Me and my ex boyfriend are like best frinds he tells me stuff and I tell him whats going on with me. Of and on we party together and make out once in a while but when we have sex we don't just have sex he makes love to me like when we was together and in love. He even tells me he loves me sometimes, and in my times of needs help me out alot, anything I want he gives me. But we can't be together cause he wants to explore his horizons, should I forget about him and seriously move on with my life? I moved on but his kinda still in the picture since i still do make out with him. Oh and one more thing he always get long distant relationships, insted of someone here with him. What does that tell you.
2006-12-11 18:20:16 · 15 answers · asked by Bubblez 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The fact that he is always in long distance relationships kinda tells me that maybe he doesnt want to deal with the obligations of a relationship right now. Especially because he wants to "explore his horizons", it doesn't seem like he wants to settle down. He may want to be with you, He may love you, but I don't think he has realized that yet. Keep your best friend and keep your options open. Who knows what could happen in the future...
2006-12-11 18:26:51 · answer #1 · answered by sapnokirani 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it love?
It sounds like the sex was the best part about your relationship and that is why you still sleep with him. And when the two of you come together, everything seems so natural just as if he never left.
Well the truth of the matter is, you're still treating him as if he is still your man, so that makes being together so easy for the two of you. You're not over him, and I think you are settling for whatever it is that he has to offer. This whole piece of conversation isn't about him, it's about you and the decisions you are making by still being sexually involved with him.
You may call it making love when the two of you get around to having sex. If you notice, he's telling you that he loves you (while in bed) he telling you that he loves having sex with you.
Yes you should move on with your life. Not unless you like living off of the false hopes. As long as you have feelings for him, you are only misleading and confusing yourself everytime you sleep with him. You keep thinking that someday he is going to want to return to you and have that relationship the two of you used to have.
Again, this is not about him, it's about the choices you are making. Being friends with him doesn't mean you have to sleep with him. He has moved on and is doing exactly what he said he wanted to do and that was to explore.....
He's content to be having both worlds. You as a sex partner and others as more sex partners. Are you okay with this? You can't be, so move on and stop giving away your goodies.
2006-12-12 02:39:30 · answer #2 · answered by Tired of being Mr. Nice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i am actually in the same situation i wish i could listen to my own advice but it sounds like he still has some feeling for you. but to be with you he will have to give up some of his dreams and that scares him. i think you should tell him that he needs to go and try to fulfill his dreams and when he is done to give you a call and you need to try to move on i mean don't just set around and think about him get out and do things. but if it is ment to be he will call and you guys will still have feelings for each other and it will be happy ending. but the letting go part is extremely hard i know. Tell him to think about the past and the future and ask him what has made him happy and what does he think will continue to keep making him happy. But over all just do what makes you happy that is what will matter in the end. Let me know how it goes.
2006-12-12 02:26:53 · answer #3 · answered by jbird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he wants you around so he can have someone around intimately when he isn't messing around with the long-distant women. Kind of like the saying "have your cake and eat it too." You do not deserve this and should move on and find someone else. Do you really want to be put second or third or whenever he has time for you away from the others?
2006-12-12 02:31:27 · answer #4 · answered by It's just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is childish and not ready for serious relationship.You should stop sleeping with him and move on you are only hurting yourself because you are living in denial.Get on with your life and when he is ready and you'll both still have feelings for each other you guys can hook up ,but get someone else but don't enter another relationship with baggage start fresh.Your ex still wants he's bread butte rd both ways, put a stop to it.
2006-12-12 02:30:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pre-marital sex is harmful to any and all relationships. It creates a hollow and fake bond between two people. Relationships need to be based on true emotional connections and common interests, not physical intimacy. Withhold the sex (and make out sessions) and see where your friendship stands.
2006-12-12 02:28:50 · answer #6 · answered by Illuminated 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him about whats going on and find out how he feels. It may be fun and feel good now but your only going to end up hurt. If he doesn't want a relationship you need to move on, stop making out with him and def stop sleeping with him. I know its hard ( i just broke up with my bf of 2 yrs) but it will get better with time. Try and find someone else who wants you and you only!
2006-12-12 02:24:22 · answer #7 · answered by Onie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. If you cant see what he's really doing, hes using you. thats what it sounds like anyways. "Girls say I love you to get love, Guys say I love you to get Sex" now, thats not always true in every case.. but in this one I find it to be true. Move on, maybe he'll realize he cares after he sees you're moving on.
2006-12-12 02:29:27 · answer #8 · answered by Amneh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your time obsessing about someone who doesn't love you. Move on and find someone who does.
2006-12-12 02:23:10 · answer #9 · answered by John L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesnt want you. Sounds like he doesnt want anyone else seriously either. Move on.
2006-12-12 02:22:34 · answer #10 · answered by freshbliss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋