Okay so i have been with my bf on and off for about i year and 4 months and we are engaged.Im not jealous of his family i just dont like his sister cuz she has caused him to smoke pot and be irresposble when he promised me he wouldnt anymore.and the relatioship sith his mom bugs me he is 19 and he has a joint account with his mommy and he has always been like a mommas boy.i just want to know if my feelings are wrong or if im some what right about my feelings.Like hes on his moms cell phone plan and she pays his bills for him when he gives her the money and stuff and it just bugs me.Everything he has his moms in on it with him and they are just sooo close and i wonder if it will always be like that will he ever be able to grow up.theres more but not enough room to type so please people i need your answers???
2006-12-11 18:11:49 · 8 answers · asked by amber p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes he's a momma's boy... which means he's not mature enough to marry you... a man shall leave his mother and father and cling to his wife... he should have already been independent and mature already if he wants to marry somebody...quite frankly he's not ready for marriage he just doesn't want you to go anywhere and be with anyone else...if he doesn't even have a separate account for the wedding yet then... sorry to say he's not ready for the seriousness of marriage... what he thinks is you're gonna take the place of his moms-. You gotta see him take initiative and man up...otherwise u gonna marry a momma's boy
2006-12-11 18:19:51 · answer #1 · answered by cookiecrys 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok heres the deal. Boys will always be momma's little man and girls will always be daddy's princess. Guys will always subconsciensly compare thier future lovers with mom. Not much you can do about it. How much they stay on mom's tit is another question. You have to remember that he is still young and has not broken away from mom. If she still coddles him and refuses to wheen him off the tit than you have real issues that will not be solved here. If you haven't talked to him and expressed your concerns you might want to think about that. Remember this is a very touchy subject and should be approached as such. In the end if it doesn't work out in your favor chalk it up to a learning expirence.
2006-12-11 18:22:28 · answer #2 · answered by onebadmedic01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same prob with my bf, now ex-bf. He always did what his parents thought was best and hes 23! We had a couple of problems and instead of talkin to me he went straight to them and just ended it, they dont like me so im not surprised. What im saying is that you need to talk to him about it if you want to be with him, but try to say things in a positive light. I mean if you guys r engaged he should be able to do things himself! If it doesnt stop then it never will and you will regret marrying a mommas boy!
2006-12-11 18:18:33 · answer #3 · answered by Onie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't matter if he's a momma's boy or not... This is a boy who is not mature enough to get married. Period.
Do not blame his mother, or his sister for his behaviour. These are his choices, and they do not force him to do anything. I would re-evaluate this relationship, and definetly put off the engagement until a later date. You do not need this sort of stress.
2006-12-11 18:14:14 · answer #4 · answered by shaclare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's 19 he's not mature enough to get married. It is normal for people to be supporting their kids until they are in their 20s. You both need to be mature and stable before you think about settling down.
2006-12-11 18:32:42 · answer #5 · answered by ami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having the mom on the bank account and the cell phone bill isn't necessarily a bad thing -- it's quite practical sometimes. But does he depend on his mother still or is it just a relationship of convenience. That's definitely something you'll want to figure out as his future spouse.
And, please, please, think carefully about your decision to marry someone who has done drugs. No matter who pressured him to do it, he was the one who inhaled.
2006-12-11 18:17:39 · answer #6 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
positive & negative. If he's a "momma's boy" he will treat you well. If she has not taught him to be responsible for his own bills etc.... it may be a problem. TALK about your concerns with him
2006-12-11 18:24:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just hurry ^ and get married and then see where things take yall.
2006-12-11 18:15:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋