I'm sure it has happned before. When girls like guys and then when the guys like them they lose interest.
Why is that?
At first I kind of came to the conclusion that maybe I was scared of being cared for... but i don't think so?
Is it really because we look for something more challenging?
I feel stuck up because there's this guy who likes me, and he's super sweet and stuff. I never led him on (i don't think i did) and i don't like him. At one point I did. But then it creeped me out when I found out he did.
Are we still on the same page?
Am i just a late bloomer?
But it happens with every guy I meet, even if they are cute. Will I ever get over this? Because I can never have a relationship without wanting a way out.
2006-12-11 16:07:19 · 12 answers · asked by pandora sin llama 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I really can relate to that... and I think its more common than you might think.
Fearing commitment is not uncommon for either gender. And always wanting a way out just in case provides some form of safety.
My ex (we were lived together for five years) was always preparing a way out each year. After three years I even noticed you had some sort of schedule - email if you want details, it might help.
Anyway. I don't know how old you are, but if you're young, maybe your not ready for a relationship and your subconscious is keeping you out of relationships.
First off - do you WANT a relationship?
I get the impression that you know that there is a lot of work in keeping one going. If you don't want one, then all is cool, right?
If you do want a relationship, you need to figure out why mutual attraction creeps you out. That is disturbing, especially as you mention it applying to every guy you meet.
And not to be invasive of your privacy - but do you feel any attraction towards girls? You may be biologically inclined to butter your bread on the other side...
That might explain the creeped out feeling - I've heard that from some close gay friends.
Final questions have you ever dated or been involved with someone before... I'm a bit confused by your last sentence.
I hope some of this helps... you sound a lot like my ex... Somehow I helped her out - five years with me, and now she's happily married with kids no less...
-dh
2006-12-11 16:20:03 · answer #1 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a big part of liking a guy is the challenge of getting them to like you. It seems like when they finally do end up liking you, the challenge is over and you move on, or you find out the guy just isnt exactly what you were in love with. Its not intentional, its just how it goes sometimes. You need to look for a guy that has things in common with you and shares same interests. That way when he does like you, you can enjoy the same things and still be interested.
2006-12-11 16:16:13 · answer #2 · answered by melissakumai 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG the same thing happens to me all the time,i think its the challenge because it'll be the cutest sweetest guys I'll flirt and then they'll want me to be their gf and I'll just lose interest,I'll just cut them off no contact whatsoever well i should say used to because I'm engaged now you'll grow out of it i did you'll really love a guy (like i did)he'll hurt you (thats what happened to me)and you'll just meet a really great guy (like i did)hopefully and get engaged(like i did) :) good luck (i hoped i help I'm a lil out of it) :)
2006-12-11 16:24:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
having an exit for a way out..!!.. in a relationship is always good..
being ..shy...and in a commitment with a guy is understandable..
and scarey at times when you think of it..that he might care for you..and be that super sweet..guy you think of...
Late bloomer ..maybe ..you will know when you are ready ..
Smile.!!.. relax .. one foot forward ..and see what happen..
2006-12-11 16:16:46 · answer #4 · answered by david 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. I've always liked every single male I see! I can't help it. I like them all! and never had this problem. A lot of people like the chase better than the boring relatoinship part. Its a lot more exciting to fall in love than to be in love.
2006-12-11 16:10:08 · answer #5 · answered by Cynthia W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find that this usually happens because humans want things that they can't have and once they have what they want, they get tired of it. You're normal. A lot of people are like this. You'll get over it with time. Maybe you aren't ready to committ.
2006-12-11 16:10:30 · answer #6 · answered by maggie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God, I'm the same way! When I know someone likes me it weirds me out and I become distant towards them even though I used to be friendly to them. I don't always necessarily like them, I'm usually just friends with them.
2006-12-11 16:10:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe you like someone and when you realize they like you back you dont' know what to do from there.
I think that you just want to admire from afar and don't realize what to do when they like you back.
And that's okay...it's normal. You'll know what to do eventually right? Just wait for the right moment.
(:
2006-12-11 16:09:42 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Q&A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! Sometimes I get the exact same way.
2006-12-11 16:14:53 · answer #9 · answered by Shayna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u are weird , i think i m weird too, because i m like that too. i don't know why.i like the guy more when i like him instead, and later i find out he like me,, i feel so weird and lost interest too. frist we just friends and i m very confrotable with him later i find out he like me,, i feel so uncomfortable with him.
2006-12-11 16:12:13 · answer #10 · answered by nicky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋