We've been going out for 6 years. She has some serious confidence issues. She was made fun of growing up in school and hasn't been able to shake herself free from people taking advantage of her.I try my hardest to stick up for herself and to be her own person. And please understand, I'm not someone who gives up on people easily. But over the past year I've started to question whether we're meant to be together. I don't think I can help her anymore, the scars are too deep and my patience too short. I think it's awful that we argue now. Arguing because the frustration gets to me.
Citing examples would be make me out to be a fool. Because most of the things she does are mistakes that a six year old child would know to avoid.
Please help me.
2006-12-11 17:05:36 · 10 answers · asked by Seeking Guidance 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
some people are like that and its not their fault and some do it for attention... but remember that a relationship is a two way street.. so you both should be giving just as much to one another. I would sit her down and tell her how you feel.. if she is low on confidense, like i do myself sometimes, try doing something she is good at and you are not, or somehting she loves to do and compliment hr alot.. I am sure you have been doing that, but might be doing it less and less so she doesnt think she is that great anymore. just keep teling her how great she is and remind her of her accomplishments. . . Dont give up on her just yet, you have been together for awhile and there can be rough times, but you have to see through them and help one another... what is very important is talking with eachother, tell her what you need and ask her what she needs and find a way you both can be happy... I wish the best of luck to you and your girl. hope everything goes good in the future.
2006-12-11 17:13:18 · answer #1 · answered by penguin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is tough. 6 years is a long time, but you also have the rest of your life to see if someone else can make you even happier. If you are feeling upset with her and your patience is running thin then it's going to be hard to enjoy her company. I think you need to make yourself happy. If being apart from her is what it takes then maybe thats a risk worth taking. However, I'd let her down real easy if you say she has a confidence issue. You might want to use the classic line, "it's not you, it's me." (even if that's not true) Everything happens for a reason & you should live each day with a smile on your face. If you aren't happy, do what you can to be. :) You only live once!
2006-12-12 01:12:50 · answer #2 · answered by susie_2cutie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot do for her what she must do for herself.
Are you meant to be together? As if there is some external force deciding that you are or aren't meant to be together? You and she unilaterally get to decide whether or not to continue in this relationship. There is no "wrong" choice, unless you choose against what you truly want, and even then you get to change your mind.
She has needs no angel can meet and demons that she alone must face. You have loved well and may continue to love her, however you are not obligated to live a life you would not choose out of pity, guilt or a sense of obligation for or to her.
If you are questioning the relationship you know there is a serious problem and you are powerless over her. You wish to heal her, but this you cannot do. You are becoming weary and losing patience as you tire from treading water in this relationship. You cannot continue much longer and must grab onto your life-preserver of sanity...only you can answer what that is.
2006-12-12 01:33:00 · answer #3 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one, which I'm guess only you truly know the answer too.
If your patience is growing short, perhaps it's time to let her go and be her own person for now. You've obviously helped her as much as you can already, and let her know how special is. Maybe if you're not together, she will realise how special you have treated her.
All the best :)
2006-12-12 01:09:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you attract to her 6 yrs ago? Do you love her or pity her? If you loves her then accept her as she is And bring her to see a doctor since you cannot help her. But once you have decided to breakup with her then do it. I can feel that you are tired of her. Please do it nicely as i'm afraid she can't take it. Good luck to you!
2006-12-12 01:17:45 · answer #5 · answered by Sunflower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK THAT SHE NEED TO GET SOME COUNSELING TO DEAL WITH HER ISSUES, BUT IF YOU HAVE BEEN WITH THIS
GIRL FOR THIS LONG THEN THERE IS SOME HOPE TO
MAKE THIS WORK. BUT YOU NEED TO LET HER KNOW HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT WHAT GOING ON. TALK TO HER
LET HER KNOW THAT THIS IS A PROBEM AND SHE NEED
TOGET HELP. OTHER WISE THE REALTIONSHIP WILL NOT
LAST. AND IT WOULD BE A SHAME TO GIVE UP SOMETHING'
THAT YOU HAVE PUT 6 YEARS IN.
2006-12-12 01:10:42 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell here to go work in a bar if she can that helped my wifes confidence after she had to break up a few fights
2006-12-12 01:11:41 · answer #7 · answered by Travis J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It`s time to dump her you can`t rescue a women stop trying to i know i had one myself just too much baggage if you know what i mean good luck.
2006-12-12 01:14:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have given it your best shot. Time to let go.
2006-12-12 01:10:14 · answer #9 · answered by B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is so short. If you are not happy now and have try your best already, please give it up and breakup with her......
2006-12-12 01:09:46 · answer #10 · answered by zap32168 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋