I have this wonderful fiance named Mike. I love him dearly and he;s the only man whoever made me truely happy and special. He proposed to me onlyafter we dated for two months, and while some people might think that weird I really don't because my parents did it and they're still together 20 years later, Anyway we're not even getting married until late 2008 so we canmake sre we're meant to be and for other reasons. The problem isn't him or even my family, it'smy friends.
I've known these girls for years and everything I've done they supported unconditionally and vice versa for me.
They hate him, and they don't even really know him! And they will not make an effort to get to know him. One night they even ganged up on me in a resturant telling me he was no good for me and that I should dump him and I'm dumb for saying yes.
It hurts really bad to hear them say these thing about him. But yet they want to be part of the wedding and all that stuff. what should I do? Thank you
2006-12-11 16:55:52 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Find new friends...
2006-12-11 17:38:42 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if your friends are so opposed to him, it's probably because of some of the things you have said about him- especially if they have never met him. Remember- the opinion that they are forming is strictly coming from the things you say.
Your friends love you, and it's easy to be fooled when you first begin a relationship that progresses as quickly as yours has. You should take your friends advice to heart. You don't have to say no to marriage, just keep some of the things they have been saying in your mind the next time you see him... and if you aren't getting married until 2008, you'll have plenty of time to decide who is right- your friends, or you.
Also- maybe you should plan a Christmas party or something. This would provide an opportunity for your friends to meet him, and possibly pass a more fair judgment.
2006-12-11 17:05:59 · answer #2 · answered by Christina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's clear that your friends are idiots.
I say that you corner them with their logic and use it against them. I can't think of how off the top of my head, but use something they use against you, against them. Bring up an old boyfriend one of them had or some sort of situation that "tricks" them into meeting AND spending time with him to show that he's not that bad of a guy after all.
And as for their haughty attitudes regarding your weeding, tell them that if they don't shape up, then they're out. They will only bring down the happiness. You don't want that. This is the HAPPIEST day of *your* life at this point (then you have your first child, and that shares the 'happiness' of this day).
2006-12-11 17:03:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ironicly my husbands name is Mike also, I am 36 yrs old and married when I was 17. My parents didn't like him. We are happy because I didn't do what they wanted me to do, I did what I wanted to do! They don't live your life, you do! Don't let other people run your life! When they say stuff about him stand by your man! Maybe they are jealous! After time my parents accepted who I was going to live my with but It wouldn't have mattered if they had chosen not to!
2006-12-11 17:04:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get your friends to know the "real" Mike. Invite them to a setting where your fiance can really make a positive impression on your friends. If you really love him, it doesn't matter what your friends say. If they are real friends, they'll still be with you even if you are with Mike.
2006-12-11 17:00:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they could be right. sometimes people dont like other ppl fuz they have a bad gut feeling about them. just make sure he is tha one b-4 its too late....like u got like a lil over a year till 2008. juss think bout it.............good luck!!
2006-12-11 17:03:20 · answer #6 · answered by katie_lynn614 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmm... sounds like your friends are jelous ..that your bf...is more of a priority..than they are..congratulations...
try and organize functions..for your friends to attend.. to meet and know your true love so.. even if one shows up...
make it a good time..and the others will be eager to join in at later dates.. good luck..on everything .....smile..!!..
2006-12-11 17:02:51 · answer #7 · answered by david 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OF ALL YOU ARE THE ONE THAT MARRY HIM NOT YOUR FRIENDS. SO THEY SHOULD NOT HAVE ANYTHING
TO SAY ABOUT IT, BUT SINCE YOU AND HE ARE NOT GETTING MARRY UNTIL 2008, THEN YOU HAVE TIME FOR HIM
AND YOUR FRIENDS TO GET TO KNOW HIM. SO DONT WORRY ABOUT IT, YOU HAVE PLENTY OF TIME FOR EVERYONE TO GET ON BOARD FOR THIS WHEN IT HAPPEN
ANY THING CAN HAPPEN FROM NOW AND THEN.
2006-12-11 17:01:13 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you asked your friends why do they think so ill of your fiance?most of the time friends have instincts about a friend's BF/GF.. but sometimes it is wrong...does your fiance know about your friends' opinion?let him know, maybe he can do something to make them change their mind... but mostly ask your friends to at least be there for you..
2006-12-11 17:01:17 · answer #9 · answered by brown_sunglasses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you truly love your fiance and you want to marry him, its your decision and your life
just let your friends know that this is what you want and this is how you want to live your life
2006-12-11 17:01:15 · answer #10 · answered by elusive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may forgot something called(jealous people)
love is no 1
2006-12-11 17:04:03 · answer #11 · answered by lola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋