OK...here is my problem, please someone help...I used to be very positive, loved how I dressed and everything. I have a very nice body, and I am very beautiful...I am not a B**** or a Wh*** however when I go out in public, which I live in a very small minded bible belt town, I get stared at, laughed at, talked about, and just overall rude remarks from females....guys check me out, girls hate me, the problem comes from the fact I have developed severe anxiety from all this bullsh** and when I go out, no matter what I know, or think, I think there is something wrong with me because of how I am looked at....even if I know there isn't...It ruins my time, I can't focus on anything but being looked at and I want to just break down and cry. I don't want to change how I dress...or anything about me...but I am losing it, and I don't know how to get better...girls are so mean to me...I can't even have them as friends...any help???
2006-12-11 17:23:02 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tough situation. Tough because there's no way to change how others act...only how you react. So, let's start with learning to love yourself. You are the greatest person you know. You are your own best friend. You know yourself better than anyone. Nobody knows you like you know yourself. If you truly love yourself...in the good way of feeling comfortable with yourself, then what others say or think about you isn't going to be important to you. You can't change how others react. But you can change how you deal with their reactions. I know, it's easy to say "just ignore them". You have to live with it. You do have the option of leaving. If you must stay, for whatever reason, then you will have to decide whether you are going to let "others" get to you or ignore them. Support yourself, honor yourself, celebrate yourself...you are the greatest person you know. The rest can go to hell. Be true to yourself, honest with yourself and don't worry about what others think...you'll never be able to change them anyway.
2006-12-11 17:28:55 · answer #1 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I imagine they are jealous. They may have just been taught that if you don't wear skirts that come down to the ankle and shirts that cover all the way up to the jawline then you are a wh***. I live in the heart of the Bible belt so I am familar with some of the culture that is taught. Look in the mirror and give yourself an honest appraisal. If you see you are dressed fine ...then just be a nice person and then all the snobs will dissolve and you will find real friends. You don't want to make friends with the girls that stare, laugh and make rude remarks to you anyway.
2006-12-11 17:28:46 · answer #2 · answered by rcpaden 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you are comfortable with how you look, dress, and act then i would say that people reject what they are afraid of, jealous of or whatever. if you are not insecure with yourself then you need to see those other people as disliking you because they envy you.people judge others all day long mainly because they are unhappy with themselves. don't change yourself for others to like you, only change for you. i think if this is causing you to have severe anxiety then maybe there is something you are not liking about you, i totally know where you are coming from when you say smallminded bible belt town. grew up there too and i dealt with the same type of thing. you don't get better so girls or guys will be your friend or lover, just keep being you and get better at the things you want to be better at, real friends like you for all of who you are, they are overrated anyway, hang in there or move to a bigger city where no one cares but you babe.
2006-12-11 17:34:32 · answer #3 · answered by lindsey6816 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I picked up some narcissism in there. Vanity & confidence really angers most women. And also, you need to learn to pick friends very carefully. If you have one true friend you are in great shape! I think you are way to focused on this issue. You wouldn't worry about it so much if you really knew how rarely people talk about you. This is a lot of mental stuff that you are doing to yourself. Perhaps therapy wouldn't be a bad idea.
2006-12-11 17:27:34 · answer #4 · answered by IMHO 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Really you must get a life & know that people are not talking about you- you are paranoid. Every person has their own agenda & all are not concerned about you. You have very low or no self esteem- very vain to think everyone is talking about you- you also sound depressed, bored & boring. Why don't you do volunteer work- meet new friends, Good luck.
2006-12-11 17:28:19 · answer #5 · answered by jyone scotani 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you like the way you dress, be proud, stand tall and dont let people get to you. Your allowing this, your letting them get to you, they probably see that its getting to you...Just smile at them...
2006-12-11 17:50:31 · answer #6 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't have it both ways. Either don't let it bother you or change the way you dress.
2006-12-11 17:25:10 · answer #7 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all you can do is get tougher, or change how you dress in public. both options suck i realise but thats all there is. good luck!
2006-12-11 17:26:18 · answer #8 · answered by sweets 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋