I been dating my boyfriend for 9 months and his ex just won't take no for an answer she keeps callin him makin him made and she used to call me and ask me did i still go with him but i told her not to call me anymore which she did.but she keeps messin with him.i'm thinkin I should fight her and get it over with which I don't want to do that which i will.I do not know her she started the whole problem.What should I do?
2006-12-11 16:10:43 · 12 answers · asked by thugmisses_229 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know boyfriends somehow become a part of us, however, this is his problem, not yours. Your job is to be there and listen to him gripe about this other girl irritating him. If I were you, I would tell my boyfriend to grow a pair and to put his foot down with this girl. She obviously has feelings for him, and obviously has some ounce of respect because she left you alone after you told her to. Don't fight her, it won't solve anything. If anything, it will create a larger problem.
Good luck! :)
2006-12-11 16:14:56 · answer #1 · answered by Sera B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I have had a lot of experience with this one. The best thing is just keep on keeping on. Don't let her get to you. If your BF don't want her back then he won't answer when she calls. If you see her out then just pay her no mind and continue on your business. My husband dated a girl for a total of three months before we met and for nearly three years she and her kids would call and knock down my mailbox do stupid stuff all the time. We changed our phone number three times on two years. But the kids wasn't his so I didn't feel that there was any need in letting it get to me. I just smiled and kept on keeping on. Now she has her life and we have ours and everything is a little better. Don't fight her it isn't worth it and it is only showing that she is getting to you.
2006-12-11 16:16:36 · answer #2 · answered by Feather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you are going through. My current partner is going through a horrible divorce and his soon to be ex is one of the most vicious individuals alive.
I kind of get her point since she cant or wont let go.
It seems, that you are in the same situation, in my case they have 3 adult kids together so they will be forever linked, this is the reality, if in your case your boyfriend do not have any children with his ex but she is still in the picture, you have to talk to him firmly and explain that it's not going to work for you, he needs to get rid of her even if it involves calling the police and getting a restraining order, since it seems she is making your life a living hell.
Absolutely do not get into any physical confrontation so you will end up in jail and she is not worth it. Do not stoop to her level.
Make sure your boyfriend deals with his past properly and cleanly so that you can have a good future together,
Good luck.
2006-12-11 16:19:16 · answer #3 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although fighting sounds her sounds like a lot of fun, i must say that she'd stop calling if your boyfriend would stop instigating her... as in if he gave her no time of day, she'd be gone already. The guy sounds to be unsure of what he wants, so maybe just put it to him straight, tell him that it's bothering you and see where it goes... if he cares for you, then he'll not give her the time of day... if he finds he's still rather talk to her, then you better find a guy that is sure of what he's doing...
2006-12-11 16:16:44 · answer #4 · answered by RHINOTECHIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about people like that. If you pay attention to her, she will feed off of it and keep doing stupid things like that. She is a hoodrat. You don't want to act like that. Your boyfriend needs to put a stop to that. Stand up fpr yourself. If he is letting this go on then it is disrespectful to you. Im sure he can change his number or sumthin! Don't put up with that mess and don't go fighting over no boy. Rediculous
2006-12-11 16:16:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your boyfriend you don't like her bothering him and that she should really just get the message that they're not getting back together. don't answer when she calls, don't reply to her emails or texts or anything like that, tell him that if he does the same it will make you feel a lot better. if she still doesn't leave you alone, you can look for other options. good luck.
2006-12-11 16:13:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i m abbas
its so easy 1st of all relax
n only thing u hav to thnk is what r ur MAN's weaknesses that'll b
the clue mak him enjoy the way he lykes giv him more than what is making him attracted towards her tak him into confidence by ur WORD POWER call him som nyt and luv him ALL n the CHILLIED in FOOD go NO where do give him BAD STATEMENTS or 2 about her EX n make him realyz her EX is doing nothing but USING him do remember to mail me at abbas.hh@gmail.com if ur prob solves
2006-12-11 16:25:09 · answer #7 · answered by AH Hamid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obsessive people can get pretty crazy, so you should avoid meeting her or fighting her. Make sure your boyfriend makes it clear to her that he is no longer interested. If your not in high school he can get a restraining order put on her.
2006-12-11 16:13:36 · answer #8 · answered by Katie T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend needs to stop letting her cause trouble. He should stop answering the phone when she calls and not respond to her when she tries to talk to him. She's still bothering you two because she knows you are listening to her. Stop letting her communicate with you and she will eventually stop because she will know its pointless.
2006-12-11 16:15:43 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her she looks pretty pathetic for hanging on like that. but i don't really see what good fighting her would do. it's kinda silly really. you shouldn't worry as long as your man doesn't want her back.
2006-12-11 16:13:21 · answer #10 · answered by Kristin G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋