Major Anger Problem?

Question

Lately I have been having some serious trouble with anger, it seems like the smallest most insignificant things can set me off. I haven't gotten physical but everytime anyone/anything annoys me I feel like smacking the hell out of everyone in sight. I am afraid I might hurt someone soon. I have very high blood pressure and lately things at my house have been really hectic and the stress just seems to be piling up and I don't think I am going to be able to take it for much longer. I really think I might do something I will regret unless I figure out how to relieve my anger/stress.

What should I do?

I really don't want to go to therapy or anger management classes but I will if there is nothing else I can do. Btw I am a 17 year old male.

Answer 1

Take these Homeopathic remedies to cure your anger, irritibility and blood pressure without any side effects or complications of any sort, AURUM MET 30, BRYONIA ALBA 30 and NATRIUM MUR 30 together half hour before meals, three times a day. And please keep me posted about your progress and conditions after taking them for three days.
Take Care and God Bless you

Answer 2

What's great about what you wrote is that you at least have the AWARENESS that there could be a potentially damaging problem. Now you have the opportunity to do something about it.

I'm 26 - and not too long ago, I had some serious anger and rage issues. Unfortunately, those issues resulted in some heavy handed legal consequences, that I've since put behind me but have learned from, nonethless.

I'm in therapy (for items other then anger alone) and I really do enjoy it. Why do I enjoy it? Well, at first, it was uncomfortable and took some getting used to, but after a few weeks, it's given me the opportunity to learn a lot about myself and the cause of my anger, amongst other things - and how to change certain thoughts/behaviors and how to be a better person.

My therapist made a strong point in identifying anger as a completely acceptable form of feeling/thought. It is good to get angry. Anger is just your brain computing data in an event that you're not being treated well or are in danger.

If someone is mean to you, you are SUPPOSE to get angry, if not, then you have another set of impending issues internally that prevent this natural response. Once you feel the anger, how you chose to deal with it is essential to your well being. Therapy will give you the tools to understand your anger, where it comes from and how to develop coping skills so that you won't fall pray to what you fear most, which is hurting someone.

For me, I suffer from various mood disorders - where most of my anger is invalid and is a product of borderline tendancies (unforseen thoughts of anger and agression towards others), where I am therefore, taking mood stabilizing meds. The meds certainly level me out, but therapy truly provides the answers to how anger has effected my life in both negative and positive ways and how to effectively manage it long term. The bottom line is, because of therapy - I've learned how to deal with my anger indefinitely - so I won't get into trouble.

I think it's great that you are AWARE of this and are at least CONSIDERING getting help. Therapy is certainly not easy, but it's better than the cost of not going to therapy, which in your case, could be winding up in jail or worse.

I hope this finds you well and that you figure things out for the best.

Answer 3

Try channeling your anger into an activity. You can go running, or get a boxing bag and just keep punching it when you get angry. Another way to release anger and stress is to close your door and just scream until you feel you can't anymore. These are only short term solutions, obviously you also need to deal with the root of the problem. Anger is usually caused by a feeling of no control over a situation or event.

Answer 4

Cognitive Restructuring

Simply put, this means changing the way you think. Angry people tend to curse, swear, or speak in highly colorful terms that reflect their inner thoughts. When you're angry, your thinking can get very exaggerated and overly dramatic. Try replacing these thoughts with more rational ones. For instance, instead of telling yourself, "oh, it's awful, it's terrible, everything's ruined," tell yourself, "it's frustrating, and it's understandable that I'm upset about it, but it's not the end of the world and getting angry is not going to fix it anyhow."

Be careful of words like "never" or "always" when talking about yourself or someone else. "This !&*%@ machine never works," or "you're always forgetting things" are not just inaccurate, they also serve to make you feel that your anger is justified and that there's no way to solve the problem. They also alienate and humiliate people who might otherwise be willing to work with you on a solution.

Remind yourself that getting angry is not going to fix anything, that it won't make you feel better (and may actually make you feel worse).

Logic defeats anger, because anger, even when it's justified, can quickly become irrational. So use cold hard logic on yourself. Remind yourself that the world is "not out to get you," you're just experiencing some of the rough spots of daily life. Do this each time you feel anger getting the best of you, and it'll help you get a more balanced perspective. Angry people tend to demand things: fairness, appreciation, agreement, willingness to do things their way. Everyone wants these things, and we are all hurt and disappointed when we don't get them, but angry people demand them, and when their demands aren't met, their disappointment becomes anger. As part of their cognitive restructuring, angry people need to become aware of their demanding nature and translate their expectations into desires. In other words, saying, "I would like" something is healthier than saying, "I demand" or "I must have" something. When you're unable to get what you want, you will experience the normal reactions—frustration, disappointment, hurt—but not anger. Some angry people use this anger as a way to avoid feeling hurt, but that doesn't mean the hurt goes away.

Answer 5

Start going for long walks when you get frustrated and remove yourself from the bad environment you are stuck in...the walking will help you reduce your blood pressure, and it will also let you let off steam, and think things out...take your favorite music, and a little cash and walk or take the bus down by the boardwalk and enjoy the sunset...you are just full of testosterone and youth...and you just need to have some time for you, as we all do..you are going to be fine...

Answer 6

Try to do things to relax, sit and talk to the people you live with, watch a funny movie, treat youself to something from the shop. Go for a walk. Maybe even have one glass of beer or wine, if your allowed. I used to live in situations where I'd get real angry, and these are the things I did to cope

Answer 7

Patience. Try counting from 1-10. Reflect on why you're angry; if it's something that's not such a big deal you should realize that you've been blowing-up things that are miniscule and making a big deal about it. Write a journal to reflect on your day; internet blog or written journal whichever you prefer. If you already are using an internet blog, update often. Writing about your day/how you're feeling relieves stress. You're pouring out your frustrations to people,whether or not anyone responds or anything.

Answer 8

subsequent time it happens in simple terms take a deep breath and think of previously you act. answer those questions previously you shout or take your anger out on somebody/something...what's going to the implications be? what's going to shouting or being agressive accomplish? And maximum of all, why are you offended? whether you have a good reason to be offended, dont do something too rash, in simple terms take it gradual to think of approximately it, and ascertain it peacefully. additionally, initiate working in direction of calming down and in simple terms being calm frequently, it is going to help.

Answer 9

Anger is for righting wrongs not making new ones

Find the source and deal to it
I suggest getting your hands on a copy of The courage to heal workbook as it will walk you through getting your self a support system and dealing with your anger

Answer 10

You do need therapy and perhaps even hospitalization if you are a danger to others. Speak to your parents or a school counselor ASAP.