I havent seen my bf in over 10 days now. i thought i'd give him space as he said he was having probs with work and such. I txt him yesterday and he hasnt even txt back,it's not like him to be this quiet with me,the first month was great but now everythings changed. He doesnt even bother to come and chat with me at work anymore and it's hurting me. He also doesnt call when he says he will. Shall i send him a txt today at work and ask for a chat to see if he's still interested or not or shall i just give him more space?
2006-12-11 17:44:02 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Doesn't look good.. he is obviously showing he doesn't want to be with you anymore. Sorry, but no loving boyfriend would treat their girl like this. Move on, he's not man enough to tell you or talk to you, instead leaving you in a state of limbo - you deserve better. Dont be a mug hanging on, show you've moved on and dont care about him.
2006-12-11 17:49:27 · answer #1 · answered by Frankie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's been your bf for 10 days. You need to be careful when you say anything to him. Giving space is okay for a short time but if he cares about you you need to trust him and he needs to trust you. Never mind the text messaging...it's too impersonal. Go and see him. Be calm and collected. Ask him if this "relationship" is going to go anywhere and share your concerns that you have felt abandoned. Conversation is key to any relationship. Whether the answer is positive or not at least you will be able to move on or find the love of your life.
2006-12-12 01:50:19 · answer #2 · answered by danielm_59 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Giving him space is a good idea since he is already gone. He's not your boyfriend any more in his mind, just in yours. I'm sorry :-( If he wanted to keep you, he should have stayed in contact with you, so it sounds more like he is done and moved on. You could always dedicate the Trick Pony song Now Would Be the Time on his radio station if you are unsure he has given up, but it sure sounds like it to me.
Sorry hon, it isn't easy, but it does get better.
2006-12-12 01:48:36 · answer #3 · answered by Star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, he just doesn't want you anymore. I'm sorry if that sounds cold. When you keep calling him and texting him, that's crowding him. Just move on. If he wanted to talk to you, he would respond. He just doesn't have the balls to break it off with you. Its hard to move on but look for a guy who gives you the respect you deserve. I've encountered jerks so I know what you mean.
2006-12-12 01:51:36 · answer #4 · answered by Somechicknamednicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg, i'm having the same problem. everything was fine, can't think of anything i said or did that would make him mad. i sent him a note tonight asking if everything is ok, and telling him that i miss talking to him and i'm here if he wants to chat but other than that i'm gonna just leave him be. certainly don't want to be the "stalker", or really making him irritated. let me know what happens??
2006-12-12 01:48:04 · answer #5 · answered by sag.grrrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might still be experiencing the problems at work that you were talking about. Either that or he's decided to take a break. Either way, don't put on too much pressure.
2006-12-12 02:12:04 · answer #6 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had the same problem before. The best way to deal with it is to ignore them, as they ignored you and go on with your life. I know it hurts but there is nothing that can really be done because he is too cowardly to tell you straight up what the problem is. You will have to find closure on your own.
2006-12-12 01:56:23 · answer #7 · answered by Rabble Rouser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he needs more space....without you in it.....you might try this...txt him that you hope he gets straightened out and to let you know when and if that happens....and a hint....don't hold your breathe.
2006-12-12 01:51:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not REALLY work because you are REALLY not knowing how to go about with him in talking terms everyday to get along well.
2006-12-12 01:52:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was having difficulty at work and you decided to abandon him. How special!
2006-12-12 01:52:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋