I have recently been dumped by 2 men!! {one in November, the next just a few dayz ago}
Meaning: when I called them they did not answer or hung up on me!! No return phone calls , no nothing!
Both, I thought, truly loved me.My heart is broken & it's Christmastime.
I don't know what to do. I know I shouldn't keep calling them...but I want an explanation. Maybe you guyz can tell me what it means when a man hangs up the phone like you are his worst nightmare??!!
Why r men so cruel?? What could I have done to deserve this??
2006-12-11 19:31:49 · 14 answers · asked by Mee-OW =^..^= 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi Shayla,
The reason is actually a compliment to you.
There is a saying that water seeks its own level. The last two guys psychologically felt they did not stack up to your level. They felt beneath you and not men enough to fill the shoes they felt you deserved.
Might say they felt they were in "Over their head".
It appears to me that you need to be a little more selective in who you associate with, because it is obvious you deserve much better than the last two losers; and please do not forget, they are the losers, . . . . . . . .not you.
Might say in effect, they were not man enough, in any way, shape, or form.
Regardless, if you are alone this holiday season, just remember the one special person that deserves your respect and consideration . . . .that person is . . . .YOU!
Have yourself a very Merry Christmas, and a Happy New Year!
Darryl S.
2006-12-11 19:57:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Similar things happened to me lately... but I found out the answer.
Guys don't have the courage to stand in front of U and look into your eyes... cuz they don't want hurt U - of course it hurts anyways. In my case it turned out that the guy "is not mature enough" to make a commitment (though he' 26), he needs more his independence.... and getting together with many girls. At least not behind your back... These guys get afraid of deep emotions... cuz they have shallow emotions but they know very well what a girl wants, so it seems like they're really into U. There is this type, and the sooner the better the relationship ends.
Don't call them, forget about them (maybe write a letter, that's what I did and I got an answer) and look for a man that really deserves U and actually wants to have a girlfriend not just having fun w/ someone...
2006-12-11 20:09:43 · answer #2 · answered by Magdi H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most men do this because they are not sure of how to deal with breaking up, theyre sort of afraid to hurt your feelings, or make you angry, and afraid and unsure of how to say it and what to say at all. To them,they are not thinking that this is cruel, its just an easier way out. Everybody deserves an explanation but, fact is, we wont always get it. Dont worry about it though, there are good guys out there who has the courage to be a man and be honest enough with you.
2006-12-11 19:46:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because telling you i want to sleep with other people is mean and telling you i think i can do better is worse. by not telling you they are trying not to be cruel. I suppose they could lie and go with it's not you it's me, or i need space or some other crap like that which it all amounts to the same in the end.
2006-12-11 19:44:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You met people who are scared of commitment. You know always think of that cliche quote, "There's many fish in the sea." Don't waste your energy on them, don't let affect your life totally and just move on. I know, easier said than done, but it's better in the long run because who knows, you'll bump into Mr. Right.
2006-12-11 19:42:10 · answer #5 · answered by Dimmed Sunshine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason for them NOT to stick around
1. Bad breath
2. B.O.
3. She has been a B.I.O.T.C.H.
4. She is psycho
5. Lack of sex
6. These guys are boinking someone else.
Forget about 'em. They don't deserve YOU!
There are plenty of good guys out there.
Don't go manhunting; let THEM come to you, Mr Right WILL come around.
2006-12-11 19:43:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe it's you. Do you have a huge boil on your forehead? Do you put out? While you are giving it up, do you constantly flap that pie hole? Something you are doing is driving these men away.
2006-12-11 19:44:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
bein dumped around this time usally is becasue they dont want to buy you anythin for xmas, i know guys who only date from feb 15 to december 20 to avoid buyin stuff on those major holidays, its messed up but true
2006-12-11 19:35:17 · answer #8 · answered by kydd 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they don't even know the answer and it is easier for them to just not talk to you.
Cruel yes. but sometimes it happens.
2006-12-11 19:36:28 · answer #9 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is always an explanation and normaly with name and last name
2006-12-11 19:34:02 · answer #10 · answered by Cisco Sucks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋