i've been talking to this girl for a couple of months now. & we're somewhat dating. recently though, i've lost all interest. & i want her to know i don't want to be involved with her like that anymore. i've been doing everything possible to make her not like me. flirting with other girls. never calling her, acting just "buddy, buddy" being annoying, haha. it just makes her more persistant on telling me how much she likes me. i want to end this without hurting her...sitting down & talking to her saying i don't want to date anymore...would hurt her.
2006-12-11 20:32:42 · 14 answers · asked by Evan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, buddy, you seem to have some trouble on your hands. Being a girl here who's been hurt by the "not calling" thing, that should've worked but since it didn't.....hm. She reminds me of a friend of mine. She was persistent and obsessive as heck! It got to the point where she was gonna commit suicide, but she got over that guy simply by looking at this way hot guy we just met some weeks ago. One day she was crying not wanting to leave her b/f, next day, all it took her to forget her b/f was a single look at the new guy. I suggest that you ask one of your femal friends to take her out to a party or to a club where she can find an even hotter guy and her mind'll be so full of him, that she won' t have time to think about you. And BAM! It's over! Or you could keep up what you've been doing? lol. Make her a cake that says "I luv ya, but I don't love you". Understand lady?! Move on!
2006-12-11 20:42:27 · answer #1 · answered by Seyva23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it would hurt her, but it's the best and most honest way to do it... sit her down and tell her you can't offer her the level of commitment and affection that she needs, and you can like her as a friend, but not a girlfriend (or lover, whatever would soften the words, girlfriend sounds kinda childish) and that you feel the need to see other girls.. she might kick your **** but at least she'll apreciate you were honest, if she really cares about you. if that doesn't work, arrange for her catch you with someone else :P or kill her :D just kidding, honesty is the only way to go in this type of situation. hope it works out :)
2006-12-11 20:37:46 · answer #2 · answered by animal_fire_inside 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will have to learn how to do that on her own time. You can't simply make her "not like you". You are gonna have to talk with her and tell her how you feel because there's no other way to do it. It's better for her to find out from you first than from anyone else. Who knows? Maybe she is feeling the same way, but is just nervous and doesn't know how to act, so she wants to "satisfy" your feelings. Don't be rude when you break up or anything like that.
Good luck! :-D
2006-12-11 20:37:13 · answer #3 · answered by lildevilgurl152004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be hurting more if you pretend to be 'dating' her. Sit down and tell her that you are not ready for a relationship instd of sayin that you have lost interest in her. Tell her you want to travel, be more into your studies etc. That will explain why you dont have time for her anymore. I think she will appreciate that approach without too much of damage to her heart.
2006-12-11 20:39:27 · answer #4 · answered by Taurus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,if you say talking directly will hurt her,doing it cowardly will hurt her even more!Just tell her directly.No frills.Yeah,it will hurt a bit,but eventually she will forgive you and move on.Don't be a coward.Do it like a man.
Good luck.
ohh.yeah.The sooner the better.
2006-12-11 20:37:55 · answer #5 · answered by joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're flirtin' with disaster pal. Just tell her how you feel, it's the only way. She might hurt for a while but she'll get over it, unless there is underlying psychological issues.
2006-12-11 20:37:38 · answer #6 · answered by Tiger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of being a man is facing responsibilities. If you no longer are interested in her then you need to tell her. What your doing is prolonging the pain not avoiding it.
Be a man.
2006-12-11 20:35:35 · answer #7 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At the moment you're acting like a jerk. sit her down and talk to her!
2006-12-11 20:35:23 · answer #8 · answered by ♪ Jackielynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and talk to her.
It always works, instead of giving "signals" and "hints".
Good luck!
2006-12-11 20:45:09 · answer #9 · answered by purringout 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her dat u got better girl than her..this will break her heart then u r free like a bird.
2006-12-11 20:40:12 · answer #10 · answered by schooltet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋