I was wondering if I have to worry everytime when my gf has a close male friend ..? because, my ex started to have a close male friend, while I was in a relationship with her, I really thought he was her friend and never worrried about it too much because I trusted her, but later I discovered they becomed more than just friends and she left me later for him ....What do you think about that, we would definitely not allowed our gf to have male friends ..?
2006-12-11 20:56:13 · 15 answers · asked by bobby s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you shouldnt let one bad relationship sour your next, i know its very easy to get jealous and worried when your girl has a "close" freind whos a guy, but you just gotta trust her
2006-12-11 20:59:37 · answer #1 · answered by kydd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a couple "close male friends" so it's not always a bad thing. I think the number one way to know if it's more than that, is if she hangs out with both of you at the same time. I have no problem with my boyfriend coming along when we go out to a bar or whatever but if your girlfriend wants alone time with him, that might not be a good sign in my experience.
2006-12-11 21:00:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe I'm from the old school, but I'm not going to have female friends unless my girl is friends with them as well and we spend time with those friends at the same time. If your girl has a special close male friend who is not also your friend and spends time when both of you are together, than ya gotta wonder...just how special and close are they? I wouldn't go for that. If my girl didn't like those conditions when I'm willing to do the same, I'd tell the tramp to take a hike.
2006-12-11 21:02:30 · answer #3 · answered by Velociraptor 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in a really similar situation. She would go to the cinema, to concerts, long walks and all the sings of a prelude to a breakup was there. When she started the "i need my space" gibberish that most relationships go through at some point, I was devastated. She spoke about our future as "uncertain" in every aspect. Later it turned out that what was really driving her away was my fear of losing her, possessiveness, jealousy and so on. My advice is to back off, let her see for herself what life is without you. Don't interrogate her about their meetings, let her tell you stuff by herself and so on. Jealousy and possessiveness is a unattractive trait to women because it signalizes: "I see other men as a threat, and i don't think I'm good enough for my gf". Instead of listening to everybody who say that "it's gonna end". Back off for a bit, give her some time by herself and see where things are going. When she is telling you stuff about him, and talking to you openly it means that she is trusting you. If you show negative personal reactions to their meetings it could frighten her to the extent where she will not tell you anything. If she decide to go see him, go do some of your own stuff to get your mind off it. If he's just a mate, there is a chance that he is just an old mate. But also keep your eyes open about the situation,. I don't like the part where she talks to him all the time, just like i didn't like the part when my gf was seeing her "mate" all the time. She probably enjoy the ego boost she get from him. My gfs mate also wanted sex and was in love with her. But she had to learn by herself that she basically lead him on by accepting all his invitations to the cinema, concerts, walks and so on.
2016-05-23 08:10:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear bobby,
It totally and completely depends upon the girl -- what's her criteria of "close male frnds"
If you think she is a nice girl,
if you think she is trustworthy.
If you feel she really loves you
-- Then nothing to get worried about.
If you have a single doubt, ---
then you must do something for this.
You NEED to know that the meaning does the word "CLOSE MALE FRIEND" has in her own Dictionary.
Good LUck!!
2006-12-11 21:07:16 · answer #5 · answered by shon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact of the matter is that if she has a close male friend = you will constantly think & worry about their relationship. You need to tell her so. Let her decide if she wants to torture you or not. The choice is hers. If she chooses to continue to spend lots of time with her close male friend, then you need to choose if you want to stay with her or not. Don't be a sucker for the 2nd time.
2006-12-11 21:05:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have concerns, but keep them in check, don't be too jealous or you'll annoy the crap out of her. Get a close female friend to balance it up and she'll know how you feel.
Bitter sweet revenge, don't get mad, get even!
Merry Christmas.
2006-12-11 21:00:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can listen to any of our advice, but the fact of the matter is that you were betrayed once and now that will hinder your trust. You have to ask yourself if you trust her enough. Honestly, you have no say in who her friends are, but you do have a say in if you trust her with them. Analyze yourself before you analyze him.
2006-12-11 21:00:34 · answer #8 · answered by dna_notorious_here 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you really want to tell your american girlfriend that she can't do something so she'll stay with you? I don't think thats the best idea but I would suffer you cut her loose in your search for happiness. What do I know?
2006-12-11 21:02:32 · answer #9 · answered by Snap J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a hard one bro...
i'd say it depends on the girl u with... but that dont help any of us hey? best bet would be no... unless you also get time to know and chill with this friend of hers. make him you peoples mutual friend...
2006-12-11 21:01:16 · answer #10 · answered by Reb Da Rebel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋