My dad recently moved out of our house and filed for devorce. He went and got himself a new mustang almost immeadiatly. He also has had two gf's in the past 3 months. Also he watches porn non stop. Is he a player?
2006-12-11 17:09:57 · 15 answers · asked by JJ~girly girly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that is safe to say that your dad is going through mid life crisis and and there is nothing that you can do about it.
You could talk to him and tell him that is makes you feel uncomfortable to know that he is not living his life like he has taught you to live yours.
My dad did this in another way he drank a lot but I told him that i wouldn't tell his other children and grandchildren that he drank him self to death. I think it made him realize just how much what he did affected me.
As far as a player it may be just where he was married for so long and now he is free and he doesn't know how to act.
2006-12-11 17:14:50 · answer #1 · answered by Feather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure that he is being a player. Some people go through a mid life crisis where they feel that maybe their life isn't fullfilled enough even though they have accomplished alot in their lives they feel like they are missing out on life itself so they go buy crazy stuff and somtimes even leave their families to be on their own and try to live life even more to the fullest...they are seeking self satisfaction....So really no I don't think he is a player he just trying to find himself agian as a person.....just stay strong....and be there for him as I assume he has for you.....Best wishes!
2006-12-12 01:20:59 · answer #2 · answered by autumn w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's having what they call a mid life crisis. What happens is, men find, as they reach the end of their lives, that they have wasted themselves on their wife and kids. As a result they get the bright idea that they should try to recapture their youth. Dress young, buy new cars, date young girls. But what they don't realize is that all of those things don't make them look younger, they just makes them look older and sadder and more desperate to have what they threw away for love and family. It is easy for men to detach themselves because they only sat on the sidelines as life happened. They didn't give birth to the baby, or breast feed it. They most likely worked all day (not as if they had a choice but...)so they didn't spend as much time with the kids as mom, so the real hardcore bonding is not there.It's easier for them to detach themselves, play the old "they don't understand me" bit. It is easy for them to see that their family is "holding them back" but what happens is they give it all up and then realize too late that what they had was what they always really wanted and all the things they thought they were missing, the things that they are trying to relive, were pointless. Tell him to stop looking around every corner for something "better", no one is absolutely happy, there are bad things that happen to all of us. Life is what you make it, but remember you can't make it up. It's not so much that he is player, he is trying to fill a void that he thinks his family cannot fill but little does he know that he is the only one who can make him feel better about himself. Tell him to get a hobby that doesn't involve young girls or leather jacket, one more thing maybe you should just tell him to grow up, ask him what he thinks mom sacrificed?
2006-12-12 01:23:50 · answer #3 · answered by Cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a mid life crisis. Do remember to never disrespect him. He is still your father and one day you will be all grown up and cherish a realationship with him. One that has been through ups and downs, good and bad. That is the time when you will regret what you did when you were younger.
2006-12-12 01:14:06 · answer #4 · answered by tulsamum 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's more of a case of a 'mid life crisis'. He's trying to find himself and prove that he's still got the goods and isn't getting old.
A lot of guys go through it, maybe not as dramatically but it's common.
2006-12-12 01:13:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that he is really mixed up. Why did he leave her? I guess that doesn't really matter though..if it isn't working it just stops...As far as the two girlfriends...You probably should let him sort that part out. It's sad but it is a fact of life...many men have been burned so bad that they are afraid of committing to one person...Life is like that...yeah it is
2006-12-12 01:16:17 · answer #6 · answered by e_piphany214 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's having a classic mid-life crisis. By the time he realizes what he's lost by being an idiot, it will be far too late to fix it.
Remember what his actions did to your life, and vow to never repeat that behavior when you reach his age.
2006-12-12 01:13:36 · answer #7 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be going threw mid life crisis ...as for women they call it the change of life.
2006-12-12 01:14:45 · answer #8 · answered by angelheart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he ain't a playa he just bump a lot. too much porn, if he were a playa he wouldn't need so much porn. i'd bet he'd like to be though. who doesn't?
2006-12-12 01:13:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no he is having a mid life crisis and will get over it....no worries.
2006-12-12 01:12:25 · answer #10 · answered by bella36 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋