I had been seeing this guy for a few months, and he recently broke up with me. He says he had a mental breakdown but after everything happened he said I was perfect with what I did and how I handled it. He said that the breakdown was caused by things such as not having a family (both parents have passed away) being a 30 year old bartender and other things. Well 2 days later he ends it with me by saying he thought he was not ready to have a relationship. My parents spoil me and i said something about shopping on their credit card and he was like must be nice ! I dont get how I went from perfect to nothing. Any insight at all? Is he jealous I have a family or is he just an immature jerk who can not handle being a grown up????
2006-12-11 16:18:53 · 14 answers · asked by Darling girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I suspect he's going through a very hard time in his life, possibly for reasons he hasn't shared, possibly because life is simply catching up with him. At the moment, he probably is jealous. However, the best thing you can probably do is be there for him and support him. It sounds like he needs someone to convince him that not all of life is bleak and depressing. And, when he gets hold of his life, he will remember you as the one who was always there for him, through the bad times and not just the good.
Put yourself in his shoes - what would you want yourself to do?
2006-12-11 16:27:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is totally envious of you. I am more or less in the same situation where my mom passed away 10 years ago and it made me grow up too fast. My dad is nowhere in the picture. I have a best freidn whose in your situation and keeps taking from her parents all the time. Thing is this, even though people like me do become envious, we also know that if our parent(s) were here we wouldnt be abusing them for everything we want. Some people know how to grow up and be resonsible for themselves.
Ask yourself this question: If something happened to your parents at the same time, Im sure you really wouldnt know what to do with yourself since you have been so busy taking free handouts.
2006-12-12 00:24:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess...he's just confuse. Not really knowing where is he heading to...Maybe he even think that he dont deserve you, as you have the luxury of shopping with ur parents credit card...he might interprete that statement differently - as in he might think..."Is she the right one?" "Will I be able to make her happy or maintain her as well as her parents does.." Since he does not have family....there are chances that he might not even be able to relate to the life that you have or the relationship that you have with your family. If you really cherish what u had with him...try asking him out to have a nice chat with him and see whether he's willing to open up to you.
Otherwise...just forget it and move on with your life...
Just be thankful that both of you were once together and cherish what both of you had and face the future in a better perspective. Who knows ...maybe this is the best for the both of you....
Love can be pretty hard to explain most of the times....
2006-12-12 00:28:22 · answer #3 · answered by Aranel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone I'm involved with says they want to break up with me after a few months because they had a mental breakdown, I would say, "ok, I understand, have a good day"
2006-12-12 00:24:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cleary he has some issues that he needs to work out, and he is right when saying he isn't ready to have a relationship. He may even be having a mid-life crisis. If you truely love him try working things out otherwise find a new guy. I guess weigh the pros and cons of the relationship and see if its worth it.
2006-12-12 00:27:54 · answer #5 · answered by SwannyH 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think what he said "must be nice" really meant anything. If you were my friend and talked about using your parents credit card I'd say the same thing!
2006-12-12 00:25:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say forget about him! he is immature and take this as a blessing so that you can find a better man who will treat you right:)
2006-12-12 00:21:07 · answer #7 · answered by sweet kisses 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like hes just upset and hasnt ever accepted the fatc tha his parents are deceased so lashes out doesnt appear that you did anything wrong
2006-12-12 00:23:58 · answer #8 · answered by whatnowhater 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dotn think anyone can exactly know why he broke up with you other than him his - self. maybe try asking him to explain. let him know you dont quit understand. either way its prolly best to move on! it maybe hard but it happens. we dont always get what we want in life! it sucks but life goes on.
2006-12-12 00:24:05 · answer #9 · answered by pickelsnmustard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me that he is having issues being alone- family wise. Perhaps he is afraid to get close to you for fear that you will leave him alone also.
2006-12-12 00:24:44 · answer #10 · answered by melissakumai 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋