if you love someone and want a future with them, but they occassionally do things that result in you doubting yourself and feeling lonely and low(even if they dont intentionally mean to do it),is it worth working through or should you just call it a day?
2006-12-11 20:29:36 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he tells me he loves me and we have such wonderful times together but then does things that suggests he doesnt respect me-keeping things from me etc.We have a child together so I have to put child first but am so torn at the moment.
2006-12-11 20:38:29 · update #1
hes been in contact with girls he used to know without telling me, ive found lots of porn sites and sites looking for people to have sex with on the computer(i know he hasnt followed through but why even look if he truely loved me?)yet even when i talk to him bout this he denies it all and says someone else must know the pasword and be looking at them.Its a work computer and its only me and him here!!!does he think im a total fool?
2006-12-11 20:56:00 · update #2
Don't act on any one moment. All relationships have ups and downs... Look across those moments to figure out whether or not to stick it out.
2006-12-11 20:31:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid its up to you. You have to decide whether you have the emotional strength to handles the low points, so you can work on the good points. Bear in mind, if your confidence is slowly being ground away then even if you think you can handle it now you may not be able to later down the road. If someone, even subconsciously, is trying to demoralise the other party in the relationship it usually means that they want to be the powerhouse in it, but there should not be any underdogs in a relationship. However, you just have to weigh the good against the bad. Which is the lesser of two evils, being with them or not being with them?
2006-12-11 20:36:05 · answer #2 · answered by thomastalkson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u know what u should just call it a day becuz if someone really loved you they would do their very best to make u feel as if ur on top of the world. also if ur having doubts somethings thats ur intuition telling u to leave and dont ever come back. its not worth and plus everything happenns for a reasons and their will be others in the future, plenty that would love u unconditionally!!! also they say that u might need to be alone and work on ur self first before u get involved with them.
2006-12-11 20:36:17 · answer #3 · answered by superstar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you mean by "occasionally do things". Are we talking infidelity or leaving the toilet seat up.
And how often do they do it. And what is the motive behind it. Is it selfishness or just plain lack of awareness?
I've lived with a man who wouldn't dream of buying me a diamond ring (waste of money). For example. But a kinder, more gentle man you've yet to meet. We have a happy marriage and will be so for 18 years soon. I'm always glad to see him, I get a thrill when he comes home. Soul mates we aren't, but we are happy. Yes, we argue and have occasionally screamed at each other. But that's not what our relationship is about.
You know what's going on in your life, you must weigh it carefully and decide. Good luck.
2006-12-11 20:43:01 · answer #4 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my man in August engaged in the Dec, Married following August - walked out on him 3 times in our first year. Didn't go far tho! 25 years later we are happier than ever. Love is a funny thing, messes you about, but give and take is what is needed.
2006-12-11 20:39:30 · answer #5 · answered by chutney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when love reaches its boiling point you will indeed give up and let go inspite of im here now in a relationship im not to for sure about but i do know its not going to affect my selfasteem in no way or fashion, pray and ask GOD to help you out he will im waiting patiently on my answer from GOD bout my relationship if the other persom isnt willing to meet half way on making changes then give up and let go remember ther is always some one for some one its just about the connection gl
2006-12-11 20:33:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes to love is to hurt....you should learn to accept that sometimes we can have mistakes and we dont realized that wehurt somebody not intetionally..You just a person and nobody's perfect but doing it always its not right..maybe you dont deserve each other..find somebody else and becareful too in choosing women..ok
2006-12-11 20:34:35 · answer #7 · answered by shesmile 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your kicks and move on. Sounds like a tosspot to me. Hang on for a Chrissy prezzie, though, unless he's being a total nobwank.
2006-12-11 20:31:19 · answer #8 · answered by satans_scrotebag 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
love is understanding trust communication life too short to waste just be gald you are not marry with kids if she do this now do you want to be marry to her come on buddy you need a good women move on good luck
2006-12-11 20:40:39 · answer #9 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its worth working thru... I love my wife, and i have been faithful to her. Though tempted not fallen. She didn't know how to love me because of experiences she had ,and some she didn't have growing up.. I've had to wait over 8 years for her to learn how to love me....
2006-12-11 20:33:13 · answer #10 · answered by knowlegeSeeker 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋