My boyfriend went to a strip club . .was it he cheating?

Question

He said his friends dragged him there, that he didn't have a good time & he was thinking about me the whole time. I asked him if he got dances, said no, but he tipped the girls.

Is he throwing me a load of crap? I found this out the day after, and I have no idea how to react. Should I let it go? Or should I be concerned?

Answer 1

Let it go. I send mine to the club if i gets him off my back....j/k....I really don't see any harm in it and I really do let mine go we just set some ground rules before he goes....really it's not that big of deal you probably look better than halph those girls in there anyways. Let him have some fun.

Answer 2

This is very tricky. Some girls freak out when their boyfriends go to these places and other girls just don't care. My boyfriend's friends love strip clubs and always beg him to go. He would always tell me he hated it because he didn't like to be "teased". So I started going with him to them (just 2-3 times). His friends all thought I was so cool for going with him, and I got to see first hand what it was like. Most of the girls are nasty, most of the men there are disgusting, and I just felt really sorry for the girls who had to do that for a living. I don't consider it cheating, but I would recommend going once, it's an eye opener. It's not so glamourous. Also, I think it's a good sign that your BF told you that he went. I would be suspicious if he never told you about it and you found out about it through the grapevine. Plus, is it considered cheating if we girls go see Thunder from Down Under or Chippendale's? Nope, it's just considered a fun time.

Answer 3

Well do you trust him? Thats the thing you need to ask yourself. Going to the club doesn't make him a cheater nor does giving money to the strippers, some people male and female do that. How would he feel if you went to a strip club, not saying two wrongs make it right, but just a thought. Overall I trust my fiance' completely, and if he went to the strip club or even had a lap dance I would be ok, maybe a little jealous, but ok, because I trust him.

Answer 4

Almost every guy I know goes to a strip club occasionally. Really they are just there to look most of the time. I would compare it to looking up porn or checking out a hot girl walking down the road. These acts in and of themselves tend to be harmless. If he keeps going back, then get worried, but if it is only a once in a while thing, it is actually pretty normal.

Answer 5

Strip clubs could be pretty tempting for crazy guys especially when their with their buddies. I think you only know the answer to this question by really knowing your boyfriend. A lot of times the women there throw themselves to the men, and sometimes it the opposite. Your boyfriend might of gotten a little out of control with his buddies who knows. But I think you should let it go this time. Just tell him next time he goes that you would like to be invited as well.

Answer 6

Let it go. So your boyfriend went to strip club. Who cares! Girls don't seem to understand how harmless a strip club is. Would you rather your bf be at a bar where he has virtually no chance of fooling around with someone, or at a regular bar full of skanky girls willing to go home with him? Its a guy thing, and even though he's not a teenager, peer pressure still happens. I think its believable he didn't want to go. Give him the benefit of the doubt.

Answer 7

You have to trust him. I have been married 18 years and my husband still will go to a strip club once in a while. Unless your BF has given you a reason to worry, don't. Besides, you can't do anything in those clubs without getting a hand broken by the bouncers.

Answer 8

first, hes handing you a line of crap, he did probably get a dance and just isn't telling you. as for him thinking of you the whole time, yes, he was thinking about you dreading what you were going to do when you found out......... in fear you'll beat his butt! lol and yes, just let it go!!!!!!!!! Give him a hard time for a week and than just let it go. As long as it doesn't happen again. if it happens again than be concerned about it. and tell him that he can come home and get that damn strip tease!

Answer 9

Cheating ? no...did he have a good time...YES. I'm sure he felt that you wouldn't like him and his friends going to a " titty" club and therefore he tells you the day after that he had a lousy time etc. Give him a break....he didn't take home/sleep with any of those Ladies. You might say you understand and it's ok if he gets his appetite somewhere else....but eats at home.

Answer 10

I can never understand why girls get upset about their partners going to strip clubs. I have no problem with it.

These girls are getting paid to dance for them, you know that they aren't going home with them. It's just a bit of entertainment. I think you should lighten up and next time ask him if you can go along with him.

I've gone to strip clubs with my ex heaps and never had any probs if he went without me.

Answer 11

ok, he was not dragged there, and he wasn't thinking about you. but he was in a strip bar and he's a guy so of course he's going to say that. as long as he's not going often, i wouldn't worry about it. guys are visual, i think its normal for a guy to look at naked women. plus, the less u care, the more confident u are with your relationship. if everything is going well, don't start a fight. i wouldn't give him a hard time about it. maybe u should go with him sometime!