I've been with my bf for almost 3 yrs now. I realize that things change and it will never be like how it was the first few months but I feel that he is putting in absolutely no effort and taking me for granted. I feel all I do is rant, rave and complain--I'm getting sick of it and I'm pretty sure he's getting sick of listening to me. I don't feel that he is taking me seriously at all. He says sorry then continues to do the same thing. FYI...we were living together for 2 yrs and now we are long distance thing. I do love him, but he's too damn lazy, what should I do??
2006-12-11 18:21:43 · 9 answers · asked by sapnokirani 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it's time to move on ... effort and commitment are all integral parts of a relationship and it it's not there, then it's not a healthy one. It's awesome when you find someone that you can spend the rest of your life with, but in all honesty, that takes trial and error... as in, you need to date a certain number of people before you actually figure out what it is that want in a partner or mate... yes, you might love these people you spend time with, but love in itself is NOT a reason to stay together... you also need to be compatible so you don't drive each other up the wall, which is apparently what is happening to you... things won't change, sorry to tell you... you can either settle or move on, which of course is going to hurt like hell at first... good luck!
2006-12-11 18:28:24 · answer #1 · answered by Just Me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate the long distance thing, that's what i am doing now. We talk everyday on the internet but if I don't get a text, I begin to wonder if he is taking me for granted too, but then again maybe I am becoming too needy.. I am thinking of not texting him or e-mailing him for a couple of days to remind him what it's like without me, and test him. lol. Maybe you should do the same...
Maybe if he misses you he will realize what he could lose. By you ranting and raving, he may be enjoying all the attention. Don't be mean, just aloof.. And if he doesn't appreciate you, someone else will. :)
2006-12-12 02:27:01 · answer #2 · answered by I carry your heart with me... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its getting stagnant, Is either you get out of there or just start anew again... bringing back the magic you once had. If you can't think that it will ever happen again, then its really time to let go
2006-12-12 02:24:07 · answer #3 · answered by The Babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actions speak louder than words. If he does not follow thru on what he agrees to I would have to say that you need to spend some time on your own. Discover who you are, what you need, and then go from there. Any relationship is not better than no realationship. Be true to yourself, and don't settle.
2006-12-12 02:30:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys are just lazy, and in regards to that first three months, its usually like that, happened to me and my g/f too. and its not that when u tell us not do something that we dont listen, its just that its a constant habit that we do unconsciously...sowwy for being men :)
2006-12-12 02:26:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A WOMEN COULD MAKE WHATEVER SHE WANTS FROM A MEN.
U HAVE TO STOP WHAT EVER U THING U SHOULD NOT BE DOING . GIVE HIM SPACE
BUT KEEP HIM UNDER YOUR NOSE.
2006-12-12 02:30:01 · answer #6 · answered by answer man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TEll him to get a job.
2006-12-12 02:29:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him and get with someone esle and have him repalced
2006-12-12 02:27:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don\'t involve,
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2006-12-12 02:25:04 · answer #9 · answered by dana brown 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋