We have been together for 1 year and 4 months. He cheated once and REALLY regretted it. Trust me on that one. Im trying to give background info because I hate the girls that post '0Mg iS hE cHeATiN Bc hE KisSd Mi fRiENddd??' that give you no other info. Anyways, he really regretted cheating, but a few days ago I checked his email (to find a sent one and make sure it went to the right email address, not to snoop) and there were emails from fling.com, and adult sex dating site. He has an account on there, he had for about 2 days before I found out. Its not really active at all, no pictures or info or pretty much anything. I made a fake account and messaged him to see if he would answer back... would you consider that as cheating? Or conspiring to cheat? I dont think he would again, but that really makes me mad he has this. I really love him, but I dont want to get cheated on. Was messaging him as another person wrong in your eyes?
2006-12-11 17:16:25 · 31 answers · asked by Bibsy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no babe,you are doing just the right thing.he has done it before and he got caught so you really need to watchout dat is just perfect if i may say .you are just trying to save what is yours.
2006-12-11 17:23:57 · answer #1 · answered by aschelock 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're wondering, it probably is. Anytime you feel an emotional connection with someone else, any kind of contact that feels intimate - could be just talking or texting, but feels close, brings you closer to that person - is cheating. If you're not emotionally involved, then these same things are just friendly. Also I'm assuming by kissing you mean a kiss on the cheek, because on the mouth or deep kissing is definitely across the line.
2016-05-23 07:53:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really funny that hes doing the whole on line dating thing! sorry but if i was just checking an e-mail address and i found that, i would confront my boyfriend wetting myself. So what? even if you were snooping that's not the issue, you can use that line. Don't mess about making fake accounts on a dating thing that's not cheating its just all bad. Tell him that you think its pathetic, and deal with your boyfriend like a real person not on the net. If hes going to cheat on you hell do it no matter what you do. U cant stay if him cheating is you think about, i know, or you just accept it and move on. Maybe you should have a break, and decide if you can live like this
2006-12-11 17:34:51 · answer #3 · answered by kathycracksit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is conspiring to cheat. Not really cheating. What you've got to consider though are the intentions. If his intention was to try this thing out then what is he doing away from the home. This is a young relationship. Let me tell you what's out there. My husband only has eyes for me. When a cute girl walks by he doesn't even glance. He has never cheated on me. I know this for a fact and I once asked him what he would do when if I got old, would he trade me in. He got a crazy look on his face and told me that he doesn't even think like that. Don't you want him to only see you as a sexual being? That's what love is. I wanna pop your guy in the nose.
2006-12-11 17:21:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think it was wrong to message him as another person-you have to know how far it has gotten, and you have a right to protect your feelings and relationship. since he only had it a few days before you saw it, probably not far, but 1.there are other sites like that he may be on that you didnt see, and 2.since you werent snooping (yeah, ok) you should ask him whats up. happily coupled people dont sign up for dating websites just for sh*ts and giggles. if it was he would have created the account WITH you to laugh at what kind of freaky desperate people would respond. talk to him, not yell or cry, or you will lose him. hes got something on his mind and he will either work it out with you or someone else.
2006-12-11 17:25:25 · answer #5 · answered by danais 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has proved himself to be untrustworthy. I suggest that rather than regretting cheating, he regretted getting caught.
You don't trust him, you snooped and didn't like what you saw.What you did wasn't cheating, it was snooping to find out if someone who has cheated was up to his old tricks. You saw that he made an account but hadn't done much with it...yet.
Is this the kind of behavior you choose from a person you are in a relationship with? It is if you continue with him.
2006-12-11 17:42:31 · answer #6 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems to have cheater tendencies. I would not trust him as far as i could throw him. He has no business on sites like those if he's in a happy committed relationship. Rethink your thoughts of him regretting what he's done before. Remember my words "MEN LOVE SLOPPY" and make a lot of mistakes. Cheating and hitting should be unforgivable in certain situations. Your not married to him so find someone that respects you completely, not just when your around
2006-12-11 17:27:48 · answer #7 · answered by Jackie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is appropriate to have a dating site profile when in a relationship. He has already proven that he's a cheater and now is engaging in an activity that promotes and enables further cheating.
Whether what you did was right or wrong is debatable and in my opinion secondary to a much larger issue. If you have to play detective to ensure that he's not fooling around there isn't much trust in your relationship. Trust is a key element in any relationship, and if it isn't there, the relationship doesn't stand much of a chance.
2006-12-11 17:27:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its really up to u actually.for me, its really nothing serious. you just want to check his honesty aite? but to tell the truth, what do u expect to get? what if he reply to that unknown person?is he then cheating? but if to think it all over again.there is no harm in replying an email to a friend whether he just knew her or not. would you also do the same? you better put urself in his position rather than think bad about him.what would you feel if he did the same to you?even though he did cheated on you once but like u said he had regretted it then why would you want to check him out again. obviously to me, you got trust problem towards him.trust is really important in relationship if there is no trust sooner or later,ur relationship wont last long. so ask yourself do you still trust him or not.if not and you still want the relationship find ways to work it out. gud luck!
2006-12-11 17:26:06 · answer #9 · answered by didie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't really be worried about it, as it is simply a site. You are dating him, and he is 'yours' so to say. It made you feel horrible, but remember, it is just a site. He could have signed up for the site just to see something on it in particular. It is well known that many people masturbate to online porn, so that is all it may be. Relax, and only begin to get worried if he starts to act different than usual.
2006-12-11 17:20:24 · answer #10 · answered by zion354 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it was wrong to message him anonymously. Yes, sad to say, I think he's searching for another. It seems to me he expressed regrets to you for cheating the first time. If he really regretted doing it, is he trying to cheat again so he can regret cheating a second time?
2006-12-11 17:22:43 · answer #11 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋