2006-12-11 16:21:58 · 21 answers · asked by jstbeis 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why not take it slow and see how the recovery process pans out?
2006-12-11 16:23:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My brother-in-law is a recovering alcoholic and I remember way back (about 10 years ago) when he first joined AA. He was single and wasn't supposed to be involved in a relationship in the beginning. It's something AA recommends.
But he did date .. and each girl ended up leaving him. Until he met a girl in AA with him. They got married a few years later and have been married now for 6 years.
And one thing they both say is that it's VERY hard for a recovering alcoholic to have a successful relationship with someone who drinks, unless they were married beforehand.
But hey, in my opinion ... if you like him, go for it ....
2006-12-11 16:34:45 · answer #2 · answered by tgfann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Them being a recovering alcoholic 'should' have nothing to do with how you feel - you should look at it like this; they knew they had a problem and are fixing it, which is more than what most people can say!
I say go for it :)
2006-12-11 16:24:08 · answer #3 · answered by Tanya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go!! i wish that you're operating a application of restore and purely no longer refraining from alcohol and medicines (dry drunks are not any good both) i'm a grateful recuperating addict and that i have 2 years 9 months and 27 days immediately. extra importantly I somewhat have a existence that i somewhat appreciate residing. Congratulations.
2016-11-25 22:09:32 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you don't have a problem with alcohol. Everyone has some type of baggage. You can look at it like at least he was strong enough to make a change. People that actually change their behaviors are very few & far between.
2006-12-11 16:24:20 · answer #5 · answered by Nunya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you are absolutely sure you are up to the challenge. This person will always be an alcholic. You must also make sure that you are not an enabler or a co-dependent. If you are unsure of any of the definitions go to an AA meeting with him.
2006-12-11 16:25:57 · answer #6 · answered by emourelatos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mere fact that you are asking shows that you have plenty reservations. I would too and I would stay away from any serious relationship with him. An alcoholic stays one for life. Just one lick of the booze and they are hooked all over again. I would keep clear if I was in your situation.
2006-12-11 16:25:39 · answer #7 · answered by tracey s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes with the realization that he might need you and you will accept the responsibility to help him. We all have our demons and he is correcting his and will always have to face that problem every day of his life. We all deserve a chance so dont hold it against him.
2006-12-11 16:26:28 · answer #8 · answered by Ivory_Flame 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said he was recovering, right? I would give him a chance if you like him and you get along. Everyone makes mistakes, and he seems to be trying to correct his.
good luck
2006-12-11 16:25:56 · answer #9 · answered by bobbie v 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! He must be sober for at least two years. Think of yourself and your future children. You must do what is in your best interests. You can be a friend, but no more. He must save himself. You can be a good listerner and really supportive and helpful, though.
2006-12-11 16:24:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are recovering from something or someone, so if he is all that why not give him a chance?
2006-12-11 16:24:14 · answer #11 · answered by SOLO KING 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋