My ex, whom I was (and still am) in love with, broke up with me for no apparent reason. He's very religious and claims it's because God told him to but everyone I know, who also know him, say that they think someone close to him told him not to date me. No one understands why he did it, his aunt even said he was crazy about me and it made no sense.
He keeps sending me mixed signals. Like he'll send me a text message and ask how I am and we'll talk for 2 or 3 hours then I won't hear from him until I contact him and it seems as though he doesn't want to talk. So, I was thinking about meeting him face to face and asking for another chance. How should I go about doing it; should I even do it?
2006-12-11 17:26:27 · 14 answers · asked by pixiexdust 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Asking for another chance almost never works. The best thing you can do is leave him alone. If he loves you and wants to be with you, he will find that out soon enough. If he does decide to come back, be very careful about the whole thing. In the mean time, spend time with friends, see other guys, and keep yourself busy. Don't be too available when he calls. After talking to him for a few minutes, tell him you have to run. Don't always answer his calls--let him leave messages. Mostly, get a life and let him know you're not sitting around waiting for him to decide if he will be so generous as to take you back!
2006-12-11 17:35:10 · answer #1 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him. He broke up with you for a reason. The signals are mixed because you are still receiving them, erase his number from your phone, ignore him. A man should love you enough to show interest, if he does not, overwhelmingly, he's just not that into you. Don't listen to friends and family, they are just trying to make you feel better, move on, move on, move on. He thinks you are friends that's why you talk and then don't talk, Do not ask for another chance, that is desperate and sad. Find a guy that is interested in you and stop chasing the one guy in the world that doesn't want you. Stop being a door mat and take life by the balls. Be the flame not the moth!
2006-12-11 17:39:12 · answer #2 · answered by Cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy does not know who his is, what he wants or where he is going? He hurt you and continues to hurt you.
You should stop dwelling on him and figure out why you want to be with him. You probably like the person you are when you are with him. If he makes you like yourself better the attraction is easy to mistake for liking him. It is that you like YOU better.
Once you recognize that a guy can hurt you so much without cause, he will always do it, no matter what. If you do not mind being hurt you should seek counceling from a good theripist.
If you ask him to take you back, you will always be beholding to him and will eventually hate him and yourself for being so needy.
Use your time to grow in a positive direction. I am so very sorry to tell you this.
It maybe that you need to reclaim the parts of yourself that you gave him. If so, approach him as a friend and you can deal with him much better than if you approach him as a romance interest.
Think about it and treat yourself very well, not badly. There are enough people who are readily available to treat you badly, you do not need to.
Good luck and read and reread this reply if you can, not because it is so good but because you need to understand what I am suggesting.
The She Beast
2006-12-11 17:43:08 · answer #3 · answered by The She Beast 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No no no no......You can always tell if someone wants to be with you by the time they want to spend with you. If he can go day's without talking to you, then he doesn't have that desire to be with you that you have for him. Sounds to me like he kicks it with you when he's bored. I know, i do it right now to a couple of guy's...Find you someone else and it will be a lot easier getting over him....Good Luck
2006-12-11 17:35:55 · answer #4 · answered by Jackie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So touching I remember when I usta fall for a guy and it took forever to get over him, but I made it and guess what I'm still here. Listen this guy might mean trouble for you.
2006-12-11 17:34:29 · answer #5 · answered by fe2bsho 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
god cant tell anyone what to do (if he even real) i think u should talk to him. thats tha best thing u can do. even if he dont feel tha some way, at least u will kno and u can move on with yr life. good luck!
2006-12-11 17:40:35 · answer #6 · answered by katie_lynn614 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pixiedust, ask how you can best honor yourself. You are the best person you know. You are great and wonderful. If he can't see that, do you really want to be with him? Sure he may be great but he has a judgment handicap...he doesn't recognize your greatness. So why bother with him? Pixie, honor yourself. You are great. Celebrate yourself. You are wonderful. Are you honoring yourself by chasing after him? Does he honor you? Show me who a person sleeps with and I will show you what that person thinks about himself/herself. Show me a person's friends and, again, I will show you what that person thinks about themself. Honor yourself.
2006-12-11 17:33:30 · answer #7 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as far as love is concerned,u should go ahead n face to face talking with him sincerely.u must try to find out if he still loves u.if yes,contact him always,if not go away from him as far as u can.
best wishes.
2006-12-11 17:52:19 · answer #8 · answered by robert KS LEE. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you do unlike him that way, then why harm him back by using going out with him whilst your coronary heart's no longer into it. i comprehend he's making you sense undesirable, yet you will sense even worse in case you acquire your self right into a relationship your no longer commited to.
2016-10-05 05:10:12 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go for it. Don't ever leave yourself wondering what if. Trust me you will regret it if you don't at least try. oh and that is only if you really love him.
2006-12-11 17:30:14 · answer #10 · answered by lucky 13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋