my mother seems to think so .. ive been goin out with this guy for what 5 years now n youd think that my parents would be comfortable with the whole thing by now.. anyway his parents r divorced n because i hardly ever see his mum, she asked me to come to her house which is 3 hours away, for 3 days, max.. however the big problem is that i have recieved my parents "blessing" to go but they make it quite blatant they have the shits about it.. my mum believes its "morally wrong" for me to go to her house? what do they think im gonna do there? i mean im still really young and im really not the kind of girl to sleep with my boy at this age let alone do it at his mums house? n they know this too.. arhh what is their problem?!
2006-12-11 18:32:34 · 12 answers · asked by tu_sweet189 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
its only wrong when you do or think bad things or your intentions are bad
2006-12-11 18:35:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a minor, staying under a different roof with your bf, presents variables and possibilities that your parents do not feel comfortable with. There is no telling what level of supervision his mum will provide. The unknowns, could lead to promiscuous behavior and bring significant consequences. It isn't worth the risk/reward. For your parents to think differently would be naive. For your own safety and protection, your parents are doing the right thing. When you are 18, then you can go visit anyone you want and do whatever...until then, better to play it safe. Besides, why do you need to go visit his mum for 3 days? Just let him go and you can see him when he returns...so there is no problem, right?
2006-12-11 18:55:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is wrong to go if your parents are unhappy about this. Whether or not they are right or wrong for their opinions and judgement as parents does not give you the authority to disobey them.
I don't mean to sound so strict with you but you will understand this one day when you become a mother. If you disagree, then get a job and a house of your own. Then you can make your own adult decisions. Until then follow their rules and don't ask questions because you are lucky to have parents that care for you and want to protect you.
2006-12-11 18:59:14 · answer #3 · answered by Mom_of_two 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anything morally wrong with this situation, but it's never fun to make others uncomfortable, even if they are your parents. Maybe your boyfriend's mother could call your mother and just chat about what's planned for your visit--just to reassure her that a real, caring person who seems sane and responsible will be looking out for you while you're there? Also, it wouldn't hurt for you to take it upon yourself to call your parents once a day or so, just to check in and say hi, while you're gone. Just to help them feel more at ease that you're OK and everything is fine. They will appreciate it.
2006-12-11 18:43:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like they think it's a bit weird for a girl to be staying over at a guy's house for three days, with little or no supervision. Don't worry about it. Just ask them why they don't want you to go. Just make sure you don't let your anger show when they're around.
2006-12-11 19:38:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents sound like my dad. lol...Anyways, sometimes it's not you your parents worry about the person your with. So maybe they just don't want you to get taken advantage of or for you too feel uncomfortable....on the other hand, you have been dating him for 5 years, so they should know him fairly well. They are probably just worried about their being no supervision and temptation getting the best of you. They love you, so they try to protect you. even when you don't feel like you need protecting...it's their job.
2006-12-11 19:24:09 · answer #6 · answered by the_conscience1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Woman
2016-05-23 08:01:36 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like they may have a concern about his mom. I agree with Mooshie, get your boyfriend's mom to call and chat with your parents about you coming to visit and chat about the plans for your visit. Maybe once they talk with her they will feel more comfortable about it. How will you be travelling there, that might be a concern they have to. You sound like a sensible girl but they have concerns you should find out what they are.
2006-12-11 18:53:53 · answer #8 · answered by dini 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing morally wrong with just going to her house. Your parents are going a little overboard.
2006-12-12 03:38:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you’ve received your parents blessing because they trust you and know you won’t do anything wrong.
Their problem is that they are worried about your reputation.
They don’t want other people to think that you’re doing bad things.
Sure, you could say “well I don’t care what other people think.”
But they love you and don’t want anyone to think anything but good of you.
2006-12-11 23:00:26 · answer #10 · answered by Louw D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you seem to be a smart girl. Its great that your parents gave you there blessing, but its obvouse that it really does not matter. You want to go so go. It seems to me you don't think the same as you parent. you know you. do wat you need to do.
2006-12-11 18:38:14 · answer #11 · answered by gord's360 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋