under stress! need help?

Question

ok im 14 and im under alot of stress ok well this year has been a crapy year i hate it i have so many assingments and iv been teased i had a major fight with my friends and alot of other **** has happend like my grandad going into hospilte my mum has been down there to look after my nan and my sister has been acting like mum I HATE IT she tells me 2 do every thing and it pisses me off i try to tell her to stop but she doesnt i cry alot but not around people becuse i dont like to let people see me cry i yell at her and scream i feel like i wanna kill her but i cant im a mess i shake and im very self consuse IM ALSO UGLY i no i am but my friends and family say im not but the guys say i am what can i do i love my sister but i cant handle this stress any more!!!! HELP

Answer 1

Pray.

Go for a run and put you energy into that.

Take a bath or something relaxing.

Pray.

Revisit the matter when you feel bigger than the situation.

Answer 2

Reduce Stress By Exercising
http://stress-reduction4.blogspot.com/2006/09/reduce-stress-by-exercising.html

Answer 3

First of all, calm down. I know what it's like to have your world feel like it's crashing down. Know this - This too shall pass. Nothing lasts forever, although you might not see the light at the end of the tunnel. Sometimes there's not much you can do, worrying won't help a bit, it'll just make you sick, You're young, don't feel like you need to solve every problem. Also, I know big sisters are annoying (I'm one myself), but try to understand she's probably under alot of stress also, she's just trying to make sure everything is ok for everyone. Besides, fighting with her takes alot more from you, then just cooperating in the first place (most of the time, at least).Anyway, try not to worry. Check out this website: www.radiou.com, it's a really awesome radio station you can stream for free (my favorite), they have a hotline you can call to talk to someone if you need. Check it out, I promise it's worth the time...

Answer 4

I can understand why your upset with your sister but try looking at it like this. With your mother being gone so much your sister probably feels like she needs to take over the role of your mother in order for the family to run. It can't be easy for her as well with your grandma in the hospital and your mom gone. Plus she has to watch out for you. I'm guessing your sister is also a teenager? In which case you have to also understand that you sister isn't going to act like a perfect parent. She'll probably yell at you over stupid and silly things. So when she does that don't get angry just accept that she isn't perfect but she is probably doing the best she can to look out for you and your family. At some point things will get back to normal, you just have to hang in there till then.
As for being ugly, you wouldn't believe how many teens think they are ugly! Even the so called "pretty" ones. It's tough with all the images of beauty you see in the meadia, the teen harmones, and the preasure of beauty at school. However beauty is in the eye of the beholder. So some guys think your ugly? Guess what, there are some guys other there that think your the most beautful girl ever!

Answer 5

You are not alone, try and calm down and maybe think about getting into excercise or something!!! The definition of insanity is doing the same thing you have been doing and thinking you might get different results. Get your body /mind in shape, it will make you feel good about yourself.Do push ups sit ups or run or bike or anything positive than what you are doing now.Dont ever say you are ugly again. You are not ugly and you are made just right--in the eyes of the Lord. Say things like this out loud when you are alone- I am smart - I am made just right - I should honor my mother -- I am not confused - I dont want to kill anyone - I would never do that - I am fearfully and wonderfully made - I am what I am, help me accept that - God help me - God thanks for helping me - I dont want to die - I want to live - I want to help someone I should take my eyes off myself and think about others

Answer 6

Hello Katie,
You need to find someone to talk to! Do you have a minister or a trusted family member you could talk to? How about a counselor at school or even your family doctor?
You could even call a crisis help line if there is one in your area (you sound like you are in England).
Katie, a lot of people care about you, believe it or not. I care about you, even though I've never met you and probably never will meet you. I've also been through hellish times in my life when I felt really bad about everything, so I know what I am talking about when I say "You need to talk to a trusted someone". Please know this: you are not alone, even though you feel that way. Believe it or not, a lot of people your age go through such feelings, although each in their own situation. Katie, I hope this helps, at least a little bit.

Answer 7

It is terrible to be stressed, experience speaking here. You should tale to your mum about how you are feeling. Call some of your friends and explain to them that you are under stress and you are sorry about the fight and would they come over or have you over and talk about your stress. Tell your sister she is not you mother and shouldn't order you around, but, you should help do some work around the house until your mom is able to do more. Talk to your guidance director at school and tell him/her that you are getting stressed about your assignments. Good Luck. Ask God to help you. God Bless and good luck.

Answer 8

Conquer stress - with a hobby : is a very cost effective and a natural way to help you de-stress.
Check out the following article and learn from it.
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Answer 9

Fast Forward a 20 Years...
You have a kid...(7 years old)
you love him a lot...
everyday you wakeup with lots of love in your heart...
by afternoon you find your kid bringing you lots of trouble from outside...
5 things to manage...
1.not to react hard on your kid
2.have to dilute the problem
3.cannot make false promises
4.have to teach your kid right things
5.be smart and kind and responsible and protective and humble and more

case 2:
would you like to yell at your neighbours or your kid?
would you want to kill your neighbours or your kid?

Stress:

You have to learn a lot in stress.
dont avoid stress,
accept it, manage it and overcome it.
and thus you become WISE.