My boyfriend & I been together for a month & he told me he loved me last week but this wekend when i went to see him i asked him if he truely ment it? He got really mad that i asked him that....Will he forgive me?
2006-12-11 18:06:26 · 16 answers · asked by Angel Baby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Of course i told him I loved him too..But also he bottles things up,he doesn't tell me how he feels or what he's going though...It's hard for me to be supportive of his feelings or whatever he's going though if i don't know what he's going though...
2006-12-11 18:26:33 · update #1
So What should I do?
2006-12-11 18:40:11 · update #2
yes
2006-12-11 18:09:31 · answer #1 · answered by 2dogs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, a month is too early for some guy to tell you that he loves you... ask him what is love and see if he can answer that the answer can not include anything that has to do with lust.. sex, the way you look, or "just wanting to be with you" that's not legit... when he says something like love is being patient, being kind, enduring the hardships... through thick and thin stuff like that then you know its love... and love waits. He is immature for getting upset at you for asking. His response if he really did love you and is not just obsessed with you or lusting for you should have been something more loving...= ) if he doesn't forgive you he's still an immature boy in his mind you need a man who can handle the tough questions...
2006-12-12 02:12:57 · answer #2 · answered by cookiecrys 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Angel Baby, I realize that saying the words can be a big deal for some people...and not very important for others. So let's look at the basics of a loving relationship. If two people love each other, one of the things this means is accepting the other person with warts and bad breath and all. Including dumb questions. Tell him the question was dumb. If he makes a big deal about it, then ask him why he is so upset. Does his love for you demand that you accept him without question, unconditionally? Does he reciprocate? Will he accept you without question? If so, this means accepting your questions...as you must accept his questions. Your question was valid...but if he thinks it wasn't, why won't he accept that you asked a non-valid question? During your forthcoming relationship (if it continues), one or the other of you will certainly ask something that offends the other. Learn to live with it. That's life.
2006-12-12 02:13:59 · answer #3 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sure he will forgive you! He just got his feelings hurt.
Seems he opened up and poured his feelings out to you. And You in turn Question his Heart.
He will get over it though...if Not he is probably too one-sided to have a meaningful relationship with anyway! Good luck
2006-12-12 02:12:48 · answer #4 · answered by Mikez Bad Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He shouldnt have got mad over that? I mean you and him have only been together for a month. You need to talk to him and let him know that you didnt mean anything by what you said you were just assuring yourself he meant his word. I dont think he will stay mad, he prob got embarrassed and thought you were asking him that because you didnt say anything and he is prob thinking he shouldnt have said it so soon. Let him know that you dont mind that he said it you just want him to mean it. Good luck girl
2006-12-12 02:23:15 · answer #5 · answered by munchkin0430 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing to forgive. You have the right to know if it was just a spur of the moment emotion or if he is serious. From his reaction I would say it was the former.
2006-12-12 02:10:45 · answer #6 · answered by Everyman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should.... if he said that, he meant it. People do not generally use the L word to joke.
Apologize to him next time you see him, and say something like you just wanted to make sure he was in this as much as you are.
2006-12-12 02:09:45 · answer #7 · answered by shaclare 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, he will forgive you. Just don't bring it up again and act really nice to him.
Have you told him that you love him too? Maybe that is what he is really mad about.
2006-12-12 02:11:38 · answer #8 · answered by James A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kitten... geese... calm down..... young love.. aint it great.
and the boyfriend didn't need to over-react and your just fine whether he loves you or not... so just go back too being b/f,g/f/ and enjoy the ride while it lasts.... and yes he will forgive you.. you are just tooo sweet not too.
2006-12-12 02:13:14 · answer #9 · answered by Maken trax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly loves you like he said, then yes.
2006-12-12 02:26:29 · answer #10 · answered by roxanne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋