my mother was my dads mistres he had 3 boys with his wife and 2 kids with my mother.he left befor i was born and never herd from him untill i was 22 when he wanted to play daddy i told him to kiss my azz.he didnt want us befor so why now.he told my mom when i was born tht i wasnt his because i was a girl some family members told me i was wrong to keep him my life.but i look at it this if we didnt meen any thing to him befor why should i let him in now.he was a drunk and abused my mother,he didnt just leave my family he left his other family too.he said he was going to visit his brother for 2 weeks but never came back .this has been my biggest nightmare.i would wake up and start crying becaues i would dream that he was coming back.i have since moved away and so has my mother and he still found us.
2006-12-11 17:49:32 · 9 answers · asked by x 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Follow your heart, and he sounds horrid, I think you are right!
2006-12-11 17:54:34 · answer #1 · answered by yewny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to talk to him if you don't want to. He obviously didn't want to have anything to do with you for 22 years so why does he all of a sudden realize that he has a daughter?
My grandmother was technically my grandfather's mistress. Although he wouldn't let her think that he was. He always has an excuse for everything. And was either not with his wife, leaving him wife, staying with him wife till her rich aunt dies then he will divorce her, blah blah blah blah. Just recently he pretended he was dying and tried to get my father to come see him. The only reason why he wanted my father to come see him is because non of his other children are willing to take him in. And he is to cheap to get his own place and pay bills. He has enough money that he can afford a nicer and bigger apartment than myself. And is actually healthy enough mentally and physcally to live on his own ( Everyone one of his doctors say so)
2006-12-12 01:58:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that everyone makes mistakes. Some people live the way they were brought up themselves. You can not put a man down for the choices he made. He has to live with that and face judgement. Recall all the mistakes you made in life and ask yourself were you the perfect person.
It takes some people longer than others to grow and realize the mistakes that they have made. Believe me your father knows that he was not the perfect father, but if he is trying to be a better person let him. You are grown now and shouldn't be holding on to the past. Allow him to become a better person and teach him how to love.
Life is short. My father was my bestfriend and past last year. I couldn't imagine not knowing him. Every person bring something special to our lives, so let your father bring his.
2006-12-12 02:26:43 · answer #3 · answered by Miss. Tee98 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, sadly you are wrong.
Your must count your blessings and remember that without him, you wouldn't be born, and you are still considered lucky as you are born in this situation, where you can use the internet and own a computer.
Without him, there is a possibility you are born in a very poor country where food is scarce and health is a big problem.
You said he called you, that meant he has learned his pass mistakes and wants to correct himself, and that also shows that he actually cares for you. He maybe lying out there in the streets alone, because nobody wants to trust him and forgive him. He must have learned his mistakes, and so you must learn to forgive.
2006-12-12 02:51:16 · answer #4 · answered by Bradian M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know we have all done things in our past we would like to make up for. I am now 26 and just recently my father came back after all those years.
I was at first like you, mad angry didn't want him around but then I changed.
He is your father, and maybe he wants to change what was in the past. I know he can't make for it, and he knows it but maybe if you give him a second chance. Just ask him, why he left why he did all of that, I am sure he will listen and answer it.
If after that question, the answer isn't good enough. Then you can tell him to stop comming into your life. Just try
2006-12-12 02:09:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like a bad situation your in my advise would be to talk to him or try to ,it will help i mean the bull-**** he had done emotional mentally it's hurting you so give it a talk and helpfully his eyes will open up.the reason i say this is my sister and i was not close until 1 year before she died so be honest and follow your inside heart of thinking if you believe in god pray he will help when know one can. and don't hold nothing back tell it like it is. if your ever need to chat I'm at rpdiversitytt@sbcglobal.net
2006-12-12 02:07:37 · answer #6 · answered by birdie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow ur heart..
this guy doesnt seem to be genuine..then again all of us may be wrong.since u are goin thru this situation,only u can be the judge.
if u feel u want to give hima chance then u have all the right to do so...then again if u feel ur not comfortable with him around in ur life then it would be better to stay away.
all the best.
2006-12-12 02:04:56 · answer #7 · answered by bianca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.it's bad for a daughter/son to bear a grudge against her/his parents.I know what you feel.Just be thankful you know your father because there are many kids out there who haven't seen or knew their father at all.
2006-12-12 03:02:17 · answer #8 · answered by JOHANN L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a very hard one to answer. my dad was an ***. slept with the babysitter from church. mom got rid of him. he married the babysitter. forgive him. men are stupid. only think with the wrong head. see what he has to say. if he is still a drunken ***, right him off
2006-12-12 15:39:17 · answer #9 · answered by anna s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋