cheated once it wil cehat on you in many forms all life, where are going to!
stop it forever if you have the power to do it , but I personally do not think you can control y-self
it isi your life, u do what u want
2006-12-12 05:56:43 · answer #10 · answered by freemind ci 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋