On holidays my husband and our two children are expected to go over to his parents and my parents homes. No one will come over here, we've asked. They won't even come to our house for birthdays. They skipped my daughters last three birthdays because we had the party at our house. Would it be wrong if we just told them, sorry but we are staying home this year? How many people every year leave the comforts of home to visit family and don't get the returned comfort of having others over? I tried to ask my mother if we could come over on Christmas Eve instead of Christmas day but she changed to subject and told me dinner was on Christmas only. So anyone have an answer to my Christmas delemia? I don't want to be rude or act like family isn't important but can't they bend a little so my kids can spend their Christmas at home?
2006-12-11 16:48:21 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
hi there my family of 3 will be going to my mums for xmas lunch then off to his mums then his brothers because his family wont come to our house because they are just plain lazy and we all live a street away from each other. So we will be at three places on xmas day.
2006-12-11 17:04:01 · answer #1 · answered by cheekykim17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they should bend a little! I have a game plan for you, but you'd have to use it next year, not this year. I think to make it work, you need to plant the seed early. Go to their house this year,be a perfect guest (don't let on that their house is a huge compromise to you, or they will not bend next year!) but make subtle comments about how next year Christmas will be at your house. However, to avoid conflict, keep the focus on how the prospect of entertaining everyone for the holidays is going to be so fun for you. Talk about how you want to decorate, what you want to cook...Don't be too obvious, because you'll have to keep up the campaign all year, and you'll come off as obnoxious and manipulative if you overdo it the least little bit. Then, from time to time throughout the year, refer to ideas you have for the Christmas you will be hosting in 2007 at your home. I really think it's too late this year to bow out and do Christmas at home without some measure of family politics / guilt / hurt feelings. Even if they don't come next year, you've made your plans known in a non-confrontational way, and they can take it or leave it.
2006-12-11 17:05:38 · answer #2 · answered by Meemenator 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a dilemma. My suggestion, just stay at home, don't go anywhere. Just maybe have a couple friends over Christmas Eve and spend Christmas at home. Just relax. If they really want you as part of the "family circle" they would take the initiative to come to your house, especially after the many invitations.
2006-12-11 17:04:34 · answer #3 · answered by Isabela 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in similar situation: My in laws won't come over here. They are idiots. Hubby agree Christmas Eve for a few hours, Christmas is our family day for me, hubby and our 3 1/2 year old daughter to bake and be at home. I made my hubby tell his brother that it was very rude. They believe they are better than us. Morons.
2006-12-12 00:51:55 · answer #4 · answered by J*A*K*C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are always expected to go home to my families and have done it even when there is ice everywhere and we had to drive 16 hours in good weather up to 20 in icy conditions. We have moved a lot closer and still nobody comes here, so now we stay here too. They do all their holidays in my home town and we do ours where we live. It's not fair that families can't take turns on where the holiday meal is eaten.
2006-12-11 16:54:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christmas is for my husband, daughter and I. On Christmas Eve, we will be gathering with my entire family at Mom & Dad's place......but we like to have our own Christmas on the 25th. This is the best set up. Sometimes, we will all get together on Christmas Eve and wait until midnight, then open our gifts. Then later on everyone gets tired and sleeps or goes home and gets to have their own Christmas with their own families.
2006-12-11 16:54:05 · answer #6 · answered by newmum06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a stay at domicile mom. I even have 2 organic and organic babies and 3 step-babies that we've another week. I additionally experience responsible approximately spending funds on myself. My husband does properly sufficient that i will stay domicile - sure, it may well be easier if i became into bringing domicile a paycheck, yet its not a choose dazzling now. i understand that's meant to be our funds and that i understand by using me being domicile it makes issues run lots smoother and he does not could subject on the same time as he's at artwork or out of city for artwork - yet sure, I nonetheless experience responsible. i think of its prevalent. i'm hoping its prevalent. in case you will possibly experience greater helpful bearing directly to the money ingredient for presents - Make a itemizing of issues you do weekly. Make this checklist for you - not for him. leaf for the duration of the checklist and comprehend that the failings you do might "earn" you income case you have been being paid an hourly salary. i don't advise you tutor this checklist on your husband, because of the fact he could take it incorrect and not comprehend. I advise the checklist for your self in order that which you will experience much less responsible approximately spending slightly on your self or on presents on your husband.
2016-10-18 03:48:58 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i spend Christmas eve w/ my in-laws cause they open presents at midnight.
and on x-mas morning we open our presents and then pj's and all we drive 2min. to my parents house spend the day over there.
2006-12-11 16:52:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all I have is my father and my 2 boys..so I will be staying home for christmas..
2006-12-11 16:50:07 · answer #9 · answered by becca j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we are going visting family.
2006-12-11 16:50:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋