Suicide help??

Question

Over the last month 9 teenages have committed suicide in the last month in my city (30,000people). It seems everyone knows someone here who has done it. I knew 2. We are on school hoildays now so people aren't getting support from people they could normally talk to. What can I do to help my friends? Because i know they are all upset and I don't think we can handle losing anyone else. Please help

It's not a cult. they all had their own reasons. I'm not christian. i'm not going 2 kill myself. i know i'm lucky, i just don't want my friends to do it because they think all there pain is going to end. and i wish i could move cities. I'm not sure if it's the time of year ay

I do know about suicide. I attempted a few times last year and i still get depressed but i'm not suicial anymore and i don't want 2 bring myself down in the process of helping others

Thanks for all ur help. I live in New Zealand.

They all killed themselves for different reasons. Some i can't believe their reason (cheating on their boyfriends, being beatten up by some random girls, breaking up with their boyfriends/ girlfriends)
The guy i know who did it was sentenced to 10years in jail.

Answer 1

people get depressed around the holidays and suicide rates skyrocket the only way I can think of to help is to get the community together and start working towards something a good start would be finding members who are feeling a little left out and alone and have others include them in their holiday activities after all isn't that what this time of year is all about ?

Answer 2

that sounds horrible. Many things drive a person to that level. Teenagers have so much weight on them. So much pressure. And in todays age not always enough parent support and school can be really crappy for your self esteem.

If you are all sad about the teens that have passed try to find a group possibly at the local hospital for berevement. It helps to talk about it. Local hospitals some of the times have suicide support groups. These things really help.

What about your parents? Can you talk to them about this. Maybe you could suggest pulling the other parents together and building your own support group.

I grew up in a small town. I tried to kill myself a few times and was lucky it didn't work. It is so hard when you are a teen. I am 39 now. I made it through the rough life or at least I thought it was rough then. Honestly can't even remember why I tried it.

You can tell them and yourself. Life is worth every second. Life is designed to be a challenge. You are never bored with it as it is different every day. Life is designed to keep your brain active and on your toes. No matter how crappy you think today was nothing is worth taking your life.

Every one has a purpose. It may not be clear right now. I don't think it becomes clear until you are about 25. All of you teens are our future. You have to be strong! Live for today and plan on living for tomorrow today!

Find a mentor. Someone you can call 24 hours a day. Try your parents first. Or another family member.

If you would like to tell me what state you are in I can research options for you.

Answer 3

typically christmas time has the most highest rate of suicide due to stress, financial situations, depression, family problems, etc. Sadly some people use suicide as an attention getter (just go to chat rooms). Suicide is not something people should take lightly and most dont. My feelings on what you should do are this: Ask people even if you dont know them well if they need anyone to talk to someone you will listen, do exactly that unless they need just comfort via hug. Value their trust which means if they tell you something in confidentiality then KEEP IT THAT WAY. Honor their wishes, if they feel uncomfortable they can always tell you. Sometimes you may need help with dealing with certain situations. Ask someone but keep the confidentially. If you dont know the person its hard for them to confide in you so dont be critical. Invite them to do things with you even if you dont think they will enjoy it. Go to their invitations, if theres something that makes you uncomfortable tell the person your confiding in. Confide in them. Im not sure if i forgot anything else...Its a tough job and a lenghty race but dont quit, if you turn your responsibilities over to soemone else b/c you feel ill use the term "undertowed". Some might feel betrayed. As a former sucide victim-survivor it takes ALOT of time and strength but dont quit. good luck ill be around if you need help :D

Answer 4

Estevan makes a good point. Unfortunately it's rather ignorant. Never compare your own problems to someone elses just to make yourself feel better. It doesn't work. Your problems are significant enough. I fear that thinking about problems world wide will cause someone to want suicide even more.

Just be there for your friends during this turbulant time. Be there to listen and don't critisize them. Ask them what they are thinking and hear them out. If crying, a hand on their shoulder or gentle rub on the back. Simple touch can work miracles. Take care.

Answer 5

First of all, you need to understand suicide, why it happens, and how you can help yourself if you get that depressed. When I was a teen, I also wanted to committ suicide, in fact tried, three different times. Lot later in life, I was diagnosed with being bipolar.
IF you have friends that are talking about suicide to you, personally, urge them very strongly to see a counselor, which is very difficult for people that are in this mind frame. We don't want help, we really see no reason to live. We have no hope, and don't see why everyone wants to help us CHANGE OUR THINKING. Right now, I have a 16 yr. old niece that also wants to committ suicide as she sees no reason to live either.
Remember the Serenity Prayer, "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, to accept the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference." This reminds us that we can't CHANGE any one! The only person we can is ourselves, therefore, you read up on suicide, read every thing you can; be supportive of your friends. Remember when people want to committ suicide, many people have said it's a selfish act, and so it seems. But when you get that down, you want to "save everyone from the misery of knowing you and having to PUT UP with you." You feel you are a hindrance to other people's growth and mental health. Or, you have had such awful things happen in your life, you see no way out of them, other than dying, and you want the inner pain to just stop!
You personally can help by knowing what you are talking about when you talk with them about death, suicide esp., since this seems to be the biggest problem, Also, go on-line and set up a chat-room esp. for suicide and for your town, and kids that you know. Invite an adult to talk in your chat room with you that has some kind of understanding about this, the grief process, in other words, the after math of the suicides.
I admire you for wanting to help your fellow students. That is very commendable. Just educate yourself, so you can understand where the victims are coming from, and the ones left afterwards.
Something else you might also want to think about, is that God forgives those that does committ suicide, even though it is (self) murder. But anyone that is that low, God looks on with pity. (Ps. 72:12-14) and wants to help those lowly of heart. He is a God of Love, and love for us allows him to forive in a "large way," a way you and I don't understand, because he understands excinuating circumstances that we don't see, only he does, as he also reads the hearts, which we can't.

Answer 6

First thing you can do for your friends is to look after yourself, play positive music, get out of the city for a weekend, get a kitten, visit a baby, get some positive back in so that you will have something to give

The Courage to heal Workbook by Laura Davis has a great section on making your sucicide prevention plan, things you can do people you an call, and more

If your a Christian you can pray, moves mountains.
simplest prayer is "help!"

look after yourself

Answer 7

I know quite a few that had committed suicide. I don't know them personally, but they had been my neighbor, friend, and classmate. It's hard to know if a person is very depress and if that person is going to commit suicide. The best way, I think is to talk to them if you think that they are depressed.

9 people in one month in a small city? it sounds like a cult or something.

Answer 8

Tell them to cherish life to the fullest.Always think positive.NEVER I said NEVER EVER get influence to commit suicide.If it can't be handled,ask the school to start programs or campaigns about the nagative effects of suicide.

Answer 9

This is very disturbing. You and your friends should speak with your parents about grief counseling. Until then it will help you to be able to talk to each and your parents about your feelings. Keep a journal of positive thoughts and feelings to remind yourself and your friends that life is worth living.

Answer 10

You can remind them how they have better lives compared to people in third world countries. They have absolutely nothing, are plagued with hunger and sickness. They shouldn't be all angsty, suicidal or emo because someone failed them, or broke up with them. Our problems are nothing to those ailing people.