She is well travelled and smart.. I don't think we will be on the same level. any ideas
2006-12-11 21:40:29 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you are right. It takes a great deal of maturity to date an older woman, especially if she has kids. You have to be ready for the type of commitment that she will require: be it time, money, or just companionship for her and the kids. If you aren't ready for the ups and downs you will encounter with her... and the kids, then don't bother and find yourself another woman more your speed.
2006-12-11 21:47:06 · answer #1 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all age doesn't matter at all my grandparents are 20yrs apart. 2nd u just have to ask urself r u ready to deal with kids. Just becuase she is a little older doesn't mean ur not on the same level. Just know that when u get into this relationship make sure ur ready. Im talking from experience not from being in a relationship like that but being on of the kids when my dad used to date after him and my mom got divorced. Don't date her if u don't think it will last long and make sure u don't meet the kid unless u know it will work out because i met almost a new grl friends of my dads every weekend and then the kids might really like u and if something ever were to happen to u and her the kids could take it out on her or they could get very upset. If u know it will work out great just make sure u don't go and meet this kids until u know u 2 r going to b together for a while.
2006-12-12 05:48:08 · answer #2 · answered by cb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the fact that you're referring to her as a 'chick' is just one example of the different levels of maturity that are between you.
If you get along her and her kids, then I don't see any problem. Always be honest with her about where you feel the relationship is/isn't going. You don't want to start what seems like a long term relationship and have her kids calling you daddy, only to dump her when the next best thing comes along.
You'll hurt a lot of people if you lead her to believe the relationship is something it isn't.
2006-12-12 05:45:12 · answer #3 · answered by midsojo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Four children come with a lot of responsibilities and depending on how they can cope with the situation, how she feels about you, and how you feel about her, what you do is up to you.
The time span is about seven years, which is not a huge gap. Depending on where you are in life, as well as she, decide whether or not it can really go anywhere. If you're willing to work on the relationship, and want to be with her and her children, then by all means give it a chance.
If the idea of the kids bother you its probably in everyone's (the kids, her, and yourself) best interest if you maintain a platonic friendship.
2006-12-12 05:49:44 · answer #4 · answered by Nessa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not me... I know a 25 year old with 5 kids, and she dates 19 year olds, which is why she has five kids and still is mostly single and unhappy. Don't be the one that gets left in the gutter or the one that becomes the next baby daddy.
2006-12-12 05:43:23 · answer #5 · answered by Haveyouanswers 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you say she's "well-travelled and smart", but if she's fooling around with a guy she has no real future with and she is the MOTHER of 4 kids (presumably young)
she really isn't that smart at all
and for heaven's sake, if she can't see how this messes up the kids' lives to have a mother acting like Britney Spears, perhaps you could be the mature one.
2006-12-12 05:53:15 · answer #6 · answered by Banting B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question. Don't do it if you don't think you are going to be on the same level. Which pretty good chance you wont be. Unless you have some kids also & are used to that "at home with the kids" lifestyle.
2006-12-12 05:43:32 · answer #7 · answered by Hot Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LMAO My ex did it while we were engaged, I think she made him as happy as he made me ;-) Her oldest was more than 1/2 his age that must have been fun!
Other than that, it depends on the mental and emotional age of both involved. Also, please remember that a woman that age with 4 kids to support is not playing games, she's looking for a father/husband figure. Don't go there if you are not prepared to be that person.
2006-12-12 05:44:26 · answer #8 · answered by Star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself if you are in it seriously or just for sex!
If its serious-- then just take a second and think that your budget would have to cater for 5 MORE PEOPLE!
Money shouldn't be an issue, but with a household of 6, IT IS!
2006-12-12 06:00:13 · answer #9 · answered by Cyrill sneer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not me. It's not the age difference...yet. At 24, your barely ready for having your own kids, much less someone elses. No offense, but her kids will never respect you as a parent. It will be pure hell, I promise. However, to just date, thats OK I suppose. Good luck.
2006-12-12 05:51:21 · answer #10 · answered by aka white knight 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋