Tomorrow is my boyfriends and i's 1 year anniversary. But I am not happy, he is to codependent on me and I have no friends, but I love him. He is nice and cares for me he just does not listen, change, think about things, or even consider what I want. I stay with him every night and i just sent him home crying cuz I dont know what to do. Somethimes I think it is just me.... some one out there with similar problem? My whole family likes him and I like his family, I think we just need some space, what to do? Help?
2006-12-11 17:05:27 · 1 answers · asked by rosesjkm 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have just identified a great love ender: codependency.
Codependency often isolates and enmeshes which is not healthy. It is also possible that you too have become codependent. Your allowing the relationship to leave you without friends and be concerned about what the family will think if you break it off is a symptom.
Yes, you definately need some space. He may interpret this as rejection and try to manipulate or guilt you into spending more time with him on his terms. Take time for yourself, read up on codependency or even find a support group like CoDA (codependents anonymous) and find new friends and spend time with them. Get involved in your life and do activities that bring you pleasure. Learn how to not allow him to manipulate you into feeling responsible for his feelings.
Loving another does not mean that you have to lose yourself.
2006-12-11 17:17:25 · answer #1 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋