Any female survivors of domestic violence/sexual/emotional abuse?

Question

How did you cope then and now? Did you get professional counseling? Do you have and psychological problems such as anxiety, depression, PTSD, etc? Did you break connections with the family that abused you?

Answer 1

Firstly Zach u need 2 b shot because u r a complete asshole and guys like u don't deserve a chance.

I was emotionally abbused by my mother. It was hard. I did have counselling but it did nothing. I had depression but that came from a mixture of other things. My mum ended up saying she didn't want me anymore and i was sent to live with my Dad. My life is far better now.

I was sexually abbused and raped by an ex boyfriend. That was hard and i got counselling for that to.

I hope you're just asking out of curiousity and that you have not been abbused. But if you have remember it's never your fault, noone can treat you like that and people love you and it has to get better before it gets worse

Answer 2

I am a survivor of sexual assault. I currently see a therapist at least once a week. I do have psychological problems labeled as depression and PTSD.
I am from a small town with limited resources. I have found online support groups to be very helpful. Because of the support and advice I have recieved from those groups and therapy, I am now working on forming my own local support group.
If you are struggling with the after effects of anything you mentioned, i suggest reaching out for help now. Please understand that it isnt as bad as it seems. Jump over the stigma and take care of yourself.
Keep on keepin on! Good luck!

Answer 3

YES -- I do have PTSD -- and the Abuser .. although you DO Break contact, go through and finalize the Divorce -- still (years later) the abuser continues to torment his Survivor (and this August 2006 -- over 13 years AFTER the Divorce, this ex of mine BURGLARIZED my Residence once again), and will continue to in the future (as he figures out he 'needs' something ....

Answer 4

I reported Zach's reply.

There are a lot of support organizations throughout North America and Europe who can give you better guidance than anyone out here. The road to recovery is a tough one and those organizations have professional resources to call on.

Good luck dealing with this crossroad in your life.

Answer 5

My life was engulfed in hell. I was sexually abused age 5 by a uncle related by marraige. And a second person age 7 or 8 step grandfather. My mother is an alcoholic and has been all of my life. And I watched my father beat her when she would get drunk. Holidays were hell. I had problems in school. Ran away and ended up in a group home at the age of 12. Probably the best thing that could of happened to me. And yes my mother was abusive. Even tried to drown me i recall the incidinet do not recall the age I was. She even sent me to the mental ward for test trying to make it look like it was all me.

Now as a 39 yr old adult I have chronic depression and mild bipolar disorder. I have been fighting the depression for 13 years. I have never liked sex as an adult. I feel bad for my husband and am surprised he tolerates it. Mentally I have to work myself up to engage in sex with him and it is hard to enjoy it. There is no cure for this mental block.

Therapy on and off. Several support groups on and off. And I do what I can to live my life. I moved very far away from my family. I did not see them for several years. Ihave never told them about the sex abuse. Don't know that I can the two offenders are dead. I have visited the graves to stomp on them several times.

My mother is dying of a long and painful death. I do not feel for her at all. I tolerate her only for my child. But would never leave her alone with him ever. He barely knows her which is good. The only way he knows her is she gives him stuff. I never heard I love you from her rotten mouth until a few years ago. Moire than likely when she was told by her dr that she is on her way to death from drinking and smoking 4 packs a day she decided to love me. Ha. What a joke. When she tells me that on the phone I say ok.

She destroyed my sisters life as well. That is another mess and topic.

Cope. Do you really cope with such a horrific situation. Not really. I work dam hard to make sure I treat my son right. I work even harder to not drink. They claim that is genetic. Anytime I exceed a one glass of wine at dinner all I have to do is think about the way she looks now and how she made my life. I even tried to kill myself at age 10 that was the first of 4 times I tried. I smoked pot to make myself feel good. I was lucky enough to get some really bad stuff once that landed me in the hospital in respitory distress almost arrrest and that was the end of that. But I would say I smoked it for over 6 yrs I made sure I hung out with people that had it as I was to afraid to buy it.

I have been on my own since I was 13. I put myself through school. Got a degree., Good job and so on. But I still have problems. Socially I suck. I avoid people. I don't trust anyone. And basically decided to not have any friends. I have my son hubby and a cat. And a ton of hobbies. And try to stay away from any of my original family. Even ended communication with my sis as she was in an abusive loop which was depressing in itself.

I feel for any one that has had any exposure to this crap. You don't heal ever. No therapy can fix it and all the drugs do is band aide the symptoms.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Yes I did get counseling, and a lot of 12-Step work on myself. It is not easy to come to grips with. I was abused, emotionally, sexually, and verbally and socially for 19 yrs. by my ex-husband. My four children was as well. Every time he beat up on them, I felt like it was me that he was beatingo on. But his verbal and emotional abuse on us was worse than the physical. It had much longer and lasting affects on us.
I am bipolar, so I have all the things you mentioned, and it is harder for me to let this kind of stuff go! At times I am fine, and at other times I am not. I remarried, wasn't abused in any way, and I still have problems with self esteem, and confidence in myself. I also am a recovering alcoholic of 6-8 yrs. The program helped me to go back to my HIgher Power and to draw strength from him instead of relying on my own understanding. He allows these programs for people like you and me, He knows we need help with healing ourselves, and he gives us the understanding and the resources to help us. In Ps. 72:12-14, he says that he feels pity for those that are lowly in heart. He gives us the "power beyond what is normal" to continue on. We have been in situations that "is not normal" so God gives us the strength to deal with what isn't normal!
Any way, email me if you wish, but please get help! [e-mail]

Answer 8

I am a survior of emotional abuse. When I was younger I used to have low self esteem.But with the help of Jesus and my family I have learned to be a better person and love myself.

Zach: You are a fu*king bastard...U a weak b*tch and I bet that if u hit me u won't live to see tomorrow.And all that women are useless, I hope u say that to the woman who was useless enough to make u...I hope burn in hell..

Answer 9

i must rescue by myself to survive, we must be smart to rescue by ourselves although we have counselling, we must be strong, cannot rely on counselling absolutely