how do you find a guy?

Question

i'm 20 years old, never had a bf, never been kissed, never had sex. this was by choice. i've had plenty chances (i have an AWESOME personality and am pretty good looking...although i never talk about my looks, i don't like to talk about it...it seems egotistical), but i didn't take them up because i felt relationships before college were bogus and silly. but now, i've never felt more ready to date.

all my friends say "it just happens...when you least expect it." and i know it's true, but how? when? i meet sooooo many people. i'm involved in two internships at school, i have a job, i volunteer, i'm a double major, i'm on a hip hop dance team....but none of the guys i meet seems to do and no one has asked me out. i also have very high standards and friends say tell me not to settle...but how do you meet someone? and guys...would you want a girl to ask you out or does that come off as desperate or weird?

Answer 1

EVEN THOUGH I NEVER LISTENED MY PASTOR ONCE SAID INSTEAD OF TRYING TO FIND SOMEONE WHY DONT U PRAY TO GOD TO PUT THE RIGHT PERSON FOR YOU IN YOUR LIFE TRY IT YOU'D BE SUPRISE AT THINGS HE DOES ON BEHALF OF PRAYER.

Answer 2

Some guys are shy when it comes to girls. Some of the best ones are anyway! I don't see anything wrong with a girl asking a guy out for a date - - - - but usually it's a good idea to start off getting to know each other by meeting at the movies or something like that. My son is 20 also. He has very high standards too, and he will not settle for less. He gets impatient sometimes, but he knows that God has someone perfect for him in the future. It's just a matter of time.

Answer 3

I am a lot older and had the same question. I bit the bullet a went with E-Harmony. It is amazing the companionship is the best I have ever known and we think alot alike. Now I have the problem of which to choose.

Answer 4

be yourself and smile at the universe and be approchable when you are out and about It's pretty much gonna be killin you to do this but that's what it's gona take. that's what makes the guys come. you're probably going through a dry spell and you should NEVER settle because you WONT be happy. trust me on this. you're always gonna feel like you lowered your standards. some times require you to wait. this may be one f them.

Answer 5

The most important relationship any of us have is with ourselves. So, honor yourself. Recognize that you are the greatest person on earth...and your own best friend. Honor yourself. Celebrate yourself. And love yourself. If you truly love yourself, in the sense that you are comfortable with who you are, then others will find you. The Universe follows the Rule of Attraction (see ); like attracts like. So if you recognize your own integrity, you will attract others who recognize their integrity. Look at a person's friends and that will tell you a lot about what that person thinks about themself. So honor yourself and you sill find another, many others, who will honor you by the way they are. If you grab someone just to be with someone, you won't feel honored by he experience and neither will he. You will find someone. Trust yourself.

Answer 6

wow, you could ask me out anytime. I can't believe you have never been kissed though, didn't you go on dates in high school? Dances? you kind of missed out on a lot but we could more than make up for it. I'll put on a few Air Supply tunes and romance you to nirvana

Answer 7

You can't force love. Take things slow and before you know it, you'll have several men at your door! Hint: Clear your schedual for some fun time to just hang out at your favorite cafe or dance club!!!!!!

Answer 8

you just gotta give it time, or you gotta take a few risks, yeah you might get rejected a time or 2 but its just part of the whole thing, and as it relates to girls askin guys out, there isnt anything wrong with it, its not that uncommon anymore really, best of luck to you, hopefully you get to where you're wanting to go

Answer 9

Hey u shouldn't be so sad any more.i think that guys wont get u as a gf if u stick urself to them.also i know a website named ''LOVE HAPPENS''i hope u find s.o u like 4 ur self! good luck...

Answer 10

when time comes your inner will tell you that this is the right mate and then when you start no body will trun you off