I have a one year old and a three year old. My three year old didn't start tantrums until she was almost two. Now, my one year old is already throwing tantrums. All you have to do is look at her wrong and she'll throw herself on the ground and start screaming. Is this normal or is this early? It's always been easy to upset her, she has always been sensitive. Could she be catching onto her sister's behavior and this kind of action is a result of doing what she sees her older sister do?
2006-12-11 16:58:37 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
kids are doing everything faster now...I guess the terrible two's are now the terrible ones ;-)
2006-12-11 17:00:42 · answer #1 · answered by bobbie v 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is the terrible two's come early. My daughter does the same thing, she will be two on the 21st. All it takes to set her off in a fit is her brother (who is now 3) to look at her and say "no." I find this as normal, though I believe if she was an only child this would not be happening, I think it is more of an attention getter than wanting to throw a fit. My son; however, thinks this is funny so he does it quite often just to get a laugh. So it could also be early sibling rivalry.(?)
2006-12-11 17:33:28 · answer #2 · answered by lisads1973 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She resents not being the only child and she saw your three year old get her way by similar behavior.
The best way I found to deal with tantrums, is to physically move the child to a room by her/himself, close the door firmly and ignore the racket. They soon learn that negative behavior brings no satisfaction and they quit.
Good luck, mine were a year and a half apart, for the longest time they fought each other, then as they got older they got together to fight me. (It is tough when they organize).
But, well all lived and my sons are very close.
2006-12-11 17:10:47 · answer #3 · answered by Norton N 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MY GOODNESS YOU GOT SOME WILD ANSWERS HERE. I HOPE YOU WILL ACCEPT MY ANSWER? I AM A MOTHER OF 3 LITTLE BOYS. THEIR AGES ARE 8,6,&4. MY 8 & 6 YEAR OLD ARE DIAGNOSED WITH AUTISM. I HAVE HAD BEHAVIORIST COME TO MY HOME FOR TWO YEARS . I HAVE ALSO BE A PRE-SCHOOL TEACHER SINCE 1990.
FIRST: MAKE SURE THAT WERE EVER SHE MAY BE HAVING A TANTRUM THAT HER SURRONDING AREA IS SAFE.
SECOND: IGNORE HER & WALK OUT OF THE ROOM. I WOULD ALSO REINFORCE THIS WITH BOTH CHILDREN. THIS ALSO MEANS THAT YOU DO NOT SAY ONE WORD TO HER ALSO.
THIRDLY: WHEN THE TANTRUM IS OVER WITH THEN YOU CAN THEN LET THEM KNOW THAT THEY NEED TO USE THEIR WORDS & GIVE AN EXAMPLE OF HOW TO ASK OR WHAT EVER THE SITUATION MAYBE.
FOURTH; MOST IMPORTANTLY IS THAT YOU NEED TO BE CONSISTENT!!!
REMEMBER: AS WITH ALL THINGS IT WILL TAKE MORE THAN A FEW TIMES FOR YOUR CHILD TO REALIZE THAT THEIR TANTRUMS ARE NOT EFFECTIVE.
ONE LAST & VERY VALUABLE PIECE OF INFORMATION:
ALWAYS GIVE OUT POSITIVE REINFORCMENTS. RECOGNIZE WHEN THEY ARE DOING THE RIGHT THING.
EXAMPLE: WHEN THEY ASK NICELY FOR SOMETHING W/ A PLEASE & THANK YOU.
YOUR RESPONSE WOULD BE: WOW! GOOD JOB! YOU REMEMBERED TO SAY PLEASE & THANK YOU! I AM SO PROUD OF YOU !
SO THE OTHER CHILD WILL SEE THIS & WANT TO AIM TO PLEASE.
ALSO TELL THEM HOW SMART THEY ARE OR CLEVER. LET THEM KNOW THEY ARE BEAUTIFUL, CARING LITTLE WOMEN.WHEN THEY ARE PRETENDING TO PLAY HOUSE & ARE TAKING GOOD CARE OF THEIR BABY DOLLS , WHAT GOOD MOMIES THEY WILL BE SOME DAY.ETC...THEY WILL GROW UP W/ SELF ESTEEM, & CONFIDENCE W/ YOUR CONSTANT REASSURANCE & LOVE.
GOOD LUCK & GOD BLESS YOU & YOUR FAMILY
2006-12-11 18:09:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My little guy was throwing full-blown tantrums when he was 8 months old. His doctor said it was normal -- if a bit precocious.
It was frustrating, but he was just figuring out how to get what he wanted, and the tantrums worked. Briefly. :)
2006-12-11 18:47:32 · answer #5 · answered by some chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No this is not abnormal. My neice is 15 months and already throwing tantrums. All babies have different personalities and mature at different levels. With the influence of your three year old it is likely that your one year old is just maturing faster.
2006-12-11 17:02:11 · answer #6 · answered by Future DDS 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Children learn by example. They continue a behavior if the results from that behavior are in their favor. They generally stop the behavior if the results are unfavorable. Children are generally much smarter than adults believe them to be.
2006-12-11 17:51:24 · answer #7 · answered by Cassiopeia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children learn best from their peers, in this case her older sister. Tantrums aren't "abnormal" at that age, under those conditions......but that doesn't mean it should be accepted. For your own sanity, and their future well being, you need to put a stop to that ASAP.
2006-12-11 17:06:41 · answer #8 · answered by kj 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is definitely normal, you wait to you get to terrible two's. When you come to think of it every age is terrible up until they move out lol. No they are a blessing. They pick up on things quick but its normal to misbehave.
2006-12-11 17:10:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can happen until they are 25+; it can also be known as sibling rivalry.
2006-12-11 17:06:00 · answer #10 · answered by strong1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋