My daughter is three years old (will be four in April). I carry her around almost everywhere. I love having her in my arms, and she loves it too. My daughter can walk, and of course I let her walk around, too, but whenever I take her out with me, she's in my arms.
I don't have a problem with this because she is not heavy and I love her and love holding her. This did not concern me until yesterday when my sister said "You are following the celebrity trend!". I didn't understand what she meant so I said "What?", and she replied "You know how whenever you see celebrity children, they are always being carried by their parents? Even if they're like four or five and able to walk?".
I don't really see a problem with this. I am just trying to keep close to my daughter because I love her, and kids do grow up fast so I would like to take advantage of the time being.
What do you guys do with your toddlers and young children?
2006-12-11 17:15:44 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You kind've answered your own question. It's really good for her to get lots of exercise though. Seeing "celebrities" doing maybe because they are protecting their children from the rampage. Take her for walks in the park and let her just run on her own. If you are cuddly and close that should never change.
2006-12-11 17:19:32 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Carry her as much as you and she both want! you will probably get answers from people saying you are spoiling her or whatever...rubbish! Children who are held a lot grow up to be the most confident and happy people! Those celebrity pics are usually taken when there are a lot of photographers around, and I think they are holding the kids to protect them and keep track of them in the confusing circumstances. I am an RN. and worked with babies and children for 30 years. The most brilliant person I have ever known was one of the neonatologists I worked with. he firmly believed in holding children...and I've never disagreed with him! Soon enough she will be more interested in other things.
2006-12-11 17:26:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Four is too old for her to be carried around everywhere.
She is old enough to walk.
Given the decision, of course she'd choose your loving arms but you can't carry her forever.
What are you going to do when she gets heavier but still demands you hold her?
Break her of this habit before it's too late.
She is spoiled and will always expect this type of treatment if you don't start making her use her own two feet a little more.
2006-12-11 17:51:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son usually walks, he'll be three the 30th of this month. I do carry him in parking lots though if were at the store or crossing the street or something because I get too nervous. Although I let him walk most of the time, when I do carry him, I enjoy it also. You are not wrong, its YOUR child and you think its not harming her, do whatever you want.
2006-12-11 17:26:29 · answer #4 · answered by Fearfully & wonderfully made 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awwww! Hey if it makes you both feel good, there's no problem with it. Just remember the time will come will one of you will want to let go and you both need to deal with that. As long as that is understood, hey, go ahead, cuddle, hold, carry AS MUCH AS YOU WANT! Do it now b/c soon, your baby girl will not be a baby girl anymore and you won't be able to carry her like that!!!!
I think it's sweet!
As for me, my youngest are one and two. My daugther (1) she is the cuddly one and usually is carried; my son, he's 2 and not so cuddly, he wants to run and play. I wish he was more of a cuddle bug!!!
2006-12-11 17:27:08 · answer #5 · answered by LittleFreedom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put her down now and make her walk. If your going to do her walking for her now, What are you going to be doing for her when she gets older. Trust me, She'll get in a pattern of coming to you to do the first little thing that provides her with troubles. Over and over again. It's a destructive downward spiral, where she will wind-up being helpless. Make her walk. Make her do chores. Make her do her homework(when it comes time). It's called tough love. A little tougher on you than her, most likely, but she'll need her independance in the real world.
2006-12-11 17:23:05 · answer #6 · answered by riddler2237 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my children walk most definitly! Or are in the stroller.. They have to learn independance somehow..
I can understand where you're coming from.. However what happens if you have another child? Imagine the jealousy your daughter will show when you now can't pick her up because you have a baby in your arms constantly?
2006-12-12 00:35:37 · answer #7 · answered by ames018 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You love your daughter is good, i am sure you are a good father. But now , she is 3 years old , think you should not carry her on the time, you also want your daughter to be independent when he still young , right?
2006-12-11 17:19:41 · answer #8 · answered by lovely1991_dinh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should really let her waltk. Thisis the time to strengthen their muscles and lungs. But if she is tired or there are alot of people around
then carry her.
I let my little girl walk, but we cuddled everyday and night.
Try that and let her strengthen her legs.
But if you really feel the need to carry her then do, its your child and if she needs the closness then give it to her.
PS Celebritys carry their kids so the paparazzi can get better pictures.
Good Luck
2006-12-12 02:35:52 · answer #9 · answered by eidunotno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I love kids...and i think that is not right that u still carry your daughter..cause then she would not like to walk when she gets more older...and i think that u have to let her walk like two hours and if she gets tire don't carry her let her...
2006-12-11 17:34:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋